Prepare Yourselves!

[De La Soul]

How have I doubled my pick-ups in the last month without cosmetic surgery, a lottery win, or hypnosis? More to the point, how could you do this?

It's easy: be prepared. Prepare yourself to approach a woman in any situation, at any time, in any way.

I used to let at least 1 or 2 opportunities to approach every single day, simply because I was not prepared. I would see a babe walking across the street from me, I would think to myself - I wouldn't mind laying her out across my carpet, and I would keep walking. That same night in a bar, I would approach 2 or 3 women/groups of women no problem.

The crucial difference was, in a bar, you're prepared. The reason why you don't get a LOT of numbers in a bar, is because women are also prepared. They KNOW that they're going to get hit on by scores of devil-eyed men every night - the result? They put on their b*tch shields to filter out the junk, or block out everyone.

On the street you have an advantage: women are not prepared for an approach. How can you use this to your advantage? Approach them! PREPARE YOURSELF TO APPROACH WOMEN EVERYWHERE. Test her initial interest in you by smiling at her, if she smiles back - initiate a short conversation. Get her number and scoot.

So you can spend twice as much time and effort with women in bars or clubs who have their b*tch shields up, and are waiting to be approached. Or you can make things quicker, easier, and much more fun for yourself by being prepared to approach women in everyday situations.

You'll get results.

De La Soul

 

[SexPDX]

Originally posted by De La Soul:
I used to let at least 1 or 2 opportunities to approach every single day, simply because I was not prepared. I would see a babe walking across the street from me, I would think to myself - I wouldn't mind laying her out across my carpet, and I would keep walking. That same night in a bar, I would approach 2 or 3 women/groups of women no problem.

The crucial difference was, in a bar, you're prepared.

This was my deal for a long time. I would go to pick up places at pick up times where women always see it coming. Now that I do both that and PU in other venues, like De La says, I can say that the approaches done in non-PU venues are always much more interesting but I still can't seal the deal as well as in bars. However, that's probably just because I have more experience in bars. On the street or on the train, etc. I tend to have an okay conversation and a phone number and phone numbers suck, they are just too flakey. I like to have a tongue-down session or a fvck.

The problem here is when you get used to approaching in no place but bars you get yourself used to having the option of delaying your approach and that conditions you poorly for approaches in places like the street. That was a HUGE stumbling block for me when I first started on the street.

De La, your posts are getting good.

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- The performer known as Nick

[This message has been edited by SexPDX (edited 09-26-2002).]

 

[De La Soul]

Originally posted by SexPDX:
This was my deal for a long time. I would go to pick up places at pick up times where women always see it coming. Now that I do both that and PU in other venues, like De La says, I can say that the approaches done in non-PU venues are always much more interesting but I still can't seal the deal as well as in bars. However, that's probably just because I have more experience in bars.

Yep. In bars most men (myself included) feel more in their "natural PU environment". It's fun the first few times to get a number or feel like you're making a girl "conncect" with you, but after a while you realise that bars and clubs aren't the be-all-and-end-all; there are so many possibilities outside the realm of comfort!

On the street or on the train, etc. I tend to have an okay conversation and a phone number and phone numbers suck, they are just too flakey. I like to have a tongue-down session or a fvck.

I'm gonna have to agree: a fvck close, I feel, always shows a tad more interest level than a number close.

But when you're tonguing-down with a girl in a bar, I get the feeling I could be the fourth guy that she's been with that night.

Half the time they're drunk anyway. There's only so much fun you can have with meaningless conversations with drunk women in bars or clubs.

Get a "tongue-down session" with a street PU, and you kinda get the feeling that you've worked the situation pretty well, and she's into you BIG TIME.

The problem here is when you get used to approaching in no place but bars you get yourself used to having the option of delaying your approach and that conditions you poorly for approaches in places like the street.

Bingo. A street approach takes more commitment, daring, and skill. But they're also a lot more fun and a lot more rewarding, for me.

That was a HUGE stumbling block for me when I first started on the street.

Me too. But for anyone who is reading this now, it really is a lot of fun, and you'll notice yourself get a little smoother every time.

De La Soul