Precautions for dating "break" phase

[Paarth Shah]

Hello,

I got such good feedback from my original question, I thought I'd ask another. Shame I didn't discover this community earlier. Either case, I'm referring to Rollo Tomassi's description of a woman's "Break phase" from his Preventive medicine.

In the past 6 months, seems I've briefly dated two women in their break phase. Both of which came out of long term relationships, one is moving in July for a new job, and the other while not moving she is actively looking for new employment opportunities in different cities. Both women are 25-26.

I think I played my card well: Non needy, good text game, good date game, escalating quickly, etc.. However, I'm getting lots of mixed signals, frequent flaking on dates, etc.. I think both women are interesting enough to the point that I'd consider a LTR with them.

Is there something specific I need to know about dating girls in their "break phase"? Should I focus only on my alpha qualities and ditch the provider mentality? Are these women only looking for highest value for casual encounters? I usually target women in the 25-28 range (being 32 myself) and so I prefer to display qualities that attract to their alpha and security desires. Is that a mistake?

As always, help is appreciated.

Paarth

 

[wifehunter]

Who cares? Game is more art than science.

Do what you do.

 

[greatsnake]

Rebounds are what they are. Never take those seriously, just have fun while you’re at it.

 

[Alvafe]

the frequent flaking on dates is what makes me wonder, how many times you really go out with then?, after the first you should already be searching for more plates, hell you should already have more plates even before that, one is moving out and another just arrive, best bet you are a filler for both, you sure should have better things to do with your time

 

[Juanto]

ditch the provider mentality?

why would you have one?

 

[marmel75]

No it means you should date other women and not worry about them. This is very predictable behavious...they likely went back to their ex.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How can someone not reliable be a LTR candidate? I've done things backwards too. Worry about if your effin her first, a LTR prospect will be very reliable and very invested!

 

[Paarth Shah]

Ditch the “this one might be good for LTR” mentality and absolutely focus on your alpha qualities

I admit I’m not caught up on Rollos newer stuff but I’m willing to bet (and you can correct me if I’m wrong) that he probably advised or expressed something along the lines of women in their “break” phase being very very open to meeting new men and what they focus on is determined by how good or bad the years have been to them.

In other words, a girl who’s getting older but still hot enough to snag a provider will dump her broke alpha boyfriend who’s not going anywhere in life after years of fvcking him. Whereas a younger girl entering her prime and riding the carousel will have the attention span of a goldfish and give different alphas a go.

Of course, this is a general rule and the reality is much more fluid. You can absolutely meet past prime women that are still good looking and more than willing to have casual encounters with the right guy. We all need sex after all.

You’re also not a boy, and not a “natural” alpha, so there should be no issue signaling good provider qualities every now and then for any needed calibration.

TLDR; alpha isn’t something you can choose to turn on or off. Be alpha. Period. Calibrate when it’s in your favor only. All women will always be open to fvck an alpha if they can get away with it. Women on their break phase are shopping around if they don’t already have their eye on somebody. Just be cool, be pleasant, be fun and not too serious

So what you're suggesting is that the mindset should always be Alpha, utilizing alpha qualities for initial attraction and seduction. If I am willing to provide, I can always add a bit of provider mentality if the girl needs it?

 

[fastlife]

So what you're suggesting is that the mindset should always be Alpha, utilizing alpha qualities for initial attraction and seduction. If I am willing to provide, I can always add a bit of provider mentality if the girl needs it?

Downplay or hide any potential provider qualities until a girl is already invested, has consistently proven that investment, & only once she is starting to get slightly insecure about 'what are we doing?,' sprinkle a little on here & there as a reward for good behavior. And even then, make her work for it.

Think of it like a movie. You're telegraphing the ending in the opening season. What's the point of watching the whole thing? Or a video game. If you already have all your abilities unlocked from the tutorial, and you don't even have to try to breeze through more difficult enemies, would you likely play that game to completion? What keeps people watching long azz Netlfix series? Cliffhangers, twists, multiple threads, What will happen next week?

People value more highly the things they have to work for. They more highly value things that have strong emotions tied to them. People will talk about an epic comeback in a football game for years. A blowout? Yeah, the fans of the winning team might be glad they won, but it won't be the game they tell their grand kids about.