Potential psycho ex-BF

[Safari]

I kiss closed a girl I met at one of my band's shows this week. I also got a number and have already invited her to a friend's party. She's a dancer, so that's a DJ first for me. We hit it off great.

When I woke up the next morning, there was an anonymous threat directed to me on our band's guestbook, along the lines of "leave my woman alone or I'll come down and get you I swear."

Well, I hit a half-a-dozen women that night, so I wasn't sure who he meant! But I backtraced the IP and it's from her city.

She's divorced with a kid, but no mention of any BF.

I'm proceeding as planned. Since it's anonymous I figure he's a coward, but I'd like some input from you guys.

 

[2N Turbo]

Yup, I agree that they are just bsing. Hehe, I had some chicks ex pounding on her door while I was there. Open it up to see some AFC sitting on the ground crying. Didnt even look at me. LOL

 

[drZaius09]

Regardless of how you THINK this will pan-out, realize this: he is clearly unstable enough to even leave this message to begin with, therefore you cannot truly be sure of what this person is capable of.

She is divorced with a kid... can't you see that this woman is going to be trouble even without the nut-case ex-boyfriend?

You "hit" a half dozen girls that night? If you've got this many sheep, why are you chasing one down the wolves' den?

 

[Safari]

I disagree with drZaius

Leaving an anonymous threat on an internet guestbook and following up on it two hours away take two totally different people.

As for being a divorcee and a mom, this is not a plus, but not worth automatically ejecting over upon an otherwise great first meeting! She'll have to display some more serious red flags first.

If I knew nothing about a BF, then how was I supposed to know anything about wolves? I haven't even asked her about it yet.

I'm not going to be a wuss and turn down every woman just because she has a jealous ex.

 

[drZaius09]

I'm not going to be a wuss and turn down every woman just because she has a jealous ex.

Whatever, dude. It's becoming a disturbing trend lately for people to seek advice on this board and then listen only to the reassurances they want to hear. You would have never posted this in the first place if you didn't have doubts. But if this particular groupie is worth it to you, I wish you all the luck in the world.

 

[Safari]

"Whatever" = "I'm not smart enough to come up with an intelligent response, so I'll spit out a meaningless catchphrase."

Yes, I'm obviously that stupid that I can't look at both opinions on an issue and then make up my own mind. I just have an uncontrollable knee jerk reaction because I like or don't like an answer.

I've taken advice from this board that I didn't want to hear, but in this case I just considered it incorrect advice.

I don't have doubts because of him, I'm sharing my experience to see if anyone else could relate. HER potential red flags WILL create doubts. I haven't even been on a date yet with her!

She was working at this club, and would have been there whether or not we were. Most groupies don't fall into that category.

Like I said, I won't run away like a wuss every time a guy chooses to come between me and a girl. So, tell me, if I ever see you with your girl, should I assume she's available?

 

[Kwah]

I wouldnt worry to much about it, if he comes at you swinging or something of the sort that you need to stop him, just take him down so hard he is scared to ever come back.

Ziaus may have a point with the kid and divorce, but hey, who knows till you try right? Dont let the guy get to you, if he does make him regret it. nothing to it.


*Disclaimer: I was watching Goodfellas last night, take advice with grain of salt*