Potential Gf - worried about height difference

[tryst type]

This girl I've been talking to seems like she could potentially be gf material for me, usually I never think that and am quick to move on to the next. Not that I'm looking for a gf or putting her up on a pedestal but I've been a bit exhausted from jumping from girl to girl it'd be a nice break in routine if we became an "item"

Anyway, she's couple inches taller than me and likes to wear heels. I'm 5'4 she's 5'6. Our apparent height difference is blatant to one another but part of me worries any taller guy would instantly be more appealing to her down the road especially if she's standing next to me and could feel odd if she has heels on.

Any advice on how to not let this concern me?

 

[pdx1138]

ya, first see if you can get her interested in dating/seeing you first.

 

[tryst type]

ya, first see if you can get her interested in dating/seeing you first.

She is.

 

[Interceptor]

TT

That seemingly small, almost insignificant Piece of Insecurity could potentially be your entire downfall.

I think you should tread carefully.

Be careful of paying too much attention to your insecurities.

Try to take a moment and really meditate on what are YOUR Personal Strengths.

What do you think it is about YOU that you think she is attracted by?

What are the things that you are proud of about yourself?

She will continue to date you if you give her a space for her to be secure in her femeninity. And part of that is her wanting to wear high heels.
She wants to feel attractive, and this is part of how she dresses attractively for herself.
If you try to diminsh that, this is when some damage to the bond and relationship could start. What if she wears heels to appear more attractive to YOU? what if she pays extra attention to her appearance because she wants to Impress YOU?

Think less about how much you wish you were taller, and more about what are the things about yourself that are good and admirable.
What are THOSE traits and qualities?

You are going to have to do some meditation to really focus on the Positive areas to negate the Negative areas you might be dwelling on.

Being in the close intimacy of a woman in relationship will bring about light onto our insecurities.
So in order to work on counteracting that, you must do the things you are proud of and enjoy. And instead try to work on your trust of her that she knows what she's doing in being attracted to you.

Think more about YOUR attraction, desire, and possible LOVE for Her, than you feeling insecurity about your height WITH HER.
Im sure you dont feel too insecure about your height in other areas.
So try to strike a balance in your perspective on yourself.

Short or tall, if you have strong Masculine qualities, this will be strong in attracting women. Maintain, cultivate, and develop those.
Use your intellect on THOSE aspects, not on your insecurities.

Good luck.

 

[tryst type]

Thanks Interceptor, I agree with what you've said and I actually like a girl in heels even if it makes her taller.

I guess it has to do with my ex who was also 2 inches taller yet hated and always mentioned it. Became annoying and I guess it made me unconsciously aware of it now where as before it didn't phase me.

 

[backbreaker]

how can i put this..

you know how we talk about all the time you get girls in their 20's and they sometimes still are working off their dream man list? that type of girl might be stupid enough to mark you off for that but a girl who has been around the dating scene a while, has some real life experiences aren't going to, more times than not going to have that big of an issue.

my wife is 5'11 and a half flat footed w/no shoes on. with heel's she's well over 6'0. I'm 5'8 and a half flat footed. she's easily 3 inches taller than me and when she throws on heels and i'm wearing normal shoes it's more like 4-5 inches.

I mean, she cracks on my height from time to time if we are throwing jabs at each other playing around but seriously, it's not an issue. if anything i get on her more for being so ****ing tall than she gets on me for being so short. normal women aren't 6'0 lol.

lol that gives me hope my son won't be short.. hope. though he's pretty small so i don't know.

I guess i am trying to say dont' make it an issue. it's one of many things, you are older than she is, etc, that's just one of the differences between you. if she is like that, than there is nothing you can do about it anyway. she likes you man, she likes you for a reason,l just keep doing what you are doing

 

[vatoloco]

Any advice on how to not let this concern me?

Yeah. Get toned and get a shorter girl. No other way about it. It's wired into them.

Unless you're rich, famous or have a 12" cock.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1910832#post1910832

 

[tryst type]

Interesting, I just spoke to three girls on facebook that I've hung out with in the past who were all taller to me, basically asking why they never seemed to care that I was shorter and their answers pretty much were the same.

"I never really noticed" I pryed a little and one said it was because I was fun to be around and seemed comfortable with who I was.

That's helpful as I usually only hear about my height if its an issue to a girl.

 

[vatoloco]

Not trying to be a douche or put you down brother but, they all say the same shit. Look at their choices of long-term mates.

Will they fuck you if you're short? Sure! Sometimes girls just want to get their freak on. But for a good number of them, height has been wired to be one of their physical qualifiers in the men they are attracted to and fuck/date. Whether you and I like it or not. Just like I feel attraction (with an honest-to-goodness boner) when I get a pair of round titties and ass in my face.

Again, not trying to put down bro but Reality is Reality. Dude, I started going bald in my 20s. Once I accepted Reality, things got much easier. I learned to concentrate my time, money and effort on endeavors [women] that would be more likely to yield positive results [i.e., to make fucking/dating easier]

It is my advise for you to do the same.

Buuuut, you are the master of your own destiny and you're gonna do what you wanna do, man. Good luck to you, my friend.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tryst,
Two inches is not a lot,well not on your verticality anyhow LOL...You are not a midget,so don't get a complex over this...On my dancing scene,there is a couple,she is 5 Foot him 6foot three...They dance quite well together,if you can dance with that discrepancy you can do anything!

 

[st_99]

The way i look at height is the same way i might look at maybe hair loss, or a girl with a flat azz or a funny nose or whatever the fvck else.

The point is, sure, its not like you hit the genetic jackpot but it doesnt matter because perfect features are NOT what makes a girl fall in love with you, nor a guy fall in love with a girl believe it or not.

Its solid GAME! solid inner game (mental) solid outer game (taking action)

forget about your so called flaws, its meaningless

 

[backbreaker]

perfect is boring