Potential Fvck Buddy with Ex

[Zippapants]

So, my ex. She broke up with me little over a year ago. Took it hard initially, but the experience strengthened me. Been spinning plates and all that jazz, though college, work, and general self-improvement has kept me plenty busy. Anyway, we’ve chatted here and there since then, but usually just small talk at parties of mutual friends and such. Nothing too serious. Recently, she would text me to see how things were going in my neck of the woods. Our convos never lasted very long, but they had become somewhat frequent (from maybe once a month to one every other week or so).

Sunday night she texted me around 2:30 AM night from Atlantic City. She was staying the night with her girl friend and she asked me if I remembered the times we used to stay in AC and fvck all night. From her texts I could tell that she had been drinking, but she brought up the idea of us getting together for sex. She wanted me to come down to see her right then (I live in the Philly area), but seeing as how it was 3 AM, my car was in the shop, and I was tired as hell, that wasn’t happening. We kept talking and pretty much established that we would be down to get together and bang it out, probably at my room when I move back to college or just meet up somewhere (we both live with others and she’s weird about doing it around people).

My question now is how should I handle this from here? I know this girl pretty damn well, and I completely expected her to hit me up the next morning and “apologize for her behavior” like she usually would or something, but I haven’t heard anything from her since. Being as busy as I’ve been, having a potential fvck buddy in her could be pretty convenient these upcoming months, but it’s not anything I’d lose sleep over not having. Even though she was drunk, she never followed up with anything contradicting what we said. Should I just assume that it’s out there and hit her up when I’m in the mood or wait to see if she brings it up again?

 

[Sofomore]

As long as you are spinning plates and can stay detached, it is fine. I slept with my ex once a month for about a year after we broke up. Just stick to the once a month rule and don't EVER slip up. Also, make sure that you fvck her real good when you do see her. Lastly, she's going to he fed up with it eventually, or meet a new guy so be prepared to fully detach.

 

[Zippapants]

After last semester, I have 2 plates now with 1 more when I get back to campus (lives too far away for anything during the summer). Pretty chill girls, but I can tell they're all cruising for a relationship, which I'm not at the moment. Totally detached from my ex, so that's not an issue, but I'd totally sleep with her again.

I'm just not sure if I should take my convo with my ex seriously since she was drunk. Then again, I haven't heard anything from her saying otherwise.

 

[DonGorgon]

"She broke up with me" thats the problem...... exes only make good **** buddies when you have dumped them first and they are begging you to come back

 

[Zippapants]

Good point. No point in stressing over this. Whatever happens, happens.

 

[Sofomore]

Yea man, it only worked out for me because I broke up with her.

It's sh!tty to say, but because I broke up with her she kept a hope in the back of her mind that we could get back together. This let me take advantage of a FWB situation. I don't really see how it could work if she had dumped me/ had the upper hand unless I really improved myself and moved up the ranks.

 

[Zippapants]

That's probably why she's been hitting me up more recently, the self improvement. She's been saying how I seem so different and happy from when we were together and how she seems to have been talking about things we used to do together to other more often now (for instance, she'll say to me how she was talking to her friend about certain activities we would go out and do).

Frankly, it's felt like over the last few months she's been regretting things and has been trying to get back into my good graces. Unfortunately for her, I have a memory and still remember all of crap. I'd pump and dump, but I have a feeling that she would probably seek more.

Either way, the ball is in my court and I don't intend on her getting possession.

 

[Zippapants]

Small update. Going to spend this weekend chilling with my buddy before I go away next weekend. We're gonna be housesitting his boss's place, which is a nice, large isolated place in a high-end neighborhood. We were chatting about our plans and he told me we should invite some people we know over. Since my 2 plates are busy this weekend with family and school stuff, I figured screw it and hit up the ex to see if she wanted to meet up.

Long story short, she said she couldn't this weekend due to her mom coming home from the hospital and her teaching job she literally just got asked to fill in for starting Monday, so she has to make the curriculum. Told her if she wanted to take a break from killing herself (she's a workaholic and plans every little thing) to stop on by, as we'll be partying through the night.

Shows at the very least that she wasn't going to pull the drunk card as I thought she would, and potential for the future.

 

[pdx1138]

Right on.

Just keep your emotions in check as others have said.

I banged my ex a few times a month for a year after we broke up
(I called it off) then finally got bored of her and bolted.