Possible to 'speed up the process' with a 'nice girl'?

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

Alright, here's a situation I'm unsure as to how to handle:

Couple weeks ago, this girl (HB7.5) asked me out, i'd asked her out myself like 3 months before but she was seeing someone at the time, since then we've been on 3 'dates' (2 of these were study breaks ie breaks from studying, go get summat to eat etc, 1 was an evening date for couple of drinks) and all of these went well.
Yet the furthest i've got physically with her is a couple of brief kisses (like split second) on the lips.
Reason for this i'm sure isn't a lack of attraction (she asked me out, she initiates the further dates and i sense good IL anyway), its that shes what i'd call a 'nice girl', the sort who wants to take things slow (she actually said this herself, as well as 'I'm a hard nut to crack!' when we were talking jokingly about sex).

So how can i speed up the process?
I'm quite happy to keep seeing her for the time being but i also wanna fvck her, she isnt a potential LTR as we both finish uni in 6 weeks.

As I've already said, i don't reckon its an issue of attraction and i reckon i've gamed her pretty well so far.

Further point i should make is that she thinks i'm a player - she saw me with this bird like 2 days after i first asked her out. She asked me about it the other day, her words were 'i thought oh no, not another player'.

Opinions appreciated

Cheers

P.S. please don't say read bible/ do a search!! - did both, couldn't find anything that really fitted

 

[eoin2000]

"...i reckon i've gamed her pretty well so far..."

I reckon you have'nt.

"...the sort who wants to take things slow..."

The attraction you generate in this woman must be more than her conscious objections can withstand. She should have no real choice in the matter. 'Taking things slow' basically means 'im still dry, try harder'.

How is the physical contact coming along? Have you tried to stick your tounge in her gob? Patted her on the ass? Stroked the side of her face/arm/leg? You must take it to a physical level, but you must also generate the desire to get physical in her aswell.

-Hope this helps

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She knows what you want and she is in the driver seat at this point - just enjoy the ride...however, only go on romantic dates with her NOT lunch breaks or study sessions - isolate her and have some fun - girls like fun and if you have humor use it!!

When I make girls laugh they start taking off their clothes as a automatic response to my wit and humor - as they are laughing they start taking off the top first then proceed downwards - next thing you know they are completely naked and in this exuberant mindlessness they dont even realize they are naked until they feel a draft - it was damn near freezing outside!!

That is how powerful humor and wit can be!

 

[eoin2000]

"they dont even realize they were naked until they feel a draft "


:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

genious...

 

[Hellboy]

Originally posted by eoin2000

The attraction you generate in this woman must be more than her conscious objections can withstand. She should have no real choice in the matter. 'Taking things slow' basically means 'im still dry, try harder'.

Genius.

The girl I'm seeing at the moment percieved me as a player, and I had a similar situation to begin with. I was at her house for the first time, and nothing physical had happened not even a kiss. I spent hours teasing her, play fighting with her, and progressed to pinning her on the bed and nibbling her ears. She still wouldn't let me kiss her. At first she just turned her head away. I was like WTF but I didn't give up. Eventually she stopped turning away but she still wouldn't kiss me back. I even progressed to biting her nipples through her top and I could tell she was getting horny, but still no kisses.

Dunno if this is gonna help much but the thing that cracked it was this. She was telling me about this personalised horoscope thing she had made up for the exact time of her birth, and how closely it matched her personality. She asked if I would like to see it, adding it may take a good 15 minutes to read. By this time I'd been there hours and wasn't exactly sure of my progress. So I was like 'sure, let's see it.' As soon as the words were out of my mouth she jumped on me and stuck her tongue so far down my throat I nearly choked

I don't know how much help this is gonna be to you, but this chick was in no hurry to put out to a player. I guess that was her 'taking things slow'. The crunch was when she realised I had a genuine interest in her as a person. She aint no ho.

And now I'm having the best sex ever. :cheer:

 

[eoin2000]

Eee gads man! Agreeing to read a horoscope broke her? but biting yon nippies did'nt? Truly, a remarkable achievment. Well done.

I find myself suddenly more interested in horoscopes.....

 

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

Thanks for the advice guys

Made progress this evening, had a proper kiss with her, hadn't planned to see her, just bumped into her round campus.
But stopped to chat and made sure to implement some of the advice: stepped up the kino on her, made her laugh loads and it paid off.

That thing about the horoscope is a very valid point IMO, women don't like to think that you just see them as a piece of meat, it was a test to see if you were genuinely into her as a person. I can bet if you'd been like 'aww no, i int into horoscopes, lets just keep doing this' you wouldn't have got the same response, she'd have thought 'yep, this guys just after sex'.

Haven't arranged to see my bird again yet, though thinking for next date, i ought to get her round my place, be like 'why don't you come round tomorrow night, i'll cook you summat', reckon that'd be the ideal way to push things along a bit more, although i don't intend to be too pushy about it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by GodsGiftToFatBirds
Thanks for the advice guys

Made progress this evening, had a proper kiss with her,..., made her laugh loads and it paid off.

.... i ought to get her round my place, be like 'why don't you come round tomorrow night, i'll cook you summat', reckon that'd be the ideal way to push things along a bit more

Didn't I tell you humor is an aphrodisiac (sp?)!!!

Do not cook for her --- bad move ---- wrong move -- halt - stop -- don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

Didn't I tell you humor is an aphrodisiac (sp?)!!!
Do not cook for her --- bad move ---- wrong move -- halt - stop -- don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Haha, yeh mate

Whats your reason against the cooking idea though?

I can see how it could be seen as supplicating, but IMO thats all down to how the girl sees you - my personal opinion is that if the girl's into you and sees you as alpha, there's nothing wrong with it and it could work.

I haven't arranged it yet though, so you've got time to convince me otherwise!!

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Didn't I tell you humor is an aphrodisiac (sp?)!!!

I wouldn't go overboard with humour though. Once I got a girl laughing so hard she lost the mood, and the sex sucked.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Only if she cooks dinner first then it may be ok to return the favor - but men shouldn't offer too cook - especially when you barely know her. Plus she'll take you as a "new-age" man where men give up their power to women.

Do something a little more exciting - play miniture golf or something!

Diplomatic liar, yeah, if you joke too much then they get too comfortable with you and may not take you seriously!

Never joke with a girl when you have your clothes off --- thisi s serious business.

 

[eat_me]

for these "hard nuts to crack" i recommend a little thing i call GHB.. works miracles EVERYTIME!