Possible for a come back?

Lostwithoutacost

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Is it possible if a girl originally felt crazily attracted to u, but coz im was ******* stupid and waited too long, now i landed in the friend zone, but a close and good friend to her though. Is it in anyway possile that i can get out of this friend zone and make her feel the same way towards me again?
 

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just start kind of ignoring her but not totally. break the regular cycle you have with her. make her jealous if you can. dont pursue her, her back off and make space and act standoffish.
 

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depends what kind of girl you are dealing with. But if you are younger you kind of have too. Ive been through a lot sh#t and my success hasnt really always come from being straight pvssy whipped. Ignoring them and making them chase you usually works unless you really mess up you gotta kind of go after them.
 

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I am in the same boat as you right now, I feel as though i did not play the game to the fullest and my AFC'ness showed too much. I started off real good with her but I gave in sort of too soon. I feel like crap knowing that I could have possibly been the reason she has backed off. I sort of put in the back of my mind and just promise myself to not make the same mistake again.

I will also say that, she was definitely into me, we had fun. When she sort of backed off I just did not call her and have not had any contact with her in 1 month. I did however sign onto AOL today and saw her name online. I was not going to say one word to her because she backed off from me. Turns out she, within 2 mintues of me signing on, said "Hello Stranger" and we talked for 5 minutes.

I just kept it super casual conversation and didn't ask her to do anything. We will soon see how this turns out.

I think jigga is right. If you are ever gonna get her back to liking you, you have got to do a complete about face of what you were doing. But you can't just do it immediately. You have got to wait a while. I would suggest not talking to her at all for atleast a month, then ask her out on something wild and fun that can only be done in the summer, like Jet skiing or Rafting. That is what I am planning on doing in about a month from now and, if she declines and doesn't suggest an alternative. I am going to just put her totally out of my mind.

I know you are going to be so tempted to call her and try to fix the problem immediately (I thought about it 100 times) but trust me, be strong and resist the temptation, bite your tongue and keep telling yourself it will only push her further away from you

Hope this helps
 

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You guys and your games. Games get you nowhere, and if they do, is only in the short-term.

If the attraction was always there, it will always be there so long as you didn't turn her off, and sounds like you guys are friends. Is she seeing someone else?

Too many times guys that take themselves seriously (and with insecurities), beat themselves up over nothing. If wasn't too long, then you'd come back and say too quick. In other words, you're dammed if you do and dammed if you don't, but is all in your mind. If the girl likes you, it will always be there. It's just like when you see her, the same thing.

Many of you act (and i have in the past) like girlz are so fickle that one wrong move can throw the entire relationship right into the ground. It is true though to an extent, many superficial girls ARE like this. If they're flakey and attracted to you, then is just a matter of time before they flake, or string you in for attention.

Treat these girls like they're not selfish and are responsible and they'll run for the hills. That's how you weed them out. If you want to play games with an AW, then you'll be in a losing battle every time if you're not an *******.
 

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The situation

Here is this situation:

This girl i met for half a year now from a friend of a friend of mine. We mostly meet on msn, and when we talk we talked for hours, literally hours, and almost always with webcams on too so we see eachother. The first thing she does when she wakes up is msn with me, and probably won't leave until she has to go somehwere or has to sleep at night. Whenever she has free time, it's msn with me.

We go out usually once a week, just hanging out or for movies. But the problem is, when we hang out there's usually one of her friends there as well. You can't get that "Alone with Her" feeling. We admitted that we like eachother a lot about two months ago, but we still haven't gone on an official date. But when we hang out, even with her friends, she likes to be close to me, or maybe start some slight body contacts with me on the arms or legs, similar to kino, and i do the same back. But the problem is, she does that to some of her closest male friends as well that she've known for three years.

Just two weeks ago we watched kingdom of heaven, with one of her friends as well. She sat in the middle between her friend and i. I fought with her for the arm rest in the seat to increase tension, she gave up in frustrations and put her arm on top of mine instead to use it as the arm rest i took from her. During the middle of the movie she leaned her seat close to me, and i did the same until our heads r quite close, then she put her head on my shoulder. But her friend looked our way and she quickly sat up straight again, because she doesn't want her friends to know this attraction between us.

About her history now, she's those gentle, fun loving but also humerous type, don't like ****y guys. She had some very obsessive crushes though, she has crushes on guys easily. Some of her best friends r guys as well, so it's not abnormal being a guy and be her best friend.

Just yesterday on the phone, she told me that she likes me because im funny, nice and there's just something about me but she couldn't really explain it.

This fri we r suppose to be watching star wars without her friends, just us two, probably our first unofficial date. Because we didn't call it a date, but it's the first time we hang out without anyone else, just us two.

But then just now she told me some of her friends want to see it too, and they may come. I asked her, why would u want friends to come to our date. She said, it's not really a date though....

I said to her, then would u like this to be a date? She answered, not really. Then she explained how she doesnt really feel me as a potential bf now, but just a close or best friend. She hasn't felt like that to me for some time now. I asked her, then why did you put your head on my shoulder in the movie, she said because her head was tired, and my shoulder felt comfortable.

I asked her, then what about the stuff you said on the phone about me, that you like me a lot because im nice and funny and there's just something about me. She answered she didn't know what else to say so she lied a bit, she said she used to be crazy about me but then somehow the feeling is gone now. And now she only wants me as a cloes or best friend now, and she doesn't like me as a potential bf like before.

Ok, here's the situation, how r the chances of my come back?
 

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I'm in the same exact boat as you are

it's like you took the words otta my mouth

she told me that we'll be friends but we haven't talked in exactly a month

I'm over her but she's still on my mind at times

so you are gonna call your girl????

is that what I should do too???

call her and ask her to hang out????
 
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