I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
How many of you guys read books on pop psychology and communication?
Now I know it sounds eerily like self-help books (which don't work usually) but its a little bit different. Pop Psychology books show you how to be a better person indirectly by teaching you some neat tricks and clueing you in on human thought processes.
Some books I've found interesting and adaptable to everyday life and women are:
1. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
This books is great! It talks about the Weapons of Influence, those are things that people are preprogrammed to have an automatic response to. Of course this stuff isn't bulletproof and 100% but very close if done right!
It shows you how you can tap into these "prerecorded tapes" in the human brain to get what you want. Basically when people are presented with a certain type of stimulus the brain cues up the appropriate "response" tape. For example, everytime you are approached by a sales person at a store you cue up the sales person approach tape which tells you to say "no thanks, im just looking"
(which is an automatic response for many people. as a retail employee I have approached people by saying "hello sir, how are you?" only to have them respond "no thanks, im just looking")
The book essentially goes over 7 such "tapes" and how they can be used in various situations to exploit people into doing what the person using the tapes wants them to do.
Some of the things are obvious, some are more tricky, and it also gives insight on how to use even obvious principles more creativley.
One of my favorites is the Reciprocity princple, which states that when a person has a favor done for them they feel indebted and obligated to return such favor. The trick is that the favor doesn't always have to be solicited first, for example people feel obligated to mail out checks to charities that send them free address labels and then ask for donations (I know my parents have done this several times!)
You can probably apply this principle to women as well. What if you were to do them a favor unsolicited? Lets say a girl is working on a paper for school, you could send her a few good sources if you know anything about her topic, or maybe a girl mentioned she sometimes skipped breakfast - so why not next time you see her in class or school or whatever bring her a snack?
This, if done correctly and in moderation, could have some uses. After you bringing her a few snacks and helping her out on a paper, ask her if she'd do you a big favor and help you find a "new look"? Then ask her if she could go shopping with you for clothes (for YOU) and help you pick stuff out.
The unsolicited favors you did for her might prompt her to accept your offer (if she wasnt willing or you dont think she wouldve been willing before). Sure doesnt hurt to have someone's goodwill before asking though.
Now you got yourself pretty much a date. If you know what you're doing you'll probably want to keep her with you for a while while buying a few clothing items you wanted anyway (or you'll return later) and of course afterwards claim you're hungry and ask her to join you for a meal.
Well anyways, this book talks about a lot of common uses and some advanced ones for the "Weapons of Influence" that every person is pre-programmed with. Tapping into them could be a goldmine.
I highly recommend this book!
2. The 48 Laws of Power
This book goes over 48 laws that are supposed to make you more powerful. While designed for social situations and organizations (like political, military, etc.) the examples in this book are just inspiring - and not in the corny way you think.
The examples for each law in this book come from military strategists, famous wars, and a lot of con artists. That's right folks, this is the book that will teach and inspire you to make devious plans and strategies that play on the weaknesses of human psyche!
After about 1/2 way through this book I was just shocked at what kinds of things where popping into my head. It will help you come up with clever and devious strategies and ways to get what you want that you had no clue your brain was capable of thinking of before!
Ethical questions aside, the techniques and stories in this book will help you understand the human thought process and how we commonly sort through stimuli in a common way that is just ripe for the exploiting if you know what you're doing. This can be used for evil, but also for good so you'll understand the games other people play better as well.
Another must read!!!
3. Communicating Effectivley for Dummies
Don't make fun of the book just cause it comes from the For Dummies set! This book is full of stuff you learn in Communications 101 in college if you ever take it, plus some more.
It teaches you techniques for how to be more articulate, how to be a better listener, how to argue and settle disputes better and more peacefully, and how to handle all kinds of communication issues.
Being a more effective communicator, that is getting your ideas accross clearly and being able to disagree without being disagreeable, are not only great skills for business (at which the book is aimed) but also at personal relationships, including those with girls (or guys if you are a girl).
This is the 3rd must read. Practicing these techniques will make you a better communicator, and thus easier to "click with" during conversations and more mature in settling disputes in a relationship.
So what do you guys think?
You read any of these books?
I know that the self-help genre is mostly b.s., and these books are often classified with them although they really arent. To me self-help books are the ones with titles like "how to feel better about yourself" or crap like that.
These books are no nonesense books. What makes them good, especially the first two, is that they give you a window into the human thought process and how the human thought process could be manipulated to your willing if you know how to.
I don't want to overdeliver, so please be aware that just cause you read these books doesnt mean you'll be the next Ponzi (one of the most successful scam artists ever) or anything, but you will definitley gain something from it. And if you take it seriously enough and take the time to really read these books and let them digest a little you will be better off for it.
Now I know it sounds eerily like self-help books (which don't work usually) but its a little bit different. Pop Psychology books show you how to be a better person indirectly by teaching you some neat tricks and clueing you in on human thought processes.
Some books I've found interesting and adaptable to everyday life and women are:
1. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion
This books is great! It talks about the Weapons of Influence, those are things that people are preprogrammed to have an automatic response to. Of course this stuff isn't bulletproof and 100% but very close if done right!
It shows you how you can tap into these "prerecorded tapes" in the human brain to get what you want. Basically when people are presented with a certain type of stimulus the brain cues up the appropriate "response" tape. For example, everytime you are approached by a sales person at a store you cue up the sales person approach tape which tells you to say "no thanks, im just looking"
(which is an automatic response for many people. as a retail employee I have approached people by saying "hello sir, how are you?" only to have them respond "no thanks, im just looking")
The book essentially goes over 7 such "tapes" and how they can be used in various situations to exploit people into doing what the person using the tapes wants them to do.
Some of the things are obvious, some are more tricky, and it also gives insight on how to use even obvious principles more creativley.
One of my favorites is the Reciprocity princple, which states that when a person has a favor done for them they feel indebted and obligated to return such favor. The trick is that the favor doesn't always have to be solicited first, for example people feel obligated to mail out checks to charities that send them free address labels and then ask for donations (I know my parents have done this several times!)
You can probably apply this principle to women as well. What if you were to do them a favor unsolicited? Lets say a girl is working on a paper for school, you could send her a few good sources if you know anything about her topic, or maybe a girl mentioned she sometimes skipped breakfast - so why not next time you see her in class or school or whatever bring her a snack?
This, if done correctly and in moderation, could have some uses. After you bringing her a few snacks and helping her out on a paper, ask her if she'd do you a big favor and help you find a "new look"? Then ask her if she could go shopping with you for clothes (for YOU) and help you pick stuff out.
The unsolicited favors you did for her might prompt her to accept your offer (if she wasnt willing or you dont think she wouldve been willing before). Sure doesnt hurt to have someone's goodwill before asking though.
Now you got yourself pretty much a date. If you know what you're doing you'll probably want to keep her with you for a while while buying a few clothing items you wanted anyway (or you'll return later) and of course afterwards claim you're hungry and ask her to join you for a meal.
Well anyways, this book talks about a lot of common uses and some advanced ones for the "Weapons of Influence" that every person is pre-programmed with. Tapping into them could be a goldmine.
I highly recommend this book!
2. The 48 Laws of Power
This book goes over 48 laws that are supposed to make you more powerful. While designed for social situations and organizations (like political, military, etc.) the examples in this book are just inspiring - and not in the corny way you think.
The examples for each law in this book come from military strategists, famous wars, and a lot of con artists. That's right folks, this is the book that will teach and inspire you to make devious plans and strategies that play on the weaknesses of human psyche!
After about 1/2 way through this book I was just shocked at what kinds of things where popping into my head. It will help you come up with clever and devious strategies and ways to get what you want that you had no clue your brain was capable of thinking of before!
Ethical questions aside, the techniques and stories in this book will help you understand the human thought process and how we commonly sort through stimuli in a common way that is just ripe for the exploiting if you know what you're doing. This can be used for evil, but also for good so you'll understand the games other people play better as well.
Another must read!!!
3. Communicating Effectivley for Dummies
Don't make fun of the book just cause it comes from the For Dummies set! This book is full of stuff you learn in Communications 101 in college if you ever take it, plus some more.
It teaches you techniques for how to be more articulate, how to be a better listener, how to argue and settle disputes better and more peacefully, and how to handle all kinds of communication issues.
Being a more effective communicator, that is getting your ideas accross clearly and being able to disagree without being disagreeable, are not only great skills for business (at which the book is aimed) but also at personal relationships, including those with girls (or guys if you are a girl).
This is the 3rd must read. Practicing these techniques will make you a better communicator, and thus easier to "click with" during conversations and more mature in settling disputes in a relationship.
So what do you guys think?
You read any of these books?
I know that the self-help genre is mostly b.s., and these books are often classified with them although they really arent. To me self-help books are the ones with titles like "how to feel better about yourself" or crap like that.
These books are no nonesense books. What makes them good, especially the first two, is that they give you a window into the human thought process and how the human thought process could be manipulated to your willing if you know how to.
I don't want to overdeliver, so please be aware that just cause you read these books doesnt mean you'll be the next Ponzi (one of the most successful scam artists ever) or anything, but you will definitley gain something from it. And if you take it seriously enough and take the time to really read these books and let them digest a little you will be better off for it.
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