Pontional long distance relationship

[Exodus13]

Hey, a little background before I post my problem.

I am a senior in a very small highschool (13 kids in the entire school) and this year everything has come togather very nicely thanks to this site which I have been lurking around ever since this girl put me in the friendzone. So with the help this site I was able to bag this hot piece of ass, who is now my girl friend(freshmen by the way)of about 2 months and we are getting pretty serious.

Now here is my problem after some unforntue incidents at the school and in her home life. Her paranets are getting pretty strict about things like having no life and only up in till recently only able to see me(they think I am a good influnce cuz I don't do drugs or drink that much and able to hide my sh*t). She aslo lives an hour away so school is the only real time get, in till I get my car which will be in like 2 weeks.

So as one thing lead to another her paranets are thinking of pulling her out of the school and maybe putting her in to a bordering school. She aslo thinks this is a good idea she feels there will be less distractions there so that she can get her sh*t to get togather she said once she has done that she will come back. Now she wants the ok from me cuz shes really in to me. Also may I add every where she goes guys are hitting on her and I got to beat them off usally I igrone them and just make them stand there or if they really persit my girl blows them out. So my question to great guys on this form is should I give the ok on this bordering school thing? do you think a long distance will work when she is constantly having guys trying to get in her pants especially if thier are guys there at the bordering school? And please dont tell me what I want to hear.

Thanks in advance.

 

[eaglez1177]

Hey, a little background before I post my problem.

I am a senior in a very small highschool (13 kids in the entire school) and this year everything has come togather very nicely thanks to this site which I have been lurking around ever since this girl put me in the friendzone. So with the help this site I was able to bag this hot piece of ass, who is now my girl friend(freshmen by the way)of about 2 months and we are getting pretty serious.

Now here is my problem after some unforntue incidents at the school and in her home life. Her paranets are getting pretty strict about things like having no life and only up in till recently only able to see me(they think I am a good influnce cuz I don't do drugs or drink that much and able to hide my sh*t). She aslo lives an hour away so school is the only real time get, in till I get my car which will be in like 2 weeks.

So as one thing lead to another her paranets are thinking of pulling her out of the school and maybe putting her in to a bordering school. She aslo thinks this is a good idea she feels there will be less distractions there so that she can get her sh*t to get togather she said once she has done that she will come back. Now she wants the ok from me cuz shes really in to me. Also may I add every where she goes guys are hitting on her and I got to beat them off usally I igrone them and just make them stand there or if they really persit my girl blows them out. So my question to great guys on this form is should I give the ok on this bordering school thing? do you think a long distance will work when she is constantly having guys trying to get in her pants especially if thier are guys there at the bordering school? And please dont tell me what I want to hear.

Thanks in advance.

1. First off, you need to fix your grammar. Bad grammar will just annoy people.

2. Ill say this again, long distance relationships NEVER work. They just dont. I mean the fact that shes an hour away is stretching it, but then again you do see her in school so its technically not a real long distance relationship. (thus meaning that things are fine now). BUT, if she does move to a different boarding school, dont expect things to work out, cuz they just wont. She'll eventually find some guy she likes, and will just make you her emotional-ego booster back at home that she keeps on the side.

3. Now look at what I bolded. To sum that up, YOUR girlfriend thinks it is a GOOD idea to get even farther away from YOU. Look at what that says about your current relationship with her. Not good. That in itself should be a clear indicator that even now things are not going to work out at all. What she's really saying with that statement is this: I think this is a good idea because I want something different and want change (aka I want different guys), and as im having fun with other guys i'll keep you on the side back at home (which is why she said "i'll come back" cuz she wants to keep you around (aka play you) while shes getting with other guys).

4. As for "giving the ok on the boarding school" thing, that is not up to you at all. Her parents are in control of that, NOT you. The reason why she wants the "ok" from you (aka, acceptance of her terms) is because she wants to make sure that she still has a good hold on you before she goes away, so that if she ever does see you again, you'll be the AFC still waiting around for her.

5. I recommend you DO NOT give her the ok. You go to her and tell her something along the lines of this: "I completely understand how you have to get your things back in order, but im not going to accept having a girlfriend I never see."

 

[Rez]

Go with your gut on this one. Yes, long distance relationships can work very well but that all depends on the two people involved. These require a lot of work, time, and patience so if you think the two of you are up to this then go for it. Just make sure you talk to her and that both of you decide on something together.

The foundation of every relationship is honesty, trust, and respect. If you feel at any point that either of these components are being compromised then I highly recommend you nip the problem in the butt. Have you slept with her yet? Given that you're a senior and she's a freshman there may be some age discrepancy laws in your area prohibiting you from doing so (i.e. 18 or younger).

If you haven't slept with her by now then she really has no strong emotional connection to you. This doesn't mean you should go forcing her into sex. No. All this means is that your relationship is nowhere near being labeled as "serious" until the two of you have had sex.

Anyway, don't talk to her on the phone about the current situation. Be sure to do this all in person in a comfortable, non-threatening environment. Let her know that you're here to listen to her part and that you would like to tell her yours as well.

I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Ice882]

what eaglez said. Seriously.

 

[eaglez1177]

And Ice I like your siggy by the way

 

[Ice882]

And Ice I like your siggy by the way

thanks bro, yours is legit too.

 

[YogurtSlinger]

1. First off, you need to fix your grammar. Bad grammar will just annoy people.

Don't forget spelling. Maybe you should worry less about the other 12 kids and more about english class...

Also, since you don't want to be told what you want to hear, I'll tell you the truth...

It is really no business of yours to make a decision for her. She is probably 14 years old and her PARENTS are the people in charge of her life. Not her, not you. If they are getting strict about seeing you and want to pull her out of your school, maybe they don't feel comfortable with you like you think they are.

I won't even go into the fact that you are 17 or 18 and she is 14 and neither one of you has a clue what life is about and definitely don't have a clue about what you want. Guess what? At that age, yalls parents are still the boss of your lives.