You have to be happy, and complete WITHOUT a woman, making it day by day, finding your "niche" as far as a career, school, the whole 9 yards. Lets take "Stan" as an example. "Stan" is a guy in his mid thirties, average guy, likes the NFL, the NBA, ect. Has a nice car, little pad, and is currently going for his RN. IF he makes it, he can get a job anywhere in the country, and in a respected field. Right now he is taking classes and clinicals, working part time at a restaurant as a bartender to make bills/ends meet. when he has time, he hits the town with his buddies, both make and female. He is a busy guy, between his studying, his job, workouts, and school, and a little social life on the weekends. Still, it can tend to get a bit lonely on those long winter nights, spent alone, hugging his pillow, wishing it were a naked woman who wanted him.
Say, on an average Friday night, he meets "Cassie" a friend of a friend. There is some chemistry, they land up at her place, a little making out, and he leaves. Then, a few weeks later, they meet up again, at a night time establishment where she is getting hit on by other guys, but she sees "Stan" and is delighted. They kiss and dance and even though they dont go home together, it is inevitable that it is going to go down. A night later, after some wine, and romantic music, it does. And it was good, for both of them. But right now, Stan does not have time for a relationship, he is trying to get this RN career off the ground, there is three TOUGH months of studying ahead, and he is simply too busy with work and school to spend 7 days a week with this woman, and vice versa, "Cassie" has a life too.
Still, a bottle of fine wine is a bit much, but a glass with dinner is wonderful. They see each other about once a week, sometimes "Booty Call" sometimes an actual date.....she has needs and so does he, and together, with the help of Mr. Trojan, they fullfill each other's needs.
Cassie at this point, ENHANCES Stan's life, but ISNT his whole life. And thats as it should be.
