POF and being positively referred to as nice - How to respond?

[rocket87]

Hey guys.

I'll make this quick.

I've supplemented POF into my "game" (LOL, never thought I'd say that, but I've never done it before and I had to try it after seeing some of the girls on there).

I am actually kinda impressed with the response rate of the babes in my area. It's about 30% (!!). I took the strategy of just being straight up, displaying somewhat (not too much) high value, and posting some good pictures of me, me w/ other girls, me w/ family, etc.

I'm not a d!ck when I first message these girls. I engage them straight on and generally ask 1-2 questions about something they mentioned in their profile. I always include a very subtle, indirect compliment.

Anyway, here's the interesting thing. Nearly every single girl that I get a serious & long response from, one of the first things they say is:

You seem nice so I would love to hear back from you.

Another one this morning was I am so sorry I took so long to respond, (a whopping 2 days..) I am on vacation right now and you seem like one of the nice guys so I hope to talk to you soon!!

Nice has pwned me in the past and it's not a part of my personality; it's not a word I like being described as, BUT it is a total "compliment" in the online realm because it gets a genuine response from the ladies.

So far I've just ignored the fact that they referred to me as "nice" (hasn't caused any issues and I just continue talking to them about life + a little added humor). Do you guys have any suggestions on how to interpret this and/or any silly ways to respond to it?

- I'm assuming a lot of the guys on there are dysfunctional @ssholes who can't meet women in real life due to their ridiculous personalities; leading to their need of being on a dating website. But that's just an assumption.

 

[Nikoli]

Don't forget that online girls will get ALOT of messages from very creepy guys suggesting very lurid and gross things so being "Nice" in an online environment is different from the Nice guy disease you may might run into other dating arenas.

Maybe add a little edge to the reply email showing your more adventurous and mysterious side but still keeping them on the hook. Wouldn't let the words Nice bug you until she's shutting you down for being "too nice".

 

[Iceberg]

You're worrying about the word "nice" too much.

As the other poster said, it's not being used in the context that you should be concerned with. Especially considering that these women don't know you.

It's not like they're calling you nice because you always agree with them, pay for everything, and take them grocery shopping. They're calling you nice because they're trying to initiate a conversation with you and want to leave a positive impression.

Totally different.

 

[Poonani Maker]

You should care less about being called "nice" and more about your mission, to move from screen to in-person which means setting a time and a place and ultimately obtaining her #. POF is like your/her business card. Until you meet, nothing's gonna happen.

 

[Blusher]

It's difficult to know exactly what they mean by nice as it is kind of a vanilla flavored compliment, so generic it could mean a lot of things. What it does mean however is that they consider you as a decent individual. Decent yet attractive judging from their willingness to stay in touch with you.

So no problem right?

it's not a word I like being described

Maybe it's time to recognize that the myth of the thug who gets all the girl while the nice guy stay alone, single and desperate is nothing more than that: a myth. For the most part, women are looking for 'nice' yet exciting guys. They don't ghet out of their way to find bikers and gangsters like so many men seem to believe. What they DO look for in a man is someone that can take the lead, show initiative and have character. If you have all of the above, and more, you're good to go on dates with these women.

Enjoy.

But really guys, stop feeling like your masculinity is under attack everytime someone doesn't refer to you as : threatening, dominant, tough or violent. There's a lot more to being a man and certainly a lot more to being the man women want.

It's only when they're too shy to market themselves and/or too wrapped up in Walt Disney Fairytale's thinking that things start sucking big time for 'nice' guys.

 

[Blusher]

You should care less about being called "nice" and more about your mission, to move from screen to in-person which means setting a time and a place and ultimately obtaining her #. POF is like your/her business card. Until you meet, nothing's gonna happen.

True words. Any means of communication for that matters is initially just a way to arrange the logistics of the next IRL encounter. period.

 

[Nikoli]

A little off topic but a bit of advice i've learnt from POF: When initially chatting these girls up try you best to get her phone number as soon as you possibly can in the natural flow of things. I find a lot of girls get burnt out from the online thing quickly (due to the mass of messages they recieve from the not so nice guys) and delete there account without warning. Nothing worse then logging in hoping to find a message from that latest hottie only to find her account deleted.

Also if you move to phone/text game it gives less of an "online" feel to things and feels more like a natural pick up situation. Plus you want that little icon to go away as quickly as possible that tells her you're online. Once you get two or three dates in with a chick and you see that each other are online quite a bit it tends to ruin the mystery and the progress of the interaction and acts as a bit of a turn off imo. I wish POF had a hide feature!

 

[Poonani Maker]

One young'un calls herself "Bladergirl" as in she rollerblades etc. I just msg'd, "Do you have a bladder problem??" She's 20, I'd fvck her even though she's chubby and not that great in the face.

 

[Poonani Maker]

It's funny how I'll msg girls with witty, funny, sometimes insulting stuff, and get no response, yet if I just simply say, "hello" she'll say, "Hi back " Then I'll say, "what are you doing today?" realizing that she lives closeby me. We'll see..

 

[Poonani Maker]

msg'd a chubby girl who's an artist (has a portrait of herself) - looks like she'd be pretty hot if she lost 40-60 lbs. I msg, "Could you draw a portrait of me?" She responds, "Sure " to which I say, "How much will you pay me?"

On the "see who wants to meet you feature" it's 80% "a few extra pounds" girls..Do ANY thin hot ones ever click "Yes" that they'd want to meet you?? I'm not bad looking at all, I only seem to get fatties who venture out on the line and click "yes." 6 or 7s and above hardly ever click on that they'd want to meet me; therefore, I have to go out of my way to msg the hot ones first ALWAYS. Do you find the same happenstance? It's like a closing up or cementing over of THE NEED for a hot one to go outta her way once she becomes just marginally hot. It's like her mind gets swallowed up in self pride (from all these offers day in and day out) that she wouldn't even Consider 80% of males, unless said male in the category of looks she wouldn't consider goes way out of his way like 50% of all males do to get her # and charm, buy sh!t for her, date, and then Fvck her.

 

[rocket87]

It's funny how I'll msg girls with witty, funny, sometimes insulting stuff, and get no response, yet if I just simply say, "hello" she'll say, "Hi back " Then I'll say, "what are you doing today?" realizing that she lives closeby me. We'll see..

Yeah it's so up in the air. You never know what's going to work on the girl.

I find it pretty awesome though that girls will totally divulge their "first date" preferences. You can totally gear a date towards something that they'll love/feel comfortable with.

Imagine if we had that power in real life interactions without having to ask directly haha.



I don't know how you even consider the fatties. I tried to slave myself off to a girl that was maybe 15-20lbs overweight once last year, and I couldn't even get it up. I was seriously completely limp. I was completely disgusted by her. My standards are way too high for that sh!t, but more power to you. Someone's gotta take care of them, eh?

Some of the ones I've been chatting with, I'll update if it goes anywhere:

A:
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/55/zs33xdefq3_121925959.jpg
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/45/zp3qhyjnfm_124330466-2.jpg

B:
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/22/icwezp45bx_123894439-2.jpg
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/92/haz0deaq0g_124053226-2.jpg

C:
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/25/blszqdfp1m_123626194-2.jpg

D:
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/17/gm0y3r55la_126615915-2.jpg
http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/78/24/h0y5e555ac_126615869-2.jpg


If I don't get somewhere with these girls in the next week or so I'm not going to waste any more time on it but if it does then it'll be well worth it. lolz.

rocket

 

[Poonani Maker]

damn, ain't none of the ones I'm msging that young and hot, but I Have fvcked ones that tiny and hot as soon as this february. Of course, she was a single mom, but still perfect as5 and pvss, decent t!ts..she didn't know her value to be with a guy my age. The ones that know their value like the ones you posted would probably be very difficult to fvck, but you never know, but since they're probably without children and never married, then they'd be harder. I Have fvcked their sisters who've got slightly more messed up lives, but same body and really just as good.