Please Help!!! Recovering Afc In Need

[The Boat]

Hey guys I can really use your help. I was seeing this girl for about a month. During this time I would go out with her and actually be alone with her; but never had the balls to kiss her. Well after that month, she finally got sick of me being a ***** and found someone else. Since then I’ve been so pissed off at myself and decided to make some changes (this is what lead me to the community).
Now for my problem, for the past three weeks I’ve seen this girl out at the bar and have acted like her seeing this other guys was not a problem for me and that I’m cool with it and do not need her; but while still treating her as I’d treat anyone else. I’m totally ready to move on without her and I know that it isn’t good for my development to try to reinitiate this; but last night she sent me this message.

"i'm really sorry if i lead you on...ok i'm drunk but i need the alcohol to tell you all of this...you're a really great guy...you're so nice and just awesome...but i know what i feel and i feel really bad if i lead you on...i wanted something to work but i'm not right for you...you're just too good for me. i hope we can still be friends cuz i'd really like to hang out with you and play chess and risk with you. i'm really sorry how all of this turned out...you have no idea...i hope you have a good break and an awesome holiday."

Its been three weeks, and I just don’t what her purpose was for sending this. I’ve set it up so that she could just move on with her life and we’d be cool. Does anyone have any idea what she is try to accomplish or what I should write back incase I want another shot. Please help!!!

 

[jdawgmcb]

What you need to do is completely revamp your image, get some nice clothes, preferably banana republic, armani exchange, etc.

Have you read the DJ bible, Mystery Method, Venusian arts, etc? Do as much studying as you can to find good openers.

Get a good cologne, i recommend Hypnose Homme, it has a great smell and isn't too much, Very Sexy by victoria's secret also works very well.

You have one-itis, you should never worry about one girl and let her control your life. Go for a night of sarging with the new pick up techniques you learn.

Remember, the worst that can happen is that you get rejected...if you view rejection as a bad thing, you're still an AFC. Rejection just means that you did something wrong and need to analyze the situation. Find your sticking point, and correct it.

Also, start going to the gym and getting a good, tone body, it's good for creating instant attraction. I HIGHLY recommend peacocking to open sets.

Good luck to you, I just recently got out of AFC/RAFC land, and i must say, that it was worth every second that i invested into it.

 

[The Boat]

Hey thanks a lot; I've been working on all those areas of my life. And it is definitly making a difference.
here is what I wrote back to the girl...for any body who is reading this, is this still being a *****... or should I have not even wrote anything back.

"No need to apologize, you’re a smart girl and you know what you want… so go for it. I don’t hold any animosity towards you what’s so ever. And the way that I see it is that we both had a fun time together but in the end we lacked something that held us from coming together. If we would have met at different points in our lives; who knows something could have worked. But, I’m actually happy; the situation has lead me recognize a few of my faults and I’m working on them. I hope you have an awesome break and when I do see you out don’t ever feel uncomfortable around me; you’re a nice girl and again I am not upset."

thanks inadvance guys

 

[Bible_Belt]

i'm really sorry if i lead you on...ok i'm drunk but i need the alcohol to tell you all of this...you're a really great guy...you're so nice and just awesome...but i know what i feel and i feel really bad if i lead you on...i wanted something to work but i'm not right for you...you're just too good for me. i hope we can still be friends cuz i'd really like to hang out with you and play chess and risk with you. i'm really sorry how all of this turned out...you have no idea...i hope you have a good break and an awesome holiday.


My friend, this is the worst failure you can ever have with a woman. My advice is to structure all of your future interactions so that this never happens again. Failure is fine, but failing because you are Mr Nice Guy is not ok.

Don't ever go out with a girl without kissing her...ever. Learn the kiss test, stroke her hair, gaze into her eyes, and lay one on her. If she turns her head, then don't call her again. Then you can get to a better girl right away without wasting your time.

Everything you posted here: your dates, her text, your reply - all of it is one abysmal failure. This girl is history. Start over the right way with a new girl. When you stop being Mr Nice Guy, you will be much better off. Good luck.

 

[The Boat]

thank you BIBLE BELT, I needed the wake up call and definitly still need to work on a lot of ****

 

[Interceptor]

Boat, as of right now, you have zero chance with this girl.

You must have come across as insecure, asexual, and unmasculine.


You need to read the Book of Pook,

You need to look up Dr. Paul Dobransky.

Also look up anything by
David Deangelo
Real Social Dynamics
Zan Perrion
Wayne '"juggler" Elise
Michael W The Dating Wizard

You need to reconnect with your Masculinity.
You need to understand your sexuality and sexual desires.
You need to understand that women are not attracted to NICE GUYS.
Especially those who do them favors, buy them gifts, flowers, cards, etc.

You need to understand that women are not attracted to Men whom don't have standards. Whom don't know what they want. Whom are uncomfortable with their sexuality,. And are uncomfortable looking at women as SEXUAL BEINGS.


Women can only loosen themselves up when they see you are comfortable with your body, your own sexuality and sexual desires, and perceive women in a sexual manner.


Women are turned off by men who are insecure and lack confidence in themselves.

Women do not develeop Sexuial Attraction for guys that do them favors or buy them things.

Women are not attracted to Men who are TOO ACCOMODATING.

Women are not attracted to Men who try execessively to make the women more comnfortable, and to be non threatening to them.

Women start to wonder why you come across as so nice, non threatening, and too accomodating.

Woomen need to have some sort of sexual tension to see you with even more passion.


Women are uptight when you are uptight.

THEY DON"T want to HAVE to make you "RELAX".



Women are not comfortble opening themselves up to you when YOU ARE HIDING things from them.

Women are sexual beings, and they are only attracted and INTERESTED inMasculine Men who can LEAD a WOMna to Sexual Pleasure.

WOmen often have more sexual thought s than men. IN order for them to not feel slvtty, they look for men who are as sexual or MORE sexual than they are!

How can you expect a womna to build an intimate sexual relationship with you when you are demonstrating to her the very opposite of what she wants??!


Read the DJ BIble.

Read the Book of Pook.

Look up those names I listed for you.

And go to the Archives section and the DJ Tips section and start reading and getting your mind RE WIRED for this.

Now, as for this woman. She has deterined your a Nice GUy, and has LJBFed you.

DO not try to pursue romantically this woman.
BUT DO re connect with your Sexuality and your MASCULINITY.
This is YOUR MISSION now.

You will change the way you look. The way you think. and your ATTITUDE about yourself and WOMEN especially.


Good luck.

 

[The Boat]

thank you you have nailed me to the "T"; I'm going to do all of the

 

[Maxfarsigth]

Boat, as of right now, you have zero chance with this girl.

You must have come across as insecure, asexual, and unmasculine.


You need to read the Book of Pook,

You need to look up Dr. Paul Dobransky.

Also look up anything by
David Deangelo
Real Social Dynamics
Zan Perrion
Wayne '"juggler" Elise
Michael W The Dating Wizard

You need to reconnect with your Masculinity.
You need to understand your sexuality and sexual desires.
You need to understand that women are not attracted to NICE GUYS.
Especially those who do them favors, buy them gifts, flowers, cards, etc.

You need to understand that women are not attracted to Men whom don't have standards. Whom don't know what they want. Whom are uncomfortable with their sexuality,. And are uncomfortable looking at women as SEXUAL BEINGS.


Women can only loosen themselves up when they see you are comfortable with your body, your own sexuality and sexual desires, and perceive women in a sexual manner.


Women are turned off by men who are insecure and lack confidence in themselves.

Women do not develeop Sexuial Attraction for guys that do them favors or buy them things.

Women are not attracted to Men who are TOO ACCOMODATING.

Women are not attracted to Men who try execessively to make the women more comnfortable, and to be non threatening to them.

Women start to wonder why you come across as so nice, non threatening, and too accomodating.

Woomen need to have some sort of sexual tension to see you with even more passion.


Women are uptight when you are uptight.

THEY DON"T want to HAVE to make you "RELAX".



Women are not comfortble opening themselves up to you when YOU ARE HIDING things from them.

Women are sexual beings, and they are only attracted and INTERESTED inMasculine Men who can LEAD a WOMna to Sexual Pleasure.

WOmen often have more sexual thought s than men. IN order for them to not feel slvtty, they look for men who are as sexual or MORE sexual than they are!

How can you expect a womna to build an intimate sexual relationship with you when you are demonstrating to her the very opposite of what she wants??!


Read the DJ BIble.

Read the Book of Pook.

Look up those names I listed for you.

And go to the Archives section and the DJ Tips section and start reading and getting your mind RE WIRED for this.

Now, as for this woman. She has deterined your a Nice GUy, and has LJBFed you.

DO not try to pursue romantically this woman.
BUT DO re connect with your Sexuality and your MASCULINITY.
This is YOUR MISSION now.

You will change the way you look. The way you think. and your ATTITUDE about yourself and WOMEN especially.


Good luck.

Every new guy in here should really listen to this.
This is pure gold for those who are just like i was a couple of months ago.
(hah!, wish i had read something like this a couple of months ago)
In a single phrase its just like pook says (i think): embrace your sexuality.

Interceptor: this was a great post. I want to thankyou cause it also has to do with your reply to my "dj-girl" post. And its all good!

Anyway.. I just "bumped" (like u guys say) because this is important.
Embrace sexuality !

PD: im sayin all this cause im just a guy who experienced trying this advice and just happened to work like freakin gold!