Please advice

[ANIRBAN]

Hello..please comment on this..cause I neeed to take a decision by next week:

My date is older than me she had two boyfriends before and after breaking up with them she got hurt and now she hangs around with her female friends and 15 other GAY friends..one of the Gay she is close too. After she met me and I applied my DJ stuff she asked me out on two occasions and she wants to have a relat8ionship with me. My trouble is her gay friends and they call her very often and she also hang around in many Gay bars..so i kind of dont trust her..whether she had any physical relationship with the gaysor not or if i try to take her out from the group..will the gay guys get hurt and try to block me..Gay emtions are very strong and canm even go to the extent of killing people. I like her too but am playing cool..but she indireclt told me that she wants a committed relationship. should I accept this..before accepting should i put a condition that you have to come out or stay distant from this Gay group..as i dont like to hang around in gay bars. please advice...is there a chance that she is physically involved with this gay guys...probably not then why she will want a relationship with me right? But this gay circle bothers me..should i openly discuss about this..whether she is ready to leave them for me..and only maintain female friends..I understand that they are gay but physically they had a dikk dont they..and look muscula like men..I met one of her gay friends and she was all praises about him..she said that he is very handsome and talented..and bla bla..should i NEXT her..please help me bros..I need all of you the most now...

 

[Grey Fox]

First off you sound like you have a huge case of homophobia and you come off incredibly insecure....

This is whats going to ruin your chances with this girl your interested in. If your as insecure and homophobic as you seem right now just posting it on a discussion board, then your probably going to meltdown when she introduces one of her gay friends to you, and she'll see that and NEXT you. If you force her to choose, she'd probably choose them because she has established and developed a bond of trust with that group. I don't undestand why you don't trust the girl, these guys are gay, why would they hook up in the first place, there is no interest between the two.

As a DJ there is nothing you can't handle, if your concerned about how much time you two can spend together thats fine. But don't choke like an AFC and freak out just because she hangs with gay people. You should be more freaked if she was hanging out with a group of straight guys. A true Don Juan knows that they must remain cool under pressure and rational in how they deal with women. So let me rationalize why this girl hangs with gay guys, because she feels safe with them duh. She knows she is not going to be hit on by them, it also allows her to test guys reactions to her hanging with them. That way when they choke she knows their insecure AFCs. Simply put a DJ would focus on the girl, if she wants a relationship and means it then go for it. In the meantime you sound like you need to grow some confidence and common sense.

-Grey Fox

 

[Starman]

LOl @ Grey

ahhaha

Ok here is the deal..I always find it suspicious when women have too many Gay friends..If they Grew up with them as a child..and the Gays social circle just expanded..and the straight chick just tagged along..no problem..

But if the girl has no female friends of her own as a frame of reference .. and hangs out with the gays just to be politically correct, or have some kind of appeal to them..something is wrong

 

[Quick]

whether she had any physical relationship with the gaysor not or if i try to take her out from the group..will the gay guys get hurt and try to block me..Gay emtions are very strong and canm even go to the extent of killing people. I like her too but am playing cool..but she indireclt told me that she wants a committed relationship. should I accept this..before accepting should i put a condition that you have to come out or stay distant from this Gay group..as i dont like to hang around in gay bars. please advice...is there a chance that she is physically involved with this gay guys...

They're gay because they don't want to have a physical relationship with women. That's the whole point. Gay people aren't any more violent than straight people. You don't have to tell her you don't want to go to gay bars, just don't go. It's not surprising that straight men don't want to hang out in gay bars. You can't tell her to cut off her friends just because they're gay any more than she can tell you to cut off your straight male friends.

Personally, i think you'd be better off without her because you seem way too homophobic and you can't handle a relationship with her. Did she ask for a relationship after two dates? If she did, you should say no anyway. You don't know her well enough to drop all of your other options for her.

 

[Demon]

Have you ever seen The Boondock Saints? If I went to a gay bar, I'd behave like the FBI agent.