Plate spinning management

[Outlaw_]

Ok guys. I'm looking for those of you who spin plates on the regular. And I want to hear your management system. We are men, we are logical, we create systems all time & then we operate from those systems. I'm looking for a way to manage multiple plates and putting it on auto pilot so that I don't spend a lot of time on them. I will likely just build my own management system, but it will be good to hear from others experiences.

Here are some questions I have for you guys:

1) How many plates do you take on max, meaning I will not take any more than x?
2) How often do you contact them? Phone, text, email, etc.
3) How often do you see them? I already have mine idea, but it would be good to hear others ideas.
4) How close do you get to them? Do you build a real connection or do you keep them at arms length?
5) How do you keep them satisfied with the situation as is?
6) Are you honest with them about other women, avoid speaking about other women, or just flat out lie?
7) Why do you think your plates are with you & not going to settle down with other men?
8) What type of women are ideal plates for you?

Thanks guys

 

[Vulpine]

You want a formula? Or, a template? What's wrong? There isn't a "plate ap" for your smart phone?

Sorry, dude, it doesn't (and shouldn't) have a guidebook. People are different, plates are different, and the process incorporates too many variables and intangible bases (basises?) for decision.

How about you answer your survey and go with it. You're the only one whose opinion on the matter counts, ultimately. I wouldn't dare tell you, "If Plate B's IL is 110% of Plate X, and she is 20% hornier, then cancel Plate B plans and go out with Plate X anyway."

You're asking for digital answers for an analog situation.

1) X = however many I feel like.
2) Whenever I feel like it.
3) Whenever I feel like it.
4) However close I feel comfortable with.
5) Non-apologetical communication.
6) Non-apologetical communication.
7) I don't need them.
8) The wetter, the better.

Don't overthink it. Do it, learn from your mistakes, none of this paralysis by analysis junk.

 

[Outlaw_]

Hey bro, thanks for your comments. I'm not looking for a one size fits all though. I'm fresh back to plate spinning after many years. There are some people who have made mistakes & want to share. Others want to be d1ck wads & say go fall on your face like I did...so you can be a d1ck wad like me.

As always threads attract both, but I'm sure some there are some guys who have a little feedback. I'm already spinning 1 & have 7 that I'm putting through to get the pvss. By being only a year back into the dating scene, had I come to ask a few questions I wouldn't have fallen on my face as many times as I did.

I'm hear to share what I'm learning & hopefully can get the same reciprocated back.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Great thread topic.

Here are some questions I have for you guys:

1) How many plates do you take on max, meaning I will not take any more than x?

This is ever evolving. However most recently, I had two solid plates and just having two would sometimes overwhelm me. See #3. These were plates I'd see every week though. I've, at times been seeing 4 or 5, but some were twice a month, once a month, random times when nothing else was going on. I have old plates I could probably call up today, however I've other $hit going on. So no need at this time. But if you're looking at just weekly plates, I'd probably max out at 3, maybe 4. You need some time for yourself!

2) How often do you contact them? Phone, text, email, etc.

The once a week one we'd only be in touch close to when we were about to see each other, or right after. And 95% of it was about what we were going to do. Or a follow up "had a great time blah blah" With her it was simple. The other one, different story.

3) How often do you see them? I already have mine idea, but it would be good to hear others ideas.

One I would see one day a week, same night and time usually. The other was more all over the place, I'd usually see her about three nights a week.
The latter one was REALLY pushing to go exlusive, and that was because we were seeing each other so much. I'd really recommend once a week, and they will push for more, however if you keep it at once a week, like I did with the one, then she should follow suit.

4) How close do you get to them? Do you build a real connection or do you keep them at arms length?

A little of both. There's different types of relationships. FB's<---just fvcking, in and out. Don't build any type of connections with these, keep it simple...and just physical. Then there's ones you can go out and do $hit with then bang. Have somewhat of a connection with them, but don't go too deep, and when they try to go deeper, that's when you need to slow it down. YOU definitely need to keep the plate relationship on the straight and narrow. Chicks are emotional, they'll act on their feelings, you need to be the logical rock when $hit starts getting hairy.

5) How do you keep them satisfied with the situation as is?

This is a price, they give up seeing you other days, in order to see you a few days. They might b1tch and complain, however, they should, in the end, still accept it. If not, that's cool, time to find another plate.

6) Are you honest with them about other women, avoid speaking about other women, or just flat out lie?

I rarely flat out lie. I avoid telling them everything for obvious reasons, but I feel it's important to tell them at the beginning that you are dating other women. They'll be okay with it, why wouldn't you have other women vying for your companionship?

7) Why do you think your plates are with you & not going to settle down with other men?

No ones saying they aren't. I tell my plates to go out and date other men. A lot of the times they don't, and are constantly trying to upgrade our relationship, however the mindset is this: We can have fun, have sex, enjoy each other, but that's all it's going to be, so if one of us finds that special someone, then our fun, enjoying each other's time, relationship will end. And it will end eventually, but for now, we're going to have some fun.

8) What type of women are ideal plates for you?

All kinds for me. However, I like to find chicks that have other $hit going on in their lives, that way not ALL their time and energy is focused on me. If it is, they become too needy, and it turns into a headache. So if she has a kid, and has split custody...Awesome plate potential in my book.

 

[Sik]

Interesting topic, OP!

1) How many plates do you take on max, meaning I will not take any more than x?
I have found that five is my max, and I only did that for about two months. I found that at five, my work suffered since I didn't sleep as I was usually up screwing a plate, my hobbies suffered as I went on dates rather than pursue those interests and my personal life suffered as I didn't spend time cooking properly and hitting the gym like I should. For me, two is perfect, with perhaps a sketchy third plate for the once-in-a-while screw.

2) How often do you contact them? Phone, text, email, etc.
Always by text, and second most often, phone call. In my age group (27ish), girls nearly always text. It's like an extension of their ego.

3) How often do you see them? I already have mine idea, but it would be good to hear others ideas.
Usually once per week per plate, but as long as a month in between dates. I rate the plates like a ranking system, the hottest one gets the Fri or Sat night date, and the others fill in the occasional weeknight date. I've really toned it down lately to one regular plate and one sketchy plate, so now it's a date every two weeks or so.

4) How close do you get to them? Do you build a real connection or do you keep them at arms length?
Probably the toughest part of it all, keeping some distance while keeping them around. Women inevitably want the relationship to progress, I limit this by simply spending less time with them. Naturally, the one with the best life partner potential progresses as I see fit and I build a real connection.

5) How do you keep them satisfied with the situation as is?
Again, it's a tough one. I find that by regularly going on interesting dates and showing them the right amount of attention, they are satisfied. Some girls really start to put pressure on escalating the relationship, but if she's not high on my list to be a gf, she gets less attention. Eventually they match up with Beta's, though. I remember one girl, great lay and pretty hot. I only kept her for about two weeks before she became fed up with just getting drilled and then not called for a week, haha. Last I heard she shacked up with some guy and he adores her. Hey, more power to him!

6) Are you honest with them about other women, avoid speaking about other women, or just flat out lie?
I avoid talking about other women. No point in it, and they almost never ask. I never lie and say we're exclusive, but if they ask I would say I was talking to another girl at the moment and leave it at that.

7) Why do you think your plates are with you & not going to settle down with other men?
They're with me because I'm High Value and they hope to eventually get married and have my kids.

8) What type of women are ideal plates for you?
The ideal plate? Young, hot, mute and traditional.
The best plate I've ever had was (and is) a single mother. Few guys want to raise another mans children, so she's not exactly beating off the suitors but she's reasonably good-looking with a nice body. She's been around for a while now and understands, implicitly, the situation.

 

[Scaramouche]

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[lgbs2004]

1) 3
2) Once a week to set up a date
3) Once every 15 days.
4) I keep 'em as FB's.
5) I don't care about their "satisfaction".
6) I avoid speaking about other women but in the end they always know.
7) I don't care.
8) The hot type. :crackup:

 

[lgbs2004]

Double post

 

[Outlaw_]

Great thread topic.

This is ever evolving. However most recently, I had two solid plates and just having two would sometimes overwhelm me. See #3. These were plates I'd see every week though. I've, at times been seeing 4 or 5, but some were twice a month, once a month, random times when nothing else was going on. I have old plates I could probably call up today, however I've other $hit going on. So no need at this time. But if you're looking at just weekly plates, I'd probably max out at 3, maybe 4. You need some time for yourself!

Yeah, I'm looking at 3 max. I run a business & I'm really crunched on time. That will give me 2 to fall back on if 1 drops & plenty of time to find a new one.

The once a week one we'd only be in touch close to when we were about to see each other, or right after. And 95% of it was about what we were going to do. Or a follow up "had a great time blah blah" With her it was simple. The other one, different story.

This is exactly how my one plate is now. I don't consider them a plate until I get the pvss. So, she is exactly like this. IMO, this is the ideal plate. She is freshly divorced with children & wants to get drilled out...that's it.

One I would see one day a week, same night and time usually. The other was more all over the place, I'd usually see her about three nights a week.
The latter one was REALLY pushing to go exlusive, and that was because we were seeing each other so much. I'd really recommend once a week, and they will push for more, however if you keep it at once a week, like I did with the one, then she should follow suit.

Yeah, I'm definitely going to stick to the once per week rule. I've fvcked up in the past by doing 2-3 times per week & she really crashed hard on me. But then again with that one, I was breaking all kind of rules with her.

A little of both. There's different types of relationships. FB's<---just fvcking, in and out. Don't build any type of connections with these, keep it simple...and just physical. Then there's ones you can go out and do $hit with then bang. Have somewhat of a connection with them, but don't go too deep, and when they try to go deeper, that's when you need to slow it down. YOU definitely need to keep the plate relationship on the straight and narrow. Chicks are emotional, they'll act on their feelings, you need to be the logical rock when $hit starts getting hairy.

I have a problem with FB's, which is what my current plate is. If I don't build a simple connection, then it's like fvcking a hooker. So, the connection is all about the time we spend when she comes over before we take care of business. The ones you go out with ... that's just a hairy situation IMO, because you spend more time together.

This is a price, they give up seeing you other days, in order to see you a few days. They might b1tch and complain, however, they should, in the end, still accept it. If not, that's cool, time to find another plate.

Yeah, what I've found is that the hotter a woman is, the more they feel like "they deserve to be dated exclusively". I've been told this & told them I agree. Then, exited stage left.

I rarely flat out lie. I avoid telling them everything for obvious reasons, but I feel it's important to tell them at the beginning that you are dating other women. They'll be okay with it, why wouldn't you have other women vying for your companionship?

This is the hardest part of the entire deal. But then again, it is what it is.

No ones saying they aren't. I tell my plates to go out and date other men. A lot of the times they don't, and are constantly trying to upgrade our relationship, however the mindset is this: We can have fun, have sex, enjoy each other, but that's all it's going to be, so if one of us finds that special someone, then our fun, enjoying each other's time, relationship will end. And it will end eventually, but for now, we're going to have some fun.

This is a nice frame to have. I will keep this in mind while I'm running this entire deal.

All kinds for me. However, I like to find chicks that have other $hit going on in their lives, that way not ALL their time and energy is focused on me. If it is, they become too needy, and it turns into a headache. So if she has a kid, and has split custody...Awesome plate potential in my book.

Yes, for me it's newly divorced women with children. The longer they were married, the better. Because they are trying to get their emotional equilibrium back & they just want to fvck & that's it. I find the hotter a woman is with no children, the more of a full court press she will put on the entire situation. And I'm dating women from 29 - 40...if they are single with no children & have looks, they will have that chip on their shoulder. Just my opinion tho.

 

[Outlaw_]

Interesting topic, OP!

1) How many plates do you take on max, meaning I will not take any more than x?
I have found that five is my max, and I only did that for about two months. I found that at five, my work suffered since I didn't sleep as I was usually up screwing a plate, my hobbies suffered as I went on dates rather than pursue those interests and my personal life suffered as I didn't spend time cooking properly and hitting the gym like I should. For me, two is perfect, with perhaps a sketchy third plate for the once-in-a-while screw.

Yeah, this is exactly my line of reasoning. It can become more of a job than having a exclusive relationship if you get too many plates. And, for those of us who have other goals & interests, there is a limit. Back in the day when I didn't own my own business, I constantly maintained 5. But now, it's just not practical for me.

2) How often do you contact them? Phone, text, email, etc.
Always by text, and second most often, phone call. In my age group (27ish), girls nearly always text. It's like an extension of their ego.

Hey bro. I have a 40 year old...she's the same way. A woman is a woman is a woman.

3) How often do you see them? I already have mine idea, but it would be good to hear others ideas.
Usually once per week per plate, but as long as a month in between dates. I rate the plates like a ranking system, the hottest one gets the Fri or Sat night date, and the others fill in the occasional weeknight date. I've really toned it down lately to one regular plate and one sketchy plate, so now it's a date every two weeks or so.

Man, nice addition with the rating system. I'm definitely going to implement that immediately. Meaning, who get's top priority ... down to lowest priority.

4) How close do you get to them? Do you build a real connection or do you keep them at arms length?
Probably the toughest part of it all, keeping some distance while keeping them around. Women inevitably want the relationship to progress, I limit this by simply spending less time with them. Naturally, the one with the best life partner potential progresses as I see fit and I build a real connection.

Yeah, this is a balancing act right here. I'm struggling with the distance thing ... I think I'm getting old & my heart is just not as cold as it once was. And, so for me it's a struggle to not connect.

5) How do you keep them satisfied with the situation as is?
Again, it's a tough one. I find that by regularly going on interesting dates and showing them the right amount of attention, they are satisfied. Some girls really start to put pressure on escalating the relationship, but if she's not high on my list to be a gf, she gets less attention. Eventually they match up with Beta's, though. I remember one girl, great lay and pretty hot. I only kept her for about two weeks before she became fed up with just getting drilled and then not called for a week, haha. Last I heard she shacked up with some guy and he adores her. Hey, more power to him!

Yeah, it's easy to give them a temporary fix, but IMO the hotter the woman (especially with no kids) the shorter term it will be. Hence your situation. I have an 8.5 that is really interested in me right now. I can see that being a tough situation for me to manage. The worst part is that she has the best life partner potential that you mentioned above. So my plate spinning may be short lived. LOL

6) Are you honest with them about other women, avoid speaking about other women, or just flat out lie?
I avoid talking about other women. No point in it, and they almost never ask. I never lie and say we're exclusive, but if they ask I would say I was talking to another girl at the moment and leave it at that.

Nice way to handle it being truthful & not lying. I'm definitely going to incorporate that.

7) Why do you think your plates are with you & not going to settle down with other men?
They're with me because I'm High Value and they hope to eventually get married and have my kids.

Nice frame bro!

8) What type of women are ideal plates for you?
The ideal plate? Young, hot, mute and traditional.
The best plate I've ever had was (and is) a single mother. Few guys want to raise another mans children, so she's not exactly beating off the suitors but she's reasonably good-looking with a nice body. She's been around for a while now and understands, implicitly, the situation.

As I said before, my ideal is divorced single mom. The fresher the divorce & the more children the better. That way she is busy, horny & ready to fvck another d1ck now that she is newly free.