Plate Spinning — How Much Investment?

[CollegeMan22]

I have one regular girl who I've slept with 2-4x per week over the past four months. She is VERY low maintenance. We just meet on campus and walk to my place. And I get free protein bars out of the deal. She is feminine and allows me to take the lead. She is a good girl.

But I just slept with a new girl last night and it's looking like it will be more than a ONS. For our first two dates, we just went to nature areas around my college campus, walked around, and kino-d it up on the bench. I'd like to do the same meet on campus and go to apartment system with her, but she doesn't want that. She wants to go to somewhere outside of campus for our next date. The problem is that I don't have a car and she does, so she'd have to drive everywhere.

Is a girl driving you places bad for your frame? I can tease her about it — "hello, my limousine driver" — but wanted to ask you guys this. I also don't want to go out of campus more than 1/3 dates. I prefer just meeting, talking, and sex.

 

[Gamisch]

I have one regular girl who I've slept with 2-4x per week over the past four months. She is VERY low maintenance. We just meet on campus and walk to my place. And I get free protein bars out of the deal. She is feminine and allows me to take the lead. She is a good girl.

But I just slept with a new girl last night and it's looking like it will be more than a ONS. For our first two dates, we just went to nature areas around my college campus, walked around, and kino-d it up on the bench. I'd like to do the same meet on campus and go to apartment system with her, but she doesn't want that. She wants to go to somewhere outside of campus for our next date. The problem is that I don't have a car and she does, so she'd have to drive everywhere.

Is a girl driving you places bad for your frame? I can tease her about it — "hello, my limousine driver" — but wanted to ask you guys this. I also don't want to go out of campus more than 1/3 dates. I prefer just meeting, talking, and sex.

Hmm this new woman does seems more gamed up than you. Her suggestion to meet outside of the campus should be your suggestion.

Woman = slvt , man = player. Because if this paradigm you as a man have less to lose and more to gain if other women at campus see you can pull. Nevertheless, you should always be able to provide women with discretion. Overtime, try to find out why she doesn't wants to meet at campus. Must be either reputation or another dude. Either way it can be great fuel for excitement and create this " forbidden affair ". And women LOVE that!

You either tell them you are seeing other women, or you play the sneaky game and hide it. You know best how they'll respond to that.

About the car. I can't deny it's not the most masculine thing to sit in the passenger seat of a woman's car. But, you must be realistic. If you study, it's normal you might not have a car yet. You can meetup with her at a place where you can get by public transportation. You don't wanna be a manbaby about sitting in her car, and neither do you wanna be this okidoki dude who dgaf. Balance is key my brother. If you play the super duper hyper masculine man who doesnt allow a woman to pay, to drive ect you better OWN it.

Ain't nothing worse than sitting in the passenger seat of a angry woman...just saying...

 

[CollegeMan22]

Hmm this new woman does seems more gamed up than you. Her suggestion to meet outside of the campus should be your suggestion.

Woman = slvt , man = player. Because if this paradigm you as a man have less to lose and more to gain if other women at campus see you can pull. Nevertheless, you should always be able to provide women with discretion. Overtime, try to find out why she doesn't wants to meet at campus. Must be either reputation or another dude. Either way it can be great fuel for excitement and create this " forbidden affair ". And women LOVE that!

You either tell them you are seeing other women, or you play the sneaky game and hide it. You know best how they'll respond to that.

I told her that I’m exploring my options right now but am open to a LTR with the right girl. So she knows I’m seeing other girls. She’s sexually inexperienced, and I took her virginity, so it’s highly unlikely she’s seeing other guys.

 

[CollegeMan22]

About the car. I can't deny it's not the most masculine thing to sit in the passenger seat of a woman's car. But, you must be realistic. If you study, it's normal you might not have a car yet. You can meetup with her at a place where you can get by public transportation. You don't wanna be a manbaby about sitting in her car, and neither do you wanna be this okidoki dude who dgaf. Balance is key my brother. If you play the super duper hyper masculine man who doesnt allow a woman to pay, to drive ect you better OWN it.

Ain't nothing worse than sitting in the passenger seat of a angry woman...just saying...

IMO, not much I can do about the car. We’re gonna go ice skating cause I enjoy that and she’ll pick me up. As long as I maintain my frame verbally and physically, I’ll be fine.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I agree with @Gamisch , that you should have offered to go off of campus, OP. You don’t seem like you’ve told your first plate that you’re in an open situation, and you also missed the subtle opportunity to telegraph that you don’t want anyone special on campus seeing you yet with her either (hamster stuff). I also agree with him about her game awareness- I would be aware also of your new girl potentially wanting to turn this situation into a relationship (which may be something you’ll want too). No harm in her driving, college is the greatest excuse for living in poverty, just don’t try and take this girl out to a bar and put yourself in an environment that lowers your SMV. Go mini golf or something and keep it 1:1, and then grab some food and take her back to the quad would be my recommendation.

 

[Skyline]

I have one regular girl who I've slept with 2-4x per week over the past four months. She is VERY low maintenance. We just meet on campus and walk to my place. And I get free protein bars out of the deal. She is feminine and allows me to take the lead. She is a good girl.

But I just slept with a new girl last night and it's looking like it will be more than a ONS. For our first two dates, we just went to nature areas around my college campus, walked around, and kino-d it up on the bench. I'd like to do the same meet on campus and go to apartment system with her, but she doesn't want that. She wants to go to somewhere outside of campus for our next date. The problem is that I don't have a car and she does, so she'd have to drive everywhere.

Is a girl driving you places bad for your frame? I can tease her about it — "hello, my limousine driver" — but wanted to ask you guys this. I also don't want to go out of campus more than 1/3 dates. I prefer just meeting, talking, and sex.

Dude, who cares? Just let her pick you up. She seems like a nice hippy/nature/botany woman. You don’t have to pay or provide anything to pull women.

Just let her know whats up and reassure her that you will get your **** together and get a car.

 

[Murk]

Not having a car does hurt your chances with women but I managed for years without a car. I say managed, that's what it was, merely surviving. I live in a city where driving isn't a necessity so it wasn't too bad.

 

[SmoothHendrixPS2]

Getting women to invest in you in any way is good. The more they invest in you, the more they become emotionally attached. A girl cooking for you, paying for you, driving you places is EXACTLY what you want to keep YOUR FRAME.