Places to meet women

[becker]

I've always wondered where you'd go to meet more tame women. Of course, the library seems to be one place that comes to mind, but I'm looking for very specific types of women. I don't want the kind that go to the bars and get drunk all the time, have promiscuous sex, and are generally party girls. I'm sort of over all that, and I'm sick of those. At some point, I think you need to start looking to get a little more serious and playtime is over. I'm feeling that you can't just be partying for the rest of your life.

For guys here who have been in successful LTRs, where did you meet your woman?

 

[BobbDobbs]

Although they say it is risky, lots of people form LTR's with people they meet through work. Upscale social events are another area. One big area is meeting people through friends and relatives. Finally, personal ads (including internet) is a way to sift through candidates. I had an LTR of five years with a gal I met through a personal ad.

 

[becker]

'Bout time someone responded to this thread. Anyways, I agree about work, and i don't see too much wrong with it unless things get serious but you two are not compatible. I'm sort of over the flings at this point, so I'm a little more choosy with my women. It tends to come off as being confident and indifferent sometimes, which becomes an attractive quality even though that's not my intention. Go figure.

 

[ZeeOwl]

The LTRs I've been in:
#1 - Work (sort of). We worked for competing stores in the same mall. hehe
#2 - Job-hunting course, same class.
#3 - At dances I organize for non-smokers in my city.

The STRs I've been in:
#1 - Personals.
#2 - Personals.

I think I see a pattern developing here. lol

 

[Click Here]

I met my last LTR through a friend, thats kinda the best way to go but most of the girls i meet nowadays are through parties or CA.

 

[ShortTimer]

Originally posted by becker
I don't want the kind that go to the bars and get drunk all the time, have promiscuous sex, and are generally party girls.

Well I think you're out of luck buddy, unless you want some 30 year old.

 

[stevey_2000]

well i met my current LTR at work, which was pretty hard work to DJ her in due to the atmosphere being one of my boss watching me every 2 seconds but after a week i succeeded!

this has to be the most popular thread title without a doubt i have seen since coming here though!!

 

[becker]

I think that definitely the introduction through friends is probably the best way to do it, since it usually filters out the freaks. This is why I try to maintain friendship with women, because they tend to want to set you up if you're single. I've had offers already, but from some of the wrong women.

ShortTimer, 30 year olds are fine with me, as long as they look relatively young and aren't single moms or something like that.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Just walk outside your door!

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Women are everywhere! All depends what you want.

However if you are in my neighborhood, there is no more women for ya!

M.A.C.

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
Just walk outside your door!

Good point, I need to do that. The difficult part is finding out where to go, and sometimes if your friends are not available, then you might have to go somewhere yourself, which means that you'll have to find a place where it wouldn't be odd to just be alone, like a library or something.

 

[Player_Supreme]

I guess I better explain what I mean. Women are everywhere. At the corner, in the stores, at the supermarket, at resturants:

last summer I was at hard rock resturant. there was this blond giving choosing signals. Instead of paying with my buddy I went over and handed her my card and said give me a call sometime.

she called.

turns out she was a travelling nurse (I'd never heard of one before) and she was living in a town near mine,but was leaving in 3 weeks.

we made the most of those 3 weeks. she even asked me if I would move with her.

so end of that field experience. like I was saying they are everywhere, just get out and open your eyes for opportunities.

I do hope you guys have cards, even if you just have your name and a cell number on it (college & highschool dudes). You can even make them on your computer and print them out if professional is too much.

go out and hand out that card bro. It's a numbers game:


"Wayne Ross's Dating Tips Newsletter"

============================================

============================================
DATING IS A NUMBERS GAME
============================================

I'm sure you've heard the saying before that
"Dating is a numbers game".

Well in this issue, you're going to learn how
this principal applies in the real world, and how you
can use it to improve your ability to meet women.

First of all, what does that mean... dating is
a numbers game? How does that actually work in the real
world?

The reason you'll hear so many people talking
about dating as a numbers game is because of this
simple truth. The more doors you knock on, the more
will open.

Now there's two ways to increase the amount of
women in your life. The first one is to simple knock on
more doors, and statistically... you will get more
doors that open for you.

What that means is... the more women you
approach, and ask out... the more women you are going
to have saying yes. The flip side of that is you will
also have more women saying "no" too.

The second way to get more women is to learn
how to get a higher percentage of those doors to open.
Let's say you approach 20 women, and only 1 of them is
interested in seeing you for a first date.

That's a 5% "yes ratio". Now, you could just
approach 100 women, and get 5 "yes's", and that would
be fine. You'd have 5 women in your life, and you'd be
happy.

But let's be honest, do you really want to have
to go through 95 "no's" to get to 5 "yes's"?

I didn't think so.

But what if you could learn how to get 4 or 5
yes's for every 20 women you talked to? Wouldn't that
be much easier, and smarter than bulldozing your way
through 100 women?

============================================
So what should I focus on first Wayne?
============================================

The first thing to work on is your approach, of
course. The more women you approach, the more chances
for first dates you will have.

Try experimenting with these aspects of the
approach to see what combination works best for you.

* Try smiling when you walk up VS. smirking.
* Try saying "Hi there" instead of just "Hi"
* Try complimenting her on a specific feature, instead
of just telling her she's beautiful.


********

Mod's if it's against the rules to post this newsletter just edit it out...thanks.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by becker
Good point, I need to do that. The difficult part is finding out where to go, and sometimes if your friends are not available, then you might have to go somewhere yourself, which means that you'll have to find a place where it wouldn't be odd to just be alone, like a library or something.

Can I direct you to the Wingman Forum?

Going out alone is not bad, it's actually a pretty dam good way of getting over being a AFC. It forces you to be social.

For me, I use to goto places like Billards, Clubs....alone. After a while it was just to easy.

M.A.C.

 

[becker]

M.A.C., I have a pool table at home, so I'm not a bad pool player, but it's difficult to go out to shoot pool when I'm sick of doing it at home. I should definitely go hit the outside pool halls, but still not sure if that's the kind of girl I'd be looking for in those places.

I also am not keen on clubs right now, so I don't think I'll do that unless I go with a girl friend of mine just for fun. I don't like going to clubs or places like that with other guys for some reason. Too much one-upsmanship going on it seems when there is a HB or something. I guess that's a situation where I'd rather go alone, but at the same time I'd feel a bit awkward doing it.

Player_Supreme good post about the numbers.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by becker
M.A.C., I have a pool table at home, so I'm not a bad pool player, but it's difficult to go out to shoot pool when I'm sick of doing it at home. I should definitely go hit the outside pool halls, but still not sure if that's the kind of girl I'd be looking for in those places.

I also am not keen on clubs right now, so I don't think I'll do that unless I go with a girl friend of mine just for fun. I don't like going to clubs or places like that with other guys for some reason. Too much one-upsmanship going on it seems when there is a HB or something. I guess that's a situation where I'd rather go alone, but at the same time I'd feel a bit awkward doing it.

Player_Supreme good post about the numbers.

Dam man...try church! j/k Maybe a local book store ie. Barnes & Nobles. I mean you don't have to goto these places just to pick up chicks, just go to have fun.

M.A.C.

 

[becker]

I thought about church, but one of my ex-GFs was a religious girl (who supposedly had high morals, but not while I was with her!) Anyways, I don't go to church myself, so I guess that can be a problem since although I don't mind it, it's also something I'm not looking for.

Man, I'm getting so picky, but I think it's also because I'm changing what I'm looking for and I'm trying to find a girl I'd settle down with rather than just have all these short term relationships left and right. Barnes and Noble is another good idea, I'll give it a try.

One place I've gone is the mall, where there are normally a good amount of HBs, but I can't handle walking around the mall all the time, and I'm going to have to start work soon too, so that's gonna throw a wrench in that situation. Sometimes I feel like I should have just stuck with a high school sweetheart and just stayed with her until now, which would have taken a lot of these problems off my back.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

beck where ya residing?

 

[becker]

CA, otherwise I would be right there with you and Drex!

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by becker
CA, otherwise I would be right there with you and Drex!

Dang....well keep tracking the local establishments. There is always fish in the river...even if you pass a school of them, just keep going with the flow of the river and sooner of later you will hook another!

M.A.C.

 

[becker]

Definitely sucks, but if I'm going to be in the NH/MA area, you'll be the first one to know