Picking up on mistakes

[Bingo-Player]

I think part of being a good DJ involves you constantly looking at your previous experiences and learning what you could have done better

Ive recently been texting a HB 8 and to be honest i thought it was going well but after reading & replying to a few threads on here ,I realised i could of done a lot better by being more mysterious

My texts weren’t bad or anything just banter / chit chat , but then i realised she was using the chit chat to gauge how interested i was , how much effort i was putting in to replying and reading back through the messages and i probably was putting a little too much effort into my replys

And it was weird because as i was putting more effort in she was putting less in i could sense the balance of power starting to shift , i left her send the last text and then went ghost

I dont think i damaged her interest in me too much but its lucky i stopped when i did

Its amazing how quickly chicks can gauge your interest from a few words in texts

Once they know your hooked they start playing games

Another example and this was a little experiment is a chick from tinder last week (HB 7)

Started chatting to her on Sunday and then i genuinely forgot to reply to her

yesterday she messages me

HB7: hey so you can like my pictures but you cant be bothered to reply to me 

Me: haha SORRY i cant help liking them THERES JUST SOMETHING ABOUT YOU,......blah blah blah

HB7 almost like magic suddenly starts becoming cold and withdrawn .......(surely we would have expected her to become warm after such a charming compliment)

WRONG , She knows im interested ive taken the bait and im not going anywhere

She can relax which means its playtime

Be very careful when expressing interest in a woman, gentlemen its a deadly attraction killer

 

[Meisterman]

I'm going through the same thing right now. Realized somewhere along the way I lost my head and got caught up in it all. Initiated first and her reply was colder than usual, now I sense an imbalance. Going ghost on this bi*ch like Casper.

 

[Eternal_water]

But how do you be sexual and ask a girl out without expressing interest?

 

[Meisterman]

But how do you be sexual and ask a girl out without expressing interest?

I see it as like catching a big fish. You leave the bait on the hook it open sight. But it's up to the fish to come to you. And once they take the bait, you sure as hell don't reel in full speed or you'll lose the fish or break the line. The fish should be doing most the work, and counter-intuitively it is this way which will get you the most catches.

 

[Bingo-Player]

But how do you be sexual and ask a girl out without expressing interest?

Hmm well personally i think the good old days of “asking a girl out” are dead and buried

Nobody can really be fcked these days to make commitments over a couple of hours

if i had some needy chick blowing up my phone asking if we could make plans for a week Saturday or whatever , i wouldn’t want to know to be honest

most days ive got something going on and its gonna take someone pretty special to make me change that not some random i met in a club 4 days ago

Theres been too many romantic comedys and too much progression with social media for women to need to “schedule” in appointments with guys anymore

In 2014 its all about the here and now , you ask a chick maximum one day in advance to do something if she cancels then rinse repeat

Or better still put the phone away and actually use your skills in social circle game to actually become comfortable with women and skip the whole dating screening cycle

 

[Lolapo]

I completely agree. Just made the same mistake, didn't have much to do so invested way to much time in a girl so I was orbiting around her way to much and she lost some interest. Now i'm ghosting like crazy. Only solution possible, IF i can fix it.

Reflecting on yourself is the best way to get better at anything and sometimes you can blame others but mostly it'll be yourself to blame.