Picking up girls is easy

[thecraftylefty]

That’s right. It’s as simple as pie.

Most people come from a place, in their brain, that thinks that getting an attractive, trustworthy, funny, smart, and overall great woman is a hard thing to do. WRONG. Get rid of it. It’s only in your head that it’s hard. Or that anything is hard for that matter.

Once I got rid of the idea that getting high quality women was a hard thing to do, I immediately started getting results. No joke. As soon as I put all those stupid limiting beliefs behind me—as well as many others—I felt like I was on top of the world for the first time in my life (a new perspective does that to a man). And it was great. Heck, I’d go up to strangers and talk for the hell of it, just to hear their story.

And with this thought that picking up women is easy as opposed to being hard, which is the mindset I used to have, well things have totally changed. I don’t think in terms of her and what she wants. I think in terms and ME and what I would like. It’s a great feeling.

Get it through your head that you deserve a great woman (or women, some of us are overachievers).

But these women aren’t going to fall on your lap out of the blue on day. It’s up to you to get up and actively find one that suits you. Not the other way around. Don’t settle for second best. You’re not table scraps, you are top shelf liquor. Act like it. Act like the $hit sometimes.

You need to stop analyzing and start living. Did that chick look at you or the guy next to you? It doesn’t matter, because you were going to go up and talk to her anyway because you like her style.

It doesn’t matter how much experience, success or failure you’ve had in the past because you’re the one that’s changing. Adopt the mindset and the body will follow.

Remember, women are only as complicated as think they are. In my world, it’s easy to catch a good one and reel her in.

Picking up women is in your blood for Christ’s sake. You are a man. There is nothing more natural than that of a man and woman courting each other. Nothing. Get on it.


thecraftylefty

 

[Kuen1]

"It’s only in your head that it’s hard."

"As soon as I put all those stupid limiting beliefs behind me—as well as many others—I felt like I was on top of the world for the first time in my life..."

Pretty much the best advice there is which unfortunately can be hard to grasp. But, once you get it...you're solid.

Props.

 

[manicmaximum]

I'm slowly starting to shed those self-limiting beliefs, I can't shake them all at once for some reason.

for me, the most important thing is to be aware of said beliefs, especially when they kick in. that really is a key moment when you realize old habits dictating behavior, and deliberately go against them.

 

[Delta Male]

Good post -- I agree completely. Although techniques have their place, they're useless if you don't have the inner belief that you are attractive, and thus picking up women is easy for you. Eventually, you can drop all conscious use of techniques and still close just as much if not more.

However, one thing which you didn't mention is that for a guy who has bad inner beliefs and thinks that pickup is hard, changing your inner beliefs is not something that can happen instantly. This is because you don't have to change them on the intellectual level, which is meaningless. You have to change them on a deeper, emotional level, which is not as simple as reading all the rational reasons why its true.

Things like NLP, EMDR, affirmations and other kinds of exercises to work on your inner beliefs will help. Having good coaching, and guys who can show you what's really possible will help. But the most important thing to realize that picking up women is easy on an emotional level is to actually be having success and getting laid. It's hard to believe that picking up girls is hard when you have a girl who you would call to fvck your brains out anytime you want.

Of course, for guys just starting out, this is kind of a vicious circle -- they're not getting laid, so they think picking up women is hard, so they don't get laid more, etc. However, as you show more and more success with women you will internalize this belief more and more. Ex. you get a number, so you think that pickup is getting easier for you, so you get a makeout, and you think it's getting even easier, then you get a *******, etc. The only way to start this cycle though is field experience -- get out there and get the small successes, and build on them.

-Dan

Dan, the cool RSI intern
http://www.rapidsocialimpact.com

 

[nonstop]

this is true, I remember in my early days when I didn't know what I was doing and somehow I managed to score with one girl it was like a doorway had been opened and every girl I met was a possible target and within reach, plus the first girl introduces you to all her friends so that helps too.

but really all you need to think is if you can get one girl, you can get another and another and another.

 

[HB_Hunter]

Well , I agree with this awesome tip ...It's all about the mindset which you can control . Getting and picking up women for me is very easy and i just have fun , play around and not think about it . It occurs naturally let me say .

My problem is with maintaining the relationship , getting to know the girl deeply and initiating things . Coming from a country that's kinda different than the u.s or europe in culture . Hot , good Women here (not all of them though) don't like the idea of going one-on-one dates . It should be a group thing first then if there's mutual attraction and chemistry . It can develop to be a relationship then one-on-one . But thing is i don't find it easy to initiate a group outing . I mean most of my friends ( the ones i know from long time) are in a closed-circle and they are either engaged or not outgoing like before .

So for example : if i picked up a girl for a example from the gym or any place . to go out with her , i shall invite her and include her in a group , she won't agree with both of us only going out even if she has high interest . Sometimes I ask her to get her friends and me to get mine and it works ..other times i don't find the right ppl and the girl is lonely . This pressure to initiate things and try to find the right ppl going , right place , etc... rather than having fun and going with the flow hold me back at times and this where things go stall and make me clueless as to how to show interest and get to know the girl on a deep level ,to change things around and then try to find techniques and tips of what to do (something that haven't and not willing to do since it isn't a rocket science study ..these are women )

 

[thecraftylefty]

Delta Male,

However, one thing which you didn't mention is that for a guy who has bad inner beliefs and thinks that pickup is hard, changing your inner beliefs is not something that can happen instantly. This is because you don't have to change them on the intellectual level, which is meaningless. You have to change them on a deeper, emotional level, which is not as simple as reading all the rational reasons why its true.

Yeah, I know all about inner game. It took me quite some time to work on the inner, as well as the outer, and make myself congruent with my beliefs. Took some time, but time well spent. Anyone can do it if I can.

Hell, I've been here for roughly 4 years. FOUR YEARS. And I learn something new all the time. That's what's great about it all.

I have time on my side. I've seen what's out there, how girls are, and have experience to back it all up.

For beginners, I would tell them it's just a matter of "when and where," and not "will it ever happen?" to get good at this. Guys can do it, they just have to stick to the plan and not give up so easily. Some people pick it up quicker than others, and that's fine. It's not a race.


thecraftylefty