OK. So she gave you her phone number, even though you just met somewhere. So far, so good. This shows you passed TWO of her tests. Masculine courage, and a minimum acceptability of PERSONALITY and APPEARANCE.
But now, you've got to pass a HARDER test. You have to CREATE INTEREST solely through STYLE. This is the harder test. Trust me(since i work in sales), you have NOTHING but your own wits on the impersonal telephone.
To backtrack, I KNOW that a lot of you guys believe in keeping the first call to a bare minimum to retain an air of mystery, control, and non-availability, but I'm gonna disagree with you.
I'd shoot for TEN minutes of convo and then a planned date.
See, this girl is STILL probably unsure if she's going to chase you. See, so far by getting the #, and calling, YOURE CHASING HER. If that continues, she will have little interest.
Here are a few tips I've learned (sometimes the hard way):
1. Be deliberate at first. Remember, youre a PROFESSIONAL guy and you're capable of sounding highly articulate and purposeful.
"Hey, ashley?" This is John,,,,you gave me your phone number at the Gap? "? Remember, youre articulte, forceful yet casual, and have a deliberate destination in mind. Chicks love this.
2.I'd go RIGHT INTO ****y and funny at this point, after she says the obligatory response.
"I just called to see what you bought me?" or "When are you taking me out to dinner?" Anything appropriate and light.
3. After the preliminaries you want to do TWO things. Establish a rapport of similarity(you both like country music, you both play tennis, you both love labradors). Then you want to have a DELIBERATE plan in mind that she can COME ALONG with.
"I'm a regular at the java hut on the west end highway. Let's get together there in the NEXT FEW DAYS and (go right back to ****y and funny)discuss..."the meaning of (go back to the interests) the universe, or something more complex".
4. See, I like to use THAT line a lot with casual acquaintances a lot because it WORKS FOR ME. "the meaning of the universe" is a cool line because it shows youre both DEEP, and WACKY at the same time,,,,two things women like a lot.
5. Finally, a few helpful pointers.
A. DONT call a women after an anguished silence of time in your schedule. Call her RIGHT AFTER another phone call with a pal that youre YOURSELF with,,,,,funny, and light. It'll be REALLY easy to slip into the ****y and funny.
B. I like to call between 9pm and 10:30 PM. She'll be HOME and getting ready for sleep. There's nothing more desperate than a LOT of phone calls trying to track her down. If she's not home at 10pm the first night, call her at 11 the next.
C. DO call her from your car on your way somewhere. Remember, youre not sitting home alone.
D. Take at most ONE call waiting call. Make it quick, and apologize telling her "its a friend of mine i can get back with later"
E. Before hanging up, be funny ONE more time. I like to use this line a lot:
"See you at java joe's. I'll be wearing my green tuxedo" or anything else goofy. "I'll have on bowling shoes".
Practice makes perfect.
But now, you've got to pass a HARDER test. You have to CREATE INTEREST solely through STYLE. This is the harder test. Trust me(since i work in sales), you have NOTHING but your own wits on the impersonal telephone.
To backtrack, I KNOW that a lot of you guys believe in keeping the first call to a bare minimum to retain an air of mystery, control, and non-availability, but I'm gonna disagree with you.
I'd shoot for TEN minutes of convo and then a planned date.
See, this girl is STILL probably unsure if she's going to chase you. See, so far by getting the #, and calling, YOURE CHASING HER. If that continues, she will have little interest.
Here are a few tips I've learned (sometimes the hard way):
1. Be deliberate at first. Remember, youre a PROFESSIONAL guy and you're capable of sounding highly articulate and purposeful.
"Hey, ashley?" This is John,,,,you gave me your phone number at the Gap? "? Remember, youre articulte, forceful yet casual, and have a deliberate destination in mind. Chicks love this.
2.I'd go RIGHT INTO ****y and funny at this point, after she says the obligatory response.
"I just called to see what you bought me?" or "When are you taking me out to dinner?" Anything appropriate and light.
3. After the preliminaries you want to do TWO things. Establish a rapport of similarity(you both like country music, you both play tennis, you both love labradors). Then you want to have a DELIBERATE plan in mind that she can COME ALONG with.
"I'm a regular at the java hut on the west end highway. Let's get together there in the NEXT FEW DAYS and (go right back to ****y and funny)discuss..."the meaning of (go back to the interests) the universe, or something more complex".
4. See, I like to use THAT line a lot with casual acquaintances a lot because it WORKS FOR ME. "the meaning of the universe" is a cool line because it shows youre both DEEP, and WACKY at the same time,,,,two things women like a lot.
5. Finally, a few helpful pointers.
A. DONT call a women after an anguished silence of time in your schedule. Call her RIGHT AFTER another phone call with a pal that youre YOURSELF with,,,,,funny, and light. It'll be REALLY easy to slip into the ****y and funny.
B. I like to call between 9pm and 10:30 PM. She'll be HOME and getting ready for sleep. There's nothing more desperate than a LOT of phone calls trying to track her down. If she's not home at 10pm the first night, call her at 11 the next.
C. DO call her from your car on your way somewhere. Remember, youre not sitting home alone.
D. Take at most ONE call waiting call. Make it quick, and apologize telling her "its a friend of mine i can get back with later"
E. Before hanging up, be funny ONE more time. I like to use this line a lot:
"See you at java joe's. I'll be wearing my green tuxedo" or anything else goofy. "I'll have on bowling shoes".
Practice makes perfect.
