Personals: Getting a lay on the first meeting

[ThinWhiteDuke]

I prefer to meet girls from the personals with my friends. When that isn't possible and I have to meet her alone, I've gone 2 for 2 with this approach to closing personals chicks on the first date. It's a combination of stuff from Style, Mystery and David D:

Step 1: Meet her at a bar (not a coffee shop) and show up 10-15 minutes late. It sends the message that you have a busy schedule. No more than 10-15 minutes late or you'll just seem rude.

2: The first words out of your mouth after "Hi" should be, "You don't look like your pictures". Nothing else. No complements or small talk first. She doesn't look like her pictures, even if she does. This puts her on the defensive. You didn't tell her that she looks WORSE than her photos, but she'll take it like that's what you meant and start defending herself.

3: Immediately move her to the bar if she isn't sitting there already. You can't read her body language or make it easy for her to touch you when you're sitting across the table from one another. Tell her that you prefer to sit at the bar and lead her there.

4: As soon as you take your seat and you are facing the bar, turn your body slightly away from her. You can even cross your legs in the opposite direction from her. Now you've demonstrated both verbally and through your BL that you aren't impressed by her. You've also separated yourself BIG TIME from every other guy she's met this way. She'll respond by trying to win you over.

5: Let the bartender know that you're running separate tabs before you order your drink. This is a first meeting and you don't pay her way.

6: Your opening body language is negative, you've verbally implied that you aren't impressed by her appearance (with your comment about her photos), and you aren't buying her drinks. You're up 3-0. Do 'The Cube' if you know how (to help her relax). If you don't, a funny story that you've been using would probably be a good substitute. Also, let her talk about herself so that she invests time in you to create trust + comfort. I tease and bust on her, too.

6: Watch her closely for positive body language (playing with her hair, turning her body toward you, her pupils dilating or her touching you). Keep your OWN BL negative until she opens up hers.

7: Once she's giving you good BL, show that she's winning you over by turning your body toward her slowly over a short period of time (don't be obvious about it). You'll soon get into excellent rapport with her at the bar and start 'vibing'. You may even feel like you can kiss her at this point (don't).

8: Now that the trust issues are out of the way and you're both vibing, you move her to a second location. You should have this preplanned before your meeting. By moving her to a second place, it creates a time distortion in her subconscious mind so that she that she feels like she's known you longer than just the first date. This step is a big key and will help eliminate resistance about her just having met you when you invite her back to your place later. Pick a place within 5-10 minutes of where you live if at all possible. The closer, the better.

9: Spend an hour or so at the 2nd locale, then give her an excuse to come back to your place without verbalizing anything about sex (to meet your dog or whatever). If you've followed the previous steps, she'll go. The rest is up to you.

 

[sapphire]

That is a pretty good breakdown of first date seduction techniques and closely parallels my method which also has been quite succesful.

I like to take a step further and change the venue to 2 or 3 different places. I find the more places you go the more likely they will end up in bed with you. It is crazy but so true.

Before I get to step 9 I get them so horny and comfortable with me that quite often I don't even have to mention them going over to my place. It is as if they already know and they just follow my lead or they will make up an excuse to see my place which often leads to sex.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Good stuff. I've always just headed straight for my place after meeting meeting at a public place. I'll give that a shot.

 

[Immaculate]

Originally posted by ThinWhiteDuke
I prefer to meet girls from the personals with my friends. When that isn't possible and I have to meet her alone, I've gone 2 for 2 with this approach to closing personals chicks on the first date. It's a combination of stuff from Style, Mystery and David D:

Step 1: Meet her at a bar (not a coffee shop) and show up 10-15 minutes late. It sends the message that you have a busy schedule. No more than 10-15 minutes late or you'll just seem rude.

2: The first words out of your mouth after "Hi" should be, "You don't look like your pictures". Nothing else. No complements or small talk first. She doesn't look like her pictures, even if she does. This puts her on the defensive. You didn't tell her that she looks WORSE than her photos, but she'll take it like that's what you meant and start defending herself.

3: Immediately move her to the bar if she isn't sitting there already. You can't read her body language or make it easy for her to touch you when you're sitting across the table from one another. Tell her that you prefer to sit at the bar and lead her there.

4: As soon as you take your seat and you are facing the bar, turn your body slightly away from her. You can even cross your legs in the opposite direction from her. Now you've demonstrated both verbally and through your BL that you aren't impressed by her. You've also separated yourself BIG TIME from every other guy she's met this way. She'll respond by trying to win you over.

5: Let the bartender know that you're running separate tabs before you order your drink. This is a first meeting and you don't pay her way.

6: Your opening body language is negative, you've verbally implied that you aren't impressed by her appearance (with your comment about her photos), and you aren't buying her drinks. You're up 3-0. Do 'The Cube' if you know how (to help her relax). If you don't, a funny story that you've been using would probably be a good substitute. Also, let her talk about herself so that she invests time in you to create trust + comfort. I tease and bust on her, too.

6: Watch her closely for positive body language (playing with her hair, turning her body toward you, her pupils dilating or her touching you). Keep your OWN BL negative until she opens up hers.

7: Once she's giving you good BL, show that she's winning you over by turning your body toward her slowly over a short period of time (don't be obvious about it). You'll soon get into excellent rapport with her at the bar and start 'vibing'. You may even feel like you can kiss her at this point (don't).

8: Now that the trust issues are out of the way and you're both vibing, you move her to a second location. You should have this preplanned before your meeting. By moving her to a second place, it creates a time distortion in her subconscious mind so that she that she feels like she's known you longer than just the first date. This step is a big key and will help eliminate resistance about her just having met you when you invite her back to your place later. Pick a place within 5-10 minutes of where you live if at all possible. The closer, the better.

9: Spend an hour or so at the 2nd locale, then give her an excuse to come back to your place without verbalizing anything about sex (to meet your dog or whatever). If you've followed the previous steps, she'll go. The rest is up to you.

I'm with you on the coffee shop thing.. I hate those. This chic from match just emailed me saying let's meet for coffee... I emailed her back counter offering drinks at a bar but she hasn't emailed me back yet lol.