People Who Break The Rules//Attraction through

[Learning]

First off, I'd like to say that I'm definitely a believer in a lot of the advice in what's given here on how to attract women.


However, I want to talk about people who break the rules and are still together. People who according to normal Don Juan thinking should not be together because they're doing all the things that should be repelling attraction. However, they're still together.
I thought it might be fun if people here were to list and talk about situations where couples are seemingly defying attraction laws and are yet still doing well as a couple. Hmm, perhaps it'll catch up to them?

When I was younger, I just thought the attraction thing was due a good deal to fate and natural attraction. It just happens. I now realize that this is not tottally true at all but I'm wondering how much of it is. Perhaps with people that break the attraction rules just have a natural connection. That brings me to pheremones or whatever else there is out there.
For guys, attraction is due a lot to looks. For me it is. I am attracted more to in shape women than I am with women who aren't as genetically gifted. I can't help it. It's just the way it is. That being said, I'm not always attracted to hot women. For example, I have what others would call hot sisters, cousins and aunts. I'm not attracted to them though I do notice that the further out of the family the more attractive a girl becomes. It's natural, I can't help being not attracted to them. Thankfully Others though are attracted to them. They can't help it. Why is that? It's just nature.
Some people are gay. Some people are straight. Some people are bisexual. They can't help who they're attracted to. Nature is powerful

Which leads me to believe that attraction is just not about being in good shape/hot for a women or a guy being a true man. A girl or guy has to sometimes be more attracted to each other just due to nature. What I'm saying is that if you line up 5 extremely similar people in all aspects I think there's still naturally going to be one person the girl or guy is going to be more attracted to. Now wether that's due to phermones/something else or more likely a combination I don't know. I'm just wondering how powerful this is and maybe it's the reason why some people can break the attraction rules and still be attracted to each other.

Ok, I'm very tired so I hope my points make sense. Basically, I'm saying that nature will at times allow some people to break the attraction rules. I'm wondering how powerful this can be.

Also, feel free to share stories about people who break the rules and are still attracted to each other. Or whatever else you want to talk about.

 

[BetterThanBond]

Ya I agree. Some girls just seem to have a subconcious connection to me. You can feel it. Others are the meh she's hot.

 

[MacAvoy]

No one ever said an AFC can't get laid or can't attract women. You have to remember that AFC's out number DJ's by a LARGE majority. In the same way that guys are brainwashed to becoming AFC's, the same media is portraying that to women as well.

So of course, they are going to be a large number of women who stick with them. However, what it does is gives us Don Juan's an advantage over the average AFC of the world. Being a Don Juan is about exceeding the status quo, not accepting it. Its about striving to be a better man. A DJ will attract more women and will better keep them attracted.

 

[Warrior74]

Didn't some guru say attraction is not a choice? It's not. Which is why when you hoe chase (do a million approaches) you will get tons of rejections. You are basically sifting through they haystack looking for the needle that is attracted to you.

Now you can do a bunch of things to amp up attraction, but then she's attracted to the image you presented, not who you are as a man.

Which is why it's important to become the man you want to be. That way you will naturally attract the women you want. You can't fake it with a bunch of PUA scripts and games. When she meets the real you later she'll leave.

Which is not to say you shouldn't approach...but just realise what your doing when you go out there. You are looking for those who are attracted to you. And it's good practice at being social.

So focus on becoming the man you want to be. Don't take rejection personally, and have fun.

 

[Mavrick]

Didn't some guru say attraction is not a choice? It's not. Which is why when you hoe chase (do a million approaches) you will get tons of rejections. You are basically sifting through they haystack looking for the needle that is attracted to you.

Now you can do a bunch of things to amp up attraction, but then she's attracted to the image you presented, not who you are as a man.

Which is why it's important to become the man you want to be. That way you will naturally attract the women you want. You can't fake it with a bunch of PUA scripts and games. When she meets the real you later she'll leave.

Which is not to say you shouldn't approach...but just realise what your doing when you go out there. You are looking for those who are attracted to you. And it's good practice at being social.

So focus on becoming the man you want to be. Don't take rejection personally, and have fun.

So, basically you become your natural self as a man that knows who he is or you rely on the Law of Numbers, get rejected a whole lot, and hope for a limited number of successes?

 

[MacAvoy]

So, basically you become your natural self as a man that knows who he is or you rely on the Law of Numbers, get rejected a whole lot, and hope for a limited number of successes?

Yes this is the key. While I've got nothing wrong with guys that approach, and for the AVERAGE person who approaches to a degree its a numbers game, but for a man who truly believes in himself and cold approaches, it won't be a numbers game because he will be confident & naturally attractive and will get a significantly higher percentage than the average joe who approaches.

But back to your first sentence which I believe is key. Once you become a natural confident person, then people will flock to you, they will enjoy your company, they will want to be around you, they will seek your presence.

Then the women will throw themselves at you. Why ... because a woman would rather share a successful man than be saddled to a faithful loser!

 

[BeyondCharm]

MacAvoy is right. The more you've settled into becoming a man who knows he is attractive, confident, fun to be around and loved by women, the more women will pick up on this and reciprocate.

Lots of AFC's are getting laid, but very few of them can get laid by multiple women or date multiple women simultaneously while remaining the prize to all of them.
You might be thinking "Well, won't women just see that kind of person as a player?".... They might use that word, but they'll know he is a prize to be won by women and that you are so desired by women that you are able to see more than one so that you can decide if any of them are worthy of being in a relationship.

I recommend dating at least 5 different women before jumping into a new relationship after being in any previous one. People don't realize how easy it is once you learn the skills taught in the DJ bible to get dates with beautiful women. It's very simple and everyone here can do it if they only believe in themselves and do the work necessary.

 

[Sandow]

dont be so inclined to believe that there are "rules" when it comes to attraction. i think too many people take this sh$t too seriously and believe there is some blue-print. dont listen to david deangelo, everybody is different and want different things. If there were laws of atraction, or a blue-print, then we wouldnt be on this site!

 

[Squiggly Sponge]

I think the rules are meant to be used as a solid foundation for recovering guys. The more experience you get, the better you become at knowing which and when the rules do and do not apply.

And the AFC's who got lucky... reminds me of a phrase from Nas (rapper):

"Say you went platinum, yeah that's nice
Now go ahead and do the same thing twice"

Actually being aware of what you're doing makes all the difference and it's the distinguishing factor between a DJ and a lucky AFC.

 

[Wodan]

Yes to have direction instead and choose more diversly instead of to be blind and get the things close.