Paying for stuff

[TheNewGuy]

I know that girls always expect you to pay for stuff when you take them out, and in the DJ state of mind you make them pay. The question I have is, HOW do you make them pay without being too much of a ****?

Do I just buy my ticket and walk through the gates, waiting for her? Do I come out and say, "You're paying for yourself"?

Thanks

 

[Zod]

You don't pick up a girl, buy her flowers and pay for her dinner on a first date. You meet her at the beach and walk around or you meet her at a coffee house and talk. She pays for her $hit, you pay for yours. Think of this smokin' hot girl just like your best friend. The only difference is she has a really nice pair of juggs and jell-o @ss.. Just like phone conversations, you keep the dates short. Coffee should last about 40-45 minutes. If you ever wonder how long you a get together with a girl should be, use common sense. If you went out with your buddy to get coffee, you probably wouldn't be there for more than 30-40 minutes. Unless your one of those gothic people who bring their guitar and hang out at the coffee shop for 3 hours. Now once you guys have starting fukin' like chimps on Xstacy then you can get a little bit more flashy with your get togethers.

So once you are deeper into a relationship, you can start paying for a couple things. This is what I do, I completely pay for dinner one time, and then she will pay for the tickets.

 

[NYC Dude]

Solution: do free/cheap dates until you know something long-term will come out of the relationship, then you should both be comfortable paying however you see fit.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

Usually if u dont offer to pay before hand she knows to pay


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[Inquire]

i dont know, i would always pay for dates. i dont know, tradition i guess. but just dont pay for junk, like accessory items she wants. make her get that without ur cash.

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

the dj mindset you were talking about (such as making the girl pay for you) can only be achieved when you are truly confident in your own game. the basic system is to play her like she's trying to pick you up.

recent example: HB7.5 wants me to teach her a song on guitar (of course its to get me and her alone) but i tell her i don't just give away lessons for free, and that she'd have to pay me. She of course starts listing off all manner of dirty and unmentionable things. But I say that'd I rather she bought me a good coffee at starbucks or something. She said she'd take me out for dinner, so I agreed. easy

plus, by saying that i'd rather get the coffee then the sexual favors, it shows that im in control and that im not desperate. so of course ill get lots later on

keep playing

 

[dannowillbookem]

Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
the dj mindset you were talking about (such as making the girl pay for you) can only be achieved when you are truly confident in your own game. the basic system is to play her like she's trying to pick you up.

recent example: HB7.5 wants me to teach her a song on guitar (of course its to get me and her alone) but i tell her i don't just give away lessons for free, and that she'd have to pay me. She of course starts listing off all manner of dirty and unmentionable things. But I say that'd I rather she bought me a good coffee at starbucks or something. She said she'd take me out for dinner, so I agreed. easy

plus, by saying that i'd rather get the coffee then the sexual favors, it shows that im in control and that im not desperate. so of course ill get lots later on

keep playing

very nicely handled

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by dannowillbookem
very nicely handled

cheers

 

[DJ_in_making]

really? Which DJ bible article says not to pay for women? I thought it was just not spend money on her like a desperate AFC.

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by DJ_in_making
really? Which DJ bible article says not to pay for women? I thought it was just not spend money on her like a desperate AFC.

I don't know if it's actually mentioned, but paying for her, or buying a girl a drink in a bar / club if you just met her is a bad thing.

Mostly at the start of relationships, you do not want to be paying for her.

You pay for your stuff, she pays for hers.

Here is an example.

Say you are going out to some coffee shop. You go up to the register and take your order, now theres a few things that can happen here. The clerk might just take your order, and then you wont have to deal with paying for her order.

In another case, you will take your order then the clerk will ask for her order. Then just say these orders are seperate.

In another situation, you will take your order then she will immediately just jump in and say what she wants. At this point, know how much whatever she bought cost. Then when the cashier tells you the fee, you say something like, "Hey, I need 5$" or however much her thing cost.

And if a girl says she didn't bring money, call her on it. Tell her to check her purse. No girl goes anywhere without money. If she REALLY doesn't have any money, too bad for her.

If the girl is really mad at the situation, just calmly explain to her that you don't pay for friends stuff. This should get her going because she will think you are just friends and she isn't doing enough to make you think otherwise.

Then at this point, you can say something like, "well, I might let you have some of my drink, but you'll have to do something for me". This could be anything, something that would put the attention on her. You could also bribe her for a kiss, or a strip tease.

 

[blinkwatt]

i never dropa dollar,i aint be lovin them hoes

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by Mctwist4
Since when aren't you supposed to pay for dinner. If you take a girl out on a date, you pay. If you are not on a date, then you don't pay. Simple as that.

Depends though. If you ASK a girl out for a date (AFC imo, it's the chicks privilege to be going out with you, not your privilege), then yeah you should pay. But if you just are on a 'get together' then its mutual.

 

[SomethingCreative]

Paying for a woman shows class. Obviously not on stuff but if you are going to get coffee, you can afford the $5, don't be cheap. As much as all of you think it makes you a DJ by not paying when you are going out with a chick, she will think youy are cheap and an ******* and it won't get you anywhere. An example, one of my good female friends went on a date with this kid she liked for a long time and he didn't pay. She is not a gold digger at all or even close to caring about that kind of stuff, but because of the principle, she never went out with him again. Maybe it depends where you are from, but if you don't pay for a girl in south florida, you are done. This is obviously assuming it is a date and not a "get together" as stated before.

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by SomethingCreative
She is not a gold digger at all or even close to caring about that kind of stuff, but because of the principle, she never went out with him again. Maybe it depends where you are from, but if you don't pay for a girl in south florida, you are done. This is obviously assuming it is a date and not a "get together" as stated before.

A) she probably went on the date with the guy and he turned out to be afc, so she didn't like him, and thats why she didn't date him again. if a girl likes you enough things like her morals and principles tend to disappear

B) the point is that you are supposed to be asking them to "get together" or "hang out" not date. when i use this, i tell the girl we are "getting together" not going out on a date, because the point of dating like a don juan is never letting the girl know for sure if you like her or not, aka being mysterious. If you call it a date, then she knows you like her enough to date her, which takes away some of the attraction.

 

[xenten]

This is what I would do if I was meeting a girl at a coffee shop. Get there a few minutes early, buy your coffee, sit down and wait for her to get there. When she gets there you won't be obligated to pay for her, unless she asks you to.

Not sure what the DJ's think, but this is from a RAFC.