towards the end of june, i was convinced by my two best friends to try going out with a certain girl from school for a while. at first, i really didn't think i wanted to do it. in the end, they convinced me, so that night i got her number feeling really glad that they are as persuasive as they are.
last month, on the fourth of july, i asked her out. really, i didn't think it was a huge issue, but nobody else around me would leave me alone until i made it "official." apparently, she had already considered us as going out anyway, but ya know...
so, during the past month of dating her, i've had to put forth a lot of effort. she is quite a nervous person, so everything from holding hands to cuddling have been difficult for her until i got her started. the big problem, however, was getting a proper kiss close after a date. a couple weeks ago, we had our first time kissing in any way, and it was just a swift pecks on the lips. after a couple more dates, they were less swift, but still not any better.
finally, on a night in which we went to a friend's house to watch movies, i got some kisses that lasted pretty long, but were still no better. upon dropping her off at home, i tried getting some tongue action goin, but to no avail. this happened again on the next date.
today, all my efforts started paying off, but not with any more ease than anything else. i had heard yesterday that today she'd be going into the whole "i love you" thing, so i started to freak a little bit. i had planned to keep trying a little bit longer, then bail out if i didn't get anywhere (my previous girlfriend lasted 4 months with no more kissing action than i'd had with this girl now). this, however, meant i'd have to decide today whether i wanted to bail out or get her pulled in further, making it 10x worse if i broke up with her.
after registering for high school, we went to the park. there, she finally said it, i guess. she said, "when you first asked me out, i really liked you. since then, it's grown into something more." then she commenced in some sign language **** for "i love you." much to my surprise, i found myself very calm. i knew what i wanted to do, and how i wanted to do it. one problem is i've never said "i love you" to a girl except as an act of desperation after one of them dumped me... basically, i wound up saying, "you know what? i do to." after this was another kiss identical to all the rest.
the rest of the day continued in such a way, only with me trying harder than ever to get her in for a real kiss. at the end, when it was time for us to go, i said, "come on... for a good-bye gift." then, i moved in, kissed her for a couple seconds in the same manner as before (me trying to get the tongue action started, her resisting), but then she opened up! it only got as far as a couple seconds with each of us with the other's lip, me, as usual, being the only one using the tongue.
i'm now positive i reacted just fine to her decision to "declare her undying love for me," as it were. the way she behaves, she'll finally be comfortable enough for a good make-out session any day now...
in closing, i'd just like to say never give up. the more you have to work for something, the better it feels when you finally achieve it.
Kevbo
last month, on the fourth of july, i asked her out. really, i didn't think it was a huge issue, but nobody else around me would leave me alone until i made it "official." apparently, she had already considered us as going out anyway, but ya know...
so, during the past month of dating her, i've had to put forth a lot of effort. she is quite a nervous person, so everything from holding hands to cuddling have been difficult for her until i got her started. the big problem, however, was getting a proper kiss close after a date. a couple weeks ago, we had our first time kissing in any way, and it was just a swift pecks on the lips. after a couple more dates, they were less swift, but still not any better.
finally, on a night in which we went to a friend's house to watch movies, i got some kisses that lasted pretty long, but were still no better. upon dropping her off at home, i tried getting some tongue action goin, but to no avail. this happened again on the next date.
today, all my efforts started paying off, but not with any more ease than anything else. i had heard yesterday that today she'd be going into the whole "i love you" thing, so i started to freak a little bit. i had planned to keep trying a little bit longer, then bail out if i didn't get anywhere (my previous girlfriend lasted 4 months with no more kissing action than i'd had with this girl now). this, however, meant i'd have to decide today whether i wanted to bail out or get her pulled in further, making it 10x worse if i broke up with her.
after registering for high school, we went to the park. there, she finally said it, i guess. she said, "when you first asked me out, i really liked you. since then, it's grown into something more." then she commenced in some sign language **** for "i love you." much to my surprise, i found myself very calm. i knew what i wanted to do, and how i wanted to do it. one problem is i've never said "i love you" to a girl except as an act of desperation after one of them dumped me... basically, i wound up saying, "you know what? i do to." after this was another kiss identical to all the rest.
the rest of the day continued in such a way, only with me trying harder than ever to get her in for a real kiss. at the end, when it was time for us to go, i said, "come on... for a good-bye gift." then, i moved in, kissed her for a couple seconds in the same manner as before (me trying to get the tongue action started, her resisting), but then she opened up! it only got as far as a couple seconds with each of us with the other's lip, me, as usual, being the only one using the tongue.
i'm now positive i reacted just fine to her decision to "declare her undying love for me," as it were. the way she behaves, she'll finally be comfortable enough for a good make-out session any day now...
in closing, i'd just like to say never give up. the more you have to work for something, the better it feels when you finally achieve it.
Kevbo
