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Me and friend were having a discussion on the best place to go on a date seeing how he has just started seeing someone. He smiled nervously and said "you're absolutely crazy", which I disagreed because having been paintballing dozens of times since I was a younger I have seen numerous couples at paintball venues and I have seen a lot of women partaking in paintballing.

What I want to know is has anyone on here been on a paintball date? If so, how was it, was it successful? Would you do it again with someone else? If you think it's stupid idea why do you think it is stupid?

My friend is deadset against the idea and instead chose tickets to see Dirty Dancing the Musical instead.

Oh and this will be his first date, so it was a first date idea.
 

boomerick

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Uhhhhhh....

I think the trick is to pull her into your world not suplicate to hers......

I think you win........

You are showing her a side of you....(which is what she wants)

Plus you are doing something you like so even if she's a dud you still have fun doing what you like to do....

Your friend is trying to please......

As an aside when I was vetting chicks to see if they were cool and could hang I used to take them primitive camping....

If they could stay cool and have fun in the "adverse" situation following me into my world caused, I figured that they had their heads together and were very into me......

It worked as a VERY GOOD cool chick filter.....

Lead her into your territory.....

Over and Out.
 

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Paint-balling is a good date. Went this summer with a girl iv been seeing for several months now and she loved it.

Its not for every girl though, this chick has also been skydiving, camping, and kayaking with me so shes a bit on the adventurous side.

Id do it again but its kinda expensive, even with her paying for her own way.
 

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perseverance said:
My friend is deadset against the idea and instead chose tickets to see Dirty Dancing the Musical instead.

Oh and this will be his first date, so it was a first date idea.

that is a fuc.king expensive first date....

that'd be a kinda "reward" for her after being a good GF after a long time... and she'd have to been hinting that she wanted to see it with me for a while (challenge)
 

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perseverance said:
My friend is deadset against the idea and instead chose tickets to see Dirty Dancing the Musical instead.
Your friend will be the same guy complaining that his wife never lets him watch the football games on Sunday or hang out with his friends.
It'll happen.

The first "date" is pretty much a "setting the bar" type of experience. The first date doesn't start when the two people show up, it starts from the courting process through the planning process and then leading up to the actual meet-up.

Dirty Dancing the Musical?

I hope he's in some school of Dance & Arts.

Paintball > Dirty Dancing the Musical

It sets a tone that you want to bring her into your world and that you want to show her what YOU like to do. I really want to know, was he REALLY being down on the paintball idea and trying to refute it by saying that going to a musical he most likely didn't really want to see... was a better idea?

Now, my point is that I think (never done it on a date) that doing the whole paintball experience might be a little pricey for a first date, depending on where you go. That's my only qualm. And usually, there's a "too much could go wrong" element to it. I love action dates, but this one has a little too much action going into it. Not all women will go for that type of thing.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I like really girly girls. I think if a chick agreed to go paint balling with me I would probably not be to interested in her.
 

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Your friend sounds like he's almost trying to land himself in the friend zone. Unless he's just a really big fan of musicals.... in which case I'd be a little more concerned about his sexuality.
 

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paintball is real fun (hence the name), but i think its too expensive for a date.
 
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Kailex said:
I really want to know, was he REALLY being down on the paintball idea and trying to refute it by saying that going to a musical he most likely didn't really want to see... was a better idea?
His exact words were "Are you f*cking crazy? That's worst date idea, I've ever heard, you can't take a woman paintballing".

He then asked me what my ideal date would be and I said "Skydiving" and he laughed and said this is percisely why you are single.

He is one of these lads who caters to a woman's every need, he thinks he is a Cassanova of some sort. His idea of a great date is bowling and the movies, followed by some dinner. He is a romantic type.

I suggested something out of his and I assume the girls comfort zone. Life is way too short to stay in your shell, you need to out yourself and do things that you never dreamed of doing, that's what I told him, but he is a stubborn one.

He'll pay over £100 easily to go and watch some musical, it would cost far less to go paintballing, or to go kayaking near our outdoor activity centre. So, in truth paintballing works out cheaper and I bet they'd have a lot more fun.
 
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