karmavsDogma
Don Juan
Okay, this has probably been said before, but I'll re-iterate. I was having a discussion earlier tonight with a friend and fellow DJ about this subject. At work a lot of the guys (and some of the women) will have discussions about clubbing, focusing on the picking up women part of clubbing. He and I are two of the most commonly used examples of what to do. Neither of us are masters, mind you, but as far as our work pool goes, we're f*cking kings. Anywho, the best advice I had for todays round table discussion was this one simple phrase: Own the club.
What I mean by this is so simple, which is probably why it goes unnoticed. It also works as well for newbies as it does for long-time DJs, although generally the more experienced the better. Basically, when you go up to talk to a woman, ask her questions about her experience that night. Things like "How are you doing tonight?", "What do you think of this place?", and "Are you enjoying yourself?" are excellent, when said with the right attitude. My friend (we'll call him Russ) will usually go up to some HB and just grab her, pull her close, and ask her something along these lines, while focusing all his attention (i.e. eyes, body, movements) towards her. I have yet to see this approach fail. It's all in the attitude that comes off as "This is my place, and I want you to have a good time while you're here at my place." He surveys her mood without playing the 20 questions game that most of us (myself included) get bogged down in while trying to think of a way to continue a conversation.
If you talk to a woman up close, with a good smile (not forced, and definitely not some cheesy grin that's barely hiding a leer at her big boobies peeking out the top of her turtleneck) and sincerely listen to and appreciate her response, she'll f*cking melt right there. If you don't belive me, try it a few times until you get it right. If you focus your questions towards her experience at the particular club, especially without revealing your own occupation or reason for asking, you'll instantly create and air of mystery. She'll be sitting there thinking about why you're so interested in how she's enjoying her time there, and you can walk away confident knowing she's thinking you somehow hold sway in the place. It's actually pretty common for us to get asked if we own the place, or if we work there or something along those lines. The best response Russ and I have found is a genuine smile and a long silence (basically, don't answer if you can avoid it; and if you have to answer, say you're just curious is all). Of course, it helps if you know some of the wait staff or some of the regulars, but it can work in places you don't frequent as well. Hell, it can work just about anywhere, as long as you come off as confident as possible and keep it smooth. Once you've grabbed her attention, lead the conversation wherever you want it to go, and don't forget the f*cking KINO!!
Just my $.02.
What I mean by this is so simple, which is probably why it goes unnoticed. It also works as well for newbies as it does for long-time DJs, although generally the more experienced the better. Basically, when you go up to talk to a woman, ask her questions about her experience that night. Things like "How are you doing tonight?", "What do you think of this place?", and "Are you enjoying yourself?" are excellent, when said with the right attitude. My friend (we'll call him Russ) will usually go up to some HB and just grab her, pull her close, and ask her something along these lines, while focusing all his attention (i.e. eyes, body, movements) towards her. I have yet to see this approach fail. It's all in the attitude that comes off as "This is my place, and I want you to have a good time while you're here at my place." He surveys her mood without playing the 20 questions game that most of us (myself included) get bogged down in while trying to think of a way to continue a conversation.
If you talk to a woman up close, with a good smile (not forced, and definitely not some cheesy grin that's barely hiding a leer at her big boobies peeking out the top of her turtleneck) and sincerely listen to and appreciate her response, she'll f*cking melt right there. If you don't belive me, try it a few times until you get it right. If you focus your questions towards her experience at the particular club, especially without revealing your own occupation or reason for asking, you'll instantly create and air of mystery. She'll be sitting there thinking about why you're so interested in how she's enjoying her time there, and you can walk away confident knowing she's thinking you somehow hold sway in the place. It's actually pretty common for us to get asked if we own the place, or if we work there or something along those lines. The best response Russ and I have found is a genuine smile and a long silence (basically, don't answer if you can avoid it; and if you have to answer, say you're just curious is all). Of course, it helps if you know some of the wait staff or some of the regulars, but it can work in places you don't frequent as well. Hell, it can work just about anywhere, as long as you come off as confident as possible and keep it smooth. Once you've grabbed her attention, lead the conversation wherever you want it to go, and don't forget the f*cking KINO!!
Just my $.02.