Overdoing it...

Sandman2000

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I've had some nice success with the ****y & Funny material, but sometimes if I start to get a lot of laughs, I start escalating it. More often than not, the girl's attraction for me tapers off. It seems like I can always find something to say if I'm cracking on them, but when I'm trying to get some conversation going, I fall flat on my face. I guess I'm having problems with the "comfort building" faze.
Any tips would be appreciated.
 

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Great post, Da.
Excellent advice here.


Do not reward if she does not give you something back.
Most women expect the man to do all the approching and keep the conversation alive and interesting. They expect to sit back and stay in control. While you do all the work. Don't be afraid to ask her what kind of hobbies or what is her passin. IF she says "Well, I like to have fun and go out." It's ok to DV her, and and bring out to the light her lack of interesting and unique qualities. Sadly, to say , a LOT of women don't have interesting lives or hobbies and interests.
Be prepared for airhead women who only have their looks and nothing more.
Sincve they get by on their looks alone, they expect everyone to bend to their will and entertain them. But you're not there to "impress" them or "entertain" them. Very important points to recognize.
Be the Prize. And act accodingly, no matter what.
Recognize your Self Worth, and keep that in your mind at all times.

Good convo and interactions really start to take off when you know how to engage her on her information, and she genuinely is interested in you.
Good chemistry means that she will give you something back and will give you little hints and good info to feed off of.
GREAT chemistry is when she is laughing , giggling, and kinoing you uninhibitedly. Recognize the difference between a woman who thinks you're mildly interesting and is just having a good time with you (she will give you her number, but after she leaves the bar or whatever has probably already decided she won't go out with you. If you call her in 4 to 7 days, THIS chick wion't even rememebr you. This isn't a law, but don't expect great things from her. I mean, she may remember you, but not have high enough IL. Check her signs, will she counteroffer? Or will she say "She's busy"?), versus a woman who is really attracted to you, and is willing to show it. THIS woman will give you her home phone number and will not flake.
Pay attention to the signs.
 

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Sandman2000 said:
I've had some nice success with the ****y & Funny material, but sometimes if I start to get a lot of laughs, I start escalating it. More often than not, the girl's attraction for me tapers off. It seems like I can always find something to say if I'm cracking on them, but when I'm trying to get some conversation going, I fall flat on my face. I guess I'm having problems with the "comfort building" faze.
Any tips would be appreciated.
You're coming off as a "one trick pony." Stop relying just on C/F and expand your capabilities.

Before you can become comfortable with someone you need to first gain rapport. Is C/F doing that for 'ya? Consider being interested in the person by engaging them instead of just performing. Find out something about them and then give them a little bit about yourself in return. It's all a dance.
 
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