Overanalyzing on this site and my theory.

[Dust 2 Dust]

I have noticed something on this site. There seems to be a lot of overanalyzing on this site. Just look at all the field reports that analyze everything a woman says or does.

I have a theory: If a woman meets you and is physically attracted to you( high interest level) then she will allow you to make a few mistakes here and there on a date just as long as you don't do anything rediculously AFC like say "I love you" on the first date becuase she wants to fall for you.

A guy who is physically attractive to the girl already has 75% of the game won. All he has to do is stick to the basics.

Approach, number close, call and schedule the date, show up for date/rapport/kiss close.

On the otherhand if a girl meets you and has Low to medium-low Interest then the girl will be looking for a reason to reject you so you shouldn't waste your time with Low IL girls.

 

[stormwriter]

Yes, i definitely agree with what you said. Sometimes you gotta think about it like that. (concerning the attraction)

It reminds me of this:

You think it should matter, but it doesn't...

Transcribed from GQ:

REMEMBER WHAT MATTERS

As is so often the case, the best advice I ever received came from a drunken, bitter man with a patently ridiculous soul patch. It has been said that you are only as old as you feel, and-- if that is indeed true-- this 27 year-old surfer doofus was approximately 146. And what he taught me was this: You think it should matter, but it doesn't.

I was semi-madly in love with a woman who lived 800 miles away, in Minneapolis, and I'd heard a rumor that she had begun casually dating another man. This was predictably vexing, and I felt my only recourse was to go nuclear. Her birthday was Oct. 16th, and I suspected her new paramour might give her flowers. My plan was to send her two dozen long-stemmed roses; this way, even if the New Guy went for the jugular and gave her a dozen of his own, his gift would suddenly be dwarfed by the monolithic magnitude of my romantic gesture. So this is what I did. And the night before they arrived at her desk, I met this 146 year-old punk in a bar and asked him if he thought this move was brilliant or pathetic.

"Neither", he replied. "If she likes you, she'll think it was the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for her; if she doesn't like you, it will totally freak her out. And if you had sent her nothing, that wouldn't matter, either. If she likes you, she'd find your indifference appealing and powerful; if she doesn't, your indifference would simply validate her belief that you're not the person she should be with. So give her everything or give her nothing. You think it should matter, but it doesn't.

 

[NewMan]

That's fvcking golden

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
I have noticed something on this site. There seems to be a lot of overanalyzing on this site. Just look at all the field reports that analyze everything a woman says or does.

I have a theory: If a woman meets you and is physically attracted to you( high interest level) then she will allow you to make a few mistakes here and there on a date just as long as you don't do anything rediculously AFC like say "I love you" on the first date becuase she wants to fall for you.

A guy who is physically attractive to the girl already has 75% of the game won. All he has to do is stick to the basics.

Approach, number close, call and schedule the date, show up for date/rapport/kiss close.

On the otherhand if a girl meets you and has Low to medium-low Interest then the girl will be looking for a reason to reject you so you shouldn't waste your time with Low IL girls.

Big Bump!! I think that's SO TRUE!! I'm go out pretty much every weekend and I get to see this materialize first hand. One of my buddie's is the biggest AFC on the planet. You know the type, pays for everything, spends hours on end with a girl and confesses his feelings to her within a few days. All big red flags to a girl, but he's also a very average to slightly below average looking guy. Result?? He has a black book filled with girl's numbers, ALL OF WHOM are his "friends." My other buddy and I have hung out with 2 of these girl's with him in the past few months and I've # closed both of them and could easily seal the deal.


That's why I think the BIGGEST TIP in becoming a DJ/PUA is to look your BEST!! If your fat, get a gym pass and get in the best shap of your life. If your balding, shave your head rather than trying to comb hair from behind your ear over your eyes. In general though, I completely agree with Dust 2 Dust, there is SO MUCH AFC over-analyzing on this board its ridiculous. Some of you think you have to DJ a girl PERFECTLY for her to have any interest in you. WRONG!! As long as you portray confidence and Alpha qualities you'll always get the girl.



PIMP

 

[dontmindme]

Very true.

 

[njitalstalian]

after reading, definitely gotta agree with ya there!!! this post reminds of this acronym i learned in my graduate class...

KISS

"keep it simple stupid"

 

[studmuffin15]

solid points on this post. u can read so many different views on these boards, from so many guys who profess themselves to be "djs", that in the end u just come out thoroughly confused.

just like u said, i have found that when a woman is attracted to u, she will be oblivious to a lot of the shyt u "do wrong". she will be very willing to give u the benefit of the doubt on a lot of stuff.

 

[So pimp its scary]

I'd say in the beginning, when people are bound to screw up alot, it's good to overanalyse.

Then, once you get to a certain level, you have all the shyte figured out, and you know how to proceeed. So, for a time overanalyses is not a problem, but it can easily become a problem if you don't know when to just start winging it.

 

[ChunLi]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
I have noticed something on this site. There seems to be a lot of overanalyzing on this site. Just look at all the field reports that analyze everything a woman says or does.

I have a theory: If a woman meets you and is physically attracted to you( high interest level) then she will allow you to make a few mistakes here and there on a date just as long as you don't do anything rediculously AFC like say "I love you" on the first date becuase she wants to fall for you.

A guy who is physically attractive to the girl already has 75% of the game won. All he has to do is stick to the basics.

Approach, number close, call and schedule the date, show up for date/rapport/kiss close.

On the otherhand if a girl meets you and has Low to medium-low Interest then the girl will be looking for a reason to reject you so you shouldn't waste your time with Low IL girls.

I think if we took a survey of everyone here who has studied extensively in any science field, we will know why there is so much overanalysising here.

ChunLi

 

[WatchMeWalk]

Indeed. If a girl is being nitpicky on you, she is either a headcase or has borderline IL.