yungballa
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I've seen a lot of guys on the thread mentioning "oh, i miss her she dumped me"
or "should i go back to my ex?" and even "she broke my heart blah blah blah"
and the list goes on, you get my idea, there's been a lot of threads like the ones I've referred to above.
Anyways, my point is that I've seen too many guys having TOO much focus on women overall. Whether it be their exes or women they hold deep feelings for or whatever.
Well, I'm going to share a piece of my mind with you all for a second.
We all have one life to live. Life is SHORT. We don't have much time on this planet. Average human being lives for about, what, 70-80 years? Then they die. Boom, lights out. Life's over. And even then, your time being young is even SHORTER. High school ends when you're about 18 or so. You're also not gonna be young forever. By the time you're 40-50 it ain't all fun and games anymore, I'm guessing.
My point is, is it HONESTLY worth it to CONTINUE hurting yourself over ONE woman? We live this life ONCE, and on top of that IT'S SHORT! Why are we going to kill ourselves and STRESS ourselves over ONE WOMEN! ONE WOMEN! There's billions of women on this planet. You just have to go out there and find them.
But, more importantly, my message is that instead of stressing over your ex or this one girl you can't get over, just immediately STOP yourself in your tracks. There's nothing wrong with being a male and you sexually want a female, but she's starting to devour your reality and your life as a whole, you're doing something wrong.
What I'm saying is that women should NOT be the focus in your life, YES, this includes the girl that you're oh so fond of, or your ex, etc, etc.
What you should focus on is YOURSELF. Take this in mind: If you're not happy without a woman, NO woman EVER will bring you happiness. No one on in this life is responsible for your happiness except you. You are the ONLY one who is supposed to MAKE yourself happy. How do you do this? Living your life out to the fullest. Lift some weights. Try to better yourself. Talk to more people. Find something you're interested in life and chase your dreams. Do ANYTHING that benefits you and takes your focus OFF of women. I see too many guys with their focus on women. I think it's best that you just take your focus off of women and just take the time to just WORK ON YOURSELF. You have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain from working and improving on yourself.
Then when you've become a better version of yourself you can start to mess around with women again. But, if you're already a messed up, depressed version of yourself, how do you expect to handle women? I'm not saying you should improve yourself for women, heck no. You live your life FOR YOU, BY YOURSELF! Don't do it for the women, my friend. Do it to better your OWN life. Forget the women. Women come and go.
The sad reality is that most likely, you're going to be the only one that you can rely on in your life. Don't expect to rely on a woman for your happiness, because they don't honestly love/care about you. They're just focused on how you make them FEEL, or what they can GET from you. Love you? Pshh. Don't make me laugh. Don't never forget. Women come and go around, forever. No relationships permanent. You don't own any woman, and no woman can contain or own you.
Do this for yourself. Become a better person and reinvent your self for YOURSELF.
Stay strong brothers. :rockon:
or "should i go back to my ex?" and even "she broke my heart blah blah blah"
and the list goes on, you get my idea, there's been a lot of threads like the ones I've referred to above.
Anyways, my point is that I've seen too many guys having TOO much focus on women overall. Whether it be their exes or women they hold deep feelings for or whatever.
Well, I'm going to share a piece of my mind with you all for a second.
We all have one life to live. Life is SHORT. We don't have much time on this planet. Average human being lives for about, what, 70-80 years? Then they die. Boom, lights out. Life's over. And even then, your time being young is even SHORTER. High school ends when you're about 18 or so. You're also not gonna be young forever. By the time you're 40-50 it ain't all fun and games anymore, I'm guessing.
My point is, is it HONESTLY worth it to CONTINUE hurting yourself over ONE woman? We live this life ONCE, and on top of that IT'S SHORT! Why are we going to kill ourselves and STRESS ourselves over ONE WOMEN! ONE WOMEN! There's billions of women on this planet. You just have to go out there and find them.
But, more importantly, my message is that instead of stressing over your ex or this one girl you can't get over, just immediately STOP yourself in your tracks. There's nothing wrong with being a male and you sexually want a female, but she's starting to devour your reality and your life as a whole, you're doing something wrong.
What I'm saying is that women should NOT be the focus in your life, YES, this includes the girl that you're oh so fond of, or your ex, etc, etc.
What you should focus on is YOURSELF. Take this in mind: If you're not happy without a woman, NO woman EVER will bring you happiness. No one on in this life is responsible for your happiness except you. You are the ONLY one who is supposed to MAKE yourself happy. How do you do this? Living your life out to the fullest. Lift some weights. Try to better yourself. Talk to more people. Find something you're interested in life and chase your dreams. Do ANYTHING that benefits you and takes your focus OFF of women. I see too many guys with their focus on women. I think it's best that you just take your focus off of women and just take the time to just WORK ON YOURSELF. You have nothing to lose and EVERYTHING to gain from working and improving on yourself.
Then when you've become a better version of yourself you can start to mess around with women again. But, if you're already a messed up, depressed version of yourself, how do you expect to handle women? I'm not saying you should improve yourself for women, heck no. You live your life FOR YOU, BY YOURSELF! Don't do it for the women, my friend. Do it to better your OWN life. Forget the women. Women come and go.
The sad reality is that most likely, you're going to be the only one that you can rely on in your life. Don't expect to rely on a woman for your happiness, because they don't honestly love/care about you. They're just focused on how you make them FEEL, or what they can GET from you. Love you? Pshh. Don't make me laugh. Don't never forget. Women come and go around, forever. No relationships permanent. You don't own any woman, and no woman can contain or own you.
Do this for yourself. Become a better person and reinvent your self for YOURSELF.
Stay strong brothers. :rockon:
