Our culture of waiting

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This might be one of those "Well duh..." posts, but I think it's good for us to remind ourselves from time to time of our mission objectives (apart from women).

More and more as the recent years have gone by I've noticed that our gadgets and social media are turning us into a culture of waiters. There has occurred a subtle shift in men from proactively going out and slaying dragons in order to get our "fix" of adventure, to waiting for email, SS posts, FaceBook posts, etc. in order to get that little shot of stimulation.

I've noticed it in myself on slower days. I run two businesses, but still have those slow days where I find myself checking in on this or that website in order to get that little dose of stimulation. It occurs to me that this subtly sets a bad habit in motion that's hard to identify and release oneself from once entrenched.

I have taken to non-judgmentally observing myself throughout the day in order to break my autopilot habits. I observe myself checking my email when I really don't need to, and ditto with other media. At that point I'm able to say, "Atom, you're looking for a shot of excitement here when you could be generating that excitement proactively by action."

Again, this is very subtle, but I think it is something we should all pay attention to. This mechanism of seeking stimulation thru the web insidiously quenches our thirst for real-life activity, thereby making us lazy.

We sometimes have negative, nagging emotions on the back burner which can lead to mild or even serious depression. I've learned that these emotions can be channeled, dealt with and disposed of by simply asking the question, "What is this emotion telling me? Why is it here?" These emotions are almost always telling us that some kind of activity is needed, something that we are avoiding.

My new mantra is, "Action = Peace". Instead of using social media to put a tiny band-aid on these emotions and drives, allowing them to fester, I've learned to stop myself and become a much more effective "doer". The computer, the phone, the tablet, are devices that can easily erode our masculine drives through fake, virtual satisfaction. It is little wonder that women, who are inherently weak and entrenched in their herd, maintain a death-grip on their phones. Most of today's young and young-ish women are akin to floating debris on the ocean of life, just seeing where the currents carry them. We should not be the same.

I encourage every man to observe his online habits and ask himself what is making him check for those emails and posts. Is social media your slave or your master? Online activities have their place, but they can easily become a primary source of stimulation at the expense of real-life adventure and risk-taking. This is very similar to the problem of too much video gaming. Our need for accomplishment becomes satisfied in our video victories, thereby sedating our drive to accomplish in real life.

Submitted for what it's worth.
 

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I think this is why everyone needs a zen hobby. Mine's the guitar. :)

A hobby that lets you disconnect from online life, social media, email, text, etc. and get in your own zone for a while. I alternate between iPad and desktop forum to read this forum. I don't read SS on a smartphone. Anyway, I check this forum often, yet I remember to put other priorities first. Career/cont. education, eating healthy, exercising (lifting and cardio), and staying social.

I have various social groups that help me stay active.

I've been guilty of chasing likes and followers on social media by posting cool landscape photos or photos of me doing cool stuff, and I realize it looks vain, so I'm working on that habit. I don't have a significant other or children to show off, so if my defacto is me, I'll be sharing my own social activities and hobbies.

Meditation should also be recommended for disconnecting. Get into a cool chill quiet place, close your eyes, focus on muscle relaxation, watching your thoughts, becoming aware of them, and letting them pass.

Would any DJ be interested in a meditation 30 day challenge thread like NoFap? I think it would help the guys here who would like to make it habit and part of their everyday lives. See 100 benefits of meditation. We can hold each other accountable and share thoughts on our experiences as we go longer and improve in instilling it as a habit.
 

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that's why I think Yoga is a great way to reset our mind and body.
 

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the masses are asses.

don't be a follower.
 

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I’ve been doing this for a long while. It’s called emotional intelligence; my mother began taking a million courses on leadership, diplomacy, etc. and tarted talking to me about. It’s funny because I was telling her “mom I’ve been doing this for the better part of the decade now, I already know what you’re talking about”.

I realize that for me, I do these things because of a desire that I likely cannot do/achieve, compensate for, or because it has a high chance of going wrong and turning out negatively. And even more so than that is because I feel that fulfilling these desires is pointless if they’re fleeting. Who wants to have to rebuild something over and over again? That is the biggest reason for me not to. And because of that, it leads to procrastination which is detrimental to all aspects of my life.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

Serenity

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This forum is the place I forget for a couple of days then suddenly remembers I made a post. I go in to check, maybe scroll through the first page and most often just close the tab as there's no interesting titles.

This title was interesting obviously, but now I'm just gonna close the tab. Maybe check back whenever I remember this place exists, I'm too busy to hang out here.
 
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