Hi all,
I posted recently about a long distance girl who lost interest in me. Although I now see that there is nothing I can do, the whole process brought up some issues that Id like to get opinions on.
Basically, I started to lose this girl once she could tell that I liked her. Thats understandable. No challenge, no interest. "Girls101" stuff. However, toward the end of us talking she told me how she met a new guy who came on VERY strong and Very aggressively. She found it rediculous and would even forward me text convos with him which would look like this:
him:whats up beautiful how is my wife doing today?
her: gross go away
him: i was just thinking of how great we are together
her: u make me wana puke
him: thats ok if you need to
her go away
him: should i come over now?
etc,etc. It seemed like she was clowning him and even laughing at it. As time went on however, she revealed that he sends her goodnight texts and goodmorning texts every day and she said that at first it was annoying but now she really looks forward to it and how hes very charming and very funny. (Im assuming she writes back sweet things now as well to him)
Thats basically around the time when calls from her to me started falling off and I could feel her intereset in me dropped significantly. I've always been attentive to her and complimented her but also maintained a ****y funny, teasing type of thing with her too which seemed to work great for us.
Personal feelings aside and just looking at this as a test subject, Im wondering why a girl would fall for a guy who creates absolutely no challenge, no ability to walk away, is short, unattractive, and smothers her with gooey compliments all day.
Of course all women are obsessed with compliments and love to be fawned over but it seems to go against everything ive heard and experienced that a woman would fall for that kind of thing. That behavior lowers the mans value too much. no?
Maybe the combination of him being so indifferent to her negativity and the fact that hes funny makes him come off as confidant which is a very attractive trait. But still, its almost groveling and desperate. I dont get it.
Anyone have some insight? Trying to avoid future mistakes...
thanks very much.
I posted recently about a long distance girl who lost interest in me. Although I now see that there is nothing I can do, the whole process brought up some issues that Id like to get opinions on.
Basically, I started to lose this girl once she could tell that I liked her. Thats understandable. No challenge, no interest. "Girls101" stuff. However, toward the end of us talking she told me how she met a new guy who came on VERY strong and Very aggressively. She found it rediculous and would even forward me text convos with him which would look like this:
him:whats up beautiful how is my wife doing today?
her: gross go away
him: i was just thinking of how great we are together
her: u make me wana puke
him: thats ok if you need to
her go away
him: should i come over now?
etc,etc. It seemed like she was clowning him and even laughing at it. As time went on however, she revealed that he sends her goodnight texts and goodmorning texts every day and she said that at first it was annoying but now she really looks forward to it and how hes very charming and very funny. (Im assuming she writes back sweet things now as well to him)
Thats basically around the time when calls from her to me started falling off and I could feel her intereset in me dropped significantly. I've always been attentive to her and complimented her but also maintained a ****y funny, teasing type of thing with her too which seemed to work great for us.
Personal feelings aside and just looking at this as a test subject, Im wondering why a girl would fall for a guy who creates absolutely no challenge, no ability to walk away, is short, unattractive, and smothers her with gooey compliments all day.
Of course all women are obsessed with compliments and love to be fawned over but it seems to go against everything ive heard and experienced that a woman would fall for that kind of thing. That behavior lowers the mans value too much. no?
Maybe the combination of him being so indifferent to her negativity and the fact that hes funny makes him come off as confidant which is a very attractive trait. But still, its almost groveling and desperate. I dont get it.
Anyone have some insight? Trying to avoid future mistakes...
thanks very much.
