Opinions of Online Dating

[poohead]

Viable way to meet women/increasingly socially acceptable

or

Waste of time/unfairly skewed to the woman's advantage/full of single mothers, damaged goods --
Not that you *can't* meet someone quality, or just get laid off online, but that it's a waste compared to going out and sarging in real life, and people tend to rely on it too much.

 

[Le Parisien]

Ok, I'm pretty sure what I'm gonna say has been said over and over again here on this forum, but still...

Just think about it, in our modern and highly social society, why would a "normal" (no baggage, not a damaged good etc...) hot chick spends hours on the internet to find a mate?

I'm NOT saying that hot chicks don't use the net, they just don't use the net for that.

Sure there are a few exceptions:

- Really slvtty chicks looking for "new" and "exciting" experiences.

- Very young teenagers who might not have a comfortably "free" environment to look for a boyfriend (strict parents for example)

- Women stuck in "overly" feminine jobs where they work long hours without any opportunity to meet quality guys or simply guys...

- Add to the list if you can think of more...

The only guy I personally know who got a lot of "success" from the internet was a guy I know back from my college days. His name is "Peter Viens", Mister France of 2002, you know the male equivalent of Miss France. So needly to say that he's a "hot" guy in the ladies' eyes.

Just like for all the other guys at our selective engineering oriented college, there were not enough attractive girls, male female ratio was 4 to 1, plus you know how engineering chicks are like... and the campus was too far from anywhere "interesting".

So basically, the guy was simply posting his pictures on a lot of sites, and when the girls didn't believe him, he would just make pictures at their request and encourage them to "come over to see whether I'm for real". As stupid as it may sound, obviously, it worked.:cheer: And the rest is just a question of bodily fluid exchange according to what I heard...


Again, he's NOT your average Joe, he's Mr. France 2002, so not really average in terms of looks.

 

[Chosen1]

i like to meet people in person i don't know why probably because i'm computer illiterate

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

i like to meet people in person i don't know why probably because i'm computer illiterate

Plus, it's more fun. In the past year--I've met one person off of the internet--and it's pretty much like she doesn't exist. I think internet dating shows a lack of confidence--but, that is my OPINION, and may not necessarily be your views on the thing, but whatever you decide--remember to have fun no matter what.

 

[Krassus]

Don't waste your time. The amount of time you have to spend talking just to end up meeting ONE chick in person is mindboggling! Why go through all the trouble when you can just walk up to her at a coffee shop and say hi?

 

[poohead]

Don't waste your time. The amount of time you have to spend talking just to end up meeting ONE chick in person is mindboggling! Why go through all the trouble when you can just walk up to her at a coffee shop and say hi?

i was thinking the same.

plus - you have your answer right away and don't have to play a stupid game of email and phone tag just to see if she looks like her pics.

plus - online women have an extremely overinflated sense of worth due to all the afc's messaging them all day

plus - the freaks, the attention *****s who have no intention of meeting/waste your time/just like the attention, the single mothers, etc etc

only drawback to real life is it is much easier to hit 'send', it takes balls to sarge an HB sitting across from you at starbucks.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I dont think it's that simple. I find that sending a message is just as difficult as meeting someone in person, if not more so, because your message is competing against a zillion other messages, while if you meet someone in person, well, there is no competition. Some sites you have to pay for messages. If you are money-concious, the loss of money is worst than a rejection of saying 'hi' in person, so it's about the same.

Anyway, there are people on this board, and other boards that I have come across that obviously have success with online dating. Those who are having little or no online daitng success is easy to cry sour grapes or cry fowl. Those who have success will say it works for them.

The funny thing about it is it's easy to have success on it, you can 'buy' your way through - with all the digital enhancement or ease at which a profile can say anything, it's almost seems too easy to be successful on the internet.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's difficult for guys who aren't interesting face to face, guys who can't write, for guys who don't know how to take the initiative to move from first base and for guys who don't know how to qualify. These guys all have skewed perceptions on how to meet face to face women who they come across online because they have no idea what they are doing. This is more than my opinion, it's a fact.

 

[mcqueen207]

It's a waste for me... because I can tell RIGHT AWAY whether I am interested or not when I meet someone in person. With the online thing you have to jump thru all these hoops just to meet in person. THEN... she walks in the door... and you want to just get up and leave.

 

[jonwon]

Last girl I met from online dating, had a great pic we got on really well, decided to meet her.
I got to the bar first, waited outside, she turned up and my god was she dam ugly.

Her pic was taken about 3years prior, she had put on tons of weight looked liked like man in makeup.
I made my excuses and left after the 1st drink, I was embarrassed to be in the bar with her.

It is not all it seems to be make sure you get an updated picture, it is essential.

 

[Tomatoes]

Online dating doesnt work.....You either find desperate girls.....damaged emotional packages......or chavs thinking that web cam sex is the best invention on earth.


Get your selfout into the REAL world and pull properly.

 

[mrRuckus]

This is ridiculous. Everyone against the online stuff either can't read/write for crap, believes Fox news about the crazies or makes up reasons for why hot girls would meet people online (they're damaged!!! oh no!!)

The people you meet online are the same people you meet on the street.

I've been going out with a college educated hot woman i met online for over a year. She's perfectly adjusted.

Why would a hot girl meet guys online? Because it's expensive to go out every day to meet people and they're busy with work and their other crap.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

That's 100% absolutely true. In my experience, all the girl's that have responded to me or have gone out with me, have their own lives, are adjusted and are just the same types of people you'd meet on the streets. They are ususally too busy to meet people offline and that's why they are on those sites.

There is also control on an online system since you can work on your pics, and with digital enhancements, it's even easier to manipulate things in the picture, and you can rig-up any profile you want and take your own time and pace. Whatever.

People who have a problem with online dating are missing out on some great opportunities. I'm going to learn to become an online don-juan first and foremost - starting with online bootcamp. That's right online bootcamp - the new concept.

 

[poohead]

the concept of

'online don juan' and
'online bootcamp'

are antithetical to what a DJ/bootcamp is all about.
if you are spending time and energy on

'online don juan' and
'online bootcamp'

you are wasting your time. this is about real life social skills. you will lose in the end because you have to meet people IRL eventually.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

the concept of

'online don juan' and
'online bootcamp'

are antithetical to what a DJ/bootcamp is all about.

Of course you have to meet them in real life - that's part of the success of being an online don juan, is getting the hot babes to meet you in real life and taking it from there. Off the screen and into your lap - you've beat the competition, you've fought the odds - you have to know how to socialise on MSN or email, exactly the same thing - more competition than bars or clubs and the odds are stacked against you making you more of a don juan.

 

[poohead]

lol @ 'online don juan'

are you also an 'online business mogul' and 'online basketball star'?

 

[Luke Skywalker]

lol @ 'online don juan'

are you also an 'online business mogul' and 'online basketball star'?

Look, there are plenty of threads on here that describe people's success with online dating. I figure, be an online don juan first - and if you want more, then be an offline don juan. You can cheat the game you know and go online, as long as you win, who cares. It's winner take all.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

It's a waste for me... because I can tell RIGHT AWAY whether I am interested or not when I meet someone in person. With the online thing you have to jump thru all these hoops just to meet in person. THEN... she walks in the door... and you want to just get up and leave.

Here's an example of lack of qualifying skills.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Last girl I met from online dating, had a great pic we got on really well, decided to meet her.
I got to the bar first, waited outside, she turned up and my god was she dam ugly.

Her pic was taken about 3years prior, she had put on tons of weight looked liked like man in makeup.
I made my excuses and left after the 1st drink, I was embarrassed to be in the bar with her.

It is not all it seems to be make sure you get an updated picture, it is essential.

Another example toward lack of qualifying due to the deceit of the woman. I always ask when the picture was taken. If they ask why I tell them the truth. If she's a "poser" she'll get upset and things wouldn't continue. No time wasted.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Online dating doesnt work.....You either find desperate girls.....damaged emotional packages......or chavs thinking that web cam sex is the best invention on earth.


Get your selfout into the REAL world and pull properly.

Here's an example of someone who attracts women of a questionable nature.