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Open up to a women?

scottyAmericano

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I understand that you don't open up to a woman.

Is there a level in which you open up to?

How much do you tell her? atleast without giving away your mystery..
 

IKO69

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Maybe your mother you can open up to

Past experience has taught me that when women say they want you to be more "emotional", "sensitive" and "open up" to them....all that is horse**** and just ends up getting used as a weapon against you.

Maybe after you've been together for many years, have a family and all that you can let your guard down slightly but don't go and be an open book to rando women you barely know. This is their realm - this is exactly how women manipulate men.
 

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Maybe your mother you can open up to

Past experience has taught me that when women say they want you to be more "emotional", "sensitive" and "open up" to them....all that is horse**** and just ends up getting used as a weapon against you.

Maybe after you've been together for many years, have a family and all that you can let your guard down slightly but don't go and be an open book to rando women you barely know. This is their realm - this is exactly how women manipulate men.
One thing I learned quite a long time ago is that many women will do stuff like this in order to find reasons to reject you. They may be on the fence about you but start probing and when they find something that validates these feelings they reject. Years ago I had gone on a few dates with a woman and she started asking me some personal questions. Anyway, I ended up revealing to her that at that time I was inexperienced, she most likely suspected this and was the reason for her directing the conversation/digging towards that. I ended up getting rejected/"friendzoned" immediately. In this case, women are intuitively put off by inexperience because thoughts like "If other women haven't been into him there must be a reason". Never open yourself up to women or make yourself vulnerable or sensitive, it just makes you look weak and only worthy of rejection.

Side note, it also doesn't help that most women have over a dozen men at any given time on their phones that they can set up dates with on that very night lol.
 

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Don’t. I made this mistake and lost frame and lost easily the most significant relationship I’ve had in my life. Sorry man, DO NOT DO THIS.
 

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I would be very careful. Never tell them about your anxieties, fears, doubts, emotional issues, etc.

I only tell them things I don't actually care about that much...just so they don't accuse me of being closed off etc. My go to is talking about my alcoholic sister who has a kid with a deadbeat, or my parents health issues, or a combination of all three.

I never, ever tell them about my own personal struggles and insecurities. The most I'll ever say is what I am doing to improve my life.
 

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Taken from the post - ' The Truth about women' by Librito.

* She will start asking you lots of questions. This is what chicks do when they suddenly find themselves attracted to a man they know nothing about. This is your chance to open up a little and also find out more about her and build a deeper connection. You have to do this, or she will flake later (even if you've kissed her!) Women are the worst flakes in the world! Don't make it too easy for her, make her work for it a bit. Then talk about connections and childhood memories and things you have in common, etc. She needs to feel that this is genuine. This is usually the time when I throw in a few fake vulnerabilities, like pretending I'm shy or insecure about something. I know it's ****ed up but women need to see that there are at least a few small holes where they can sink their hooks in you. They get uneasy if you are too perfect.
 

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Don’t. I made this mistake and lost frame and lost easily the most significant relationship I’ve had in my life. Sorry man, DO NOT DO THIS.
Same. I showed some slight weakness with easily the most fun plate I've ever had. This is very recent aswell. This was the most high interest women I've ever been with. COMPLIED with everything, let me do all kindsa **** to her sexually aswell. We had a lot of fun together doing things aswell. Three months later I let my guard down just a little bit and showed a little bit of weakness. Her interest immediatly dropped to like lukewarm the following days and she became much less compliant. I nexted her because I do not have time for lukewarm women. She still offered to meet me last time we spoke on the phone but I was like no, I'm good. I'm ignoring her now and don't plan to break it because very rarely a women's interest level shoots up, maybe she comes back high interest, maybe she doesn't. It doesn't matter, I'm fine either way.
 
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