Open Relationships, Do They Work?

[da truth]

Wup fam, this is my first post and Ive been enjoying your topics and everything and would like some advice on somthing Im going thru...

I've been dating someone for over 10 months and she is great- She is intelligent, caring, independent, works, cooks, affectionate, lyal, outgoing- pretty much all you would want in a woman. Thing is I jus turned 24 and I can't give her the type of comitted relationship she wants. She is also 24 but has a 2 year old son and is 100% sure that Im the one for her and that she wants to be with me and settle down with me.

Like I said, Im 24 so Im not ready to settle down yet, I wish to live my life to the fullest w/o being tied down. Ive told her from the beginning that Im not looking for a relationship but shes almost to the point that she wants to give up but can't cuz she truly loves and cares for me.

Ive been seeing two other women rite now and they all know that I have a girl but don't mind so I can still **** around with them too. My question is that if open relationships work? My girl is willing to do it for me until Im ready to setttle down with her. She still wants me to see her and be intimate with her with the understanding that she may not wait around for me and that I may taking a big risk. Im afraid of losing her but I know I can have my cake and eat it too. I truly love this woman but cant't commit rite now, Any advice? Thank you.

 

[NewMan]

A thought:

You don't realize what you have until it's gone.

If your going for the opne relatonship, just relaize that this girl could find someone else - and then you could be without her.

Only you know whether the risk is worth it or not.

 

[chlywly]

Yes open relationships work, work great; but it takes a type of person and readyness to do it.

 

[lerxst]

Open relationships can work if that's how the set-up is from the start. When you change the nature of the relationship mid-game, you run afoul of problems. IMO this girl you are with is only going along with you cause she loves you and she's hoping this is just a phase you are going through before you will settle down with her. Sort of letting you sow your wild oats. This won't last too long once she realizes it's not going to be temporary. Thing about open relationships is that it's great you'll be scoring other chicks, but she'll be scoring other dudes. If that's cool with you, hey, enjoy it all. Don't be surprised if one day she's gone, cause she didn't originally get involved with you for an open relationship. I suggest working on building up your team of girls for that eventuality since this is the path you've chosen.

 

[bugsquish]

Hey I've lost a few special chicks by trying to go down that path. Listen to Newman and evaluate the risk. The grass is always greener on the other side, but the original grass is the greenest once you cant have it anymore.