online dating question

[DJArlington]

I am using an online dating site to meet women. So far, I've met one girl online and met her in person and things went really well. I was wondering though - what are the online rules? If someone pings me on the online dating site, should I wait a few days to respond? Should my emails contain little details about myself?

Thanks...

 

[MikeEdward1973]

There's like a million opinions on this. But, my 2 cents is that it's fine to respond the same day. Just don't make it look like you're sitting in front of your computer 24/7. Within 6 to 12 hours is just fine. Some guys will tell you to wait 24 hours or something, I wouldn't worry about that, if you're truly self-confident.

In terms of details, I usually send one standard paragraph with 5 or 6 good sentences talking a bit about myself, what I do, etc. And then close with a couple questions for her.

But - at the end of the day, you don't want to trade more than a few emails before asking to link up for a drink, coffee, etc. Name of the game is to get offline fast.

Just to clarify, I send that more detailed paragraph as a 2nd email, not a first.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

What worked best for me: A funny story on your profile that illustrates what you are about (i.e. I used a story about my kids) but doesn't give away the store.

2 emails max. "Hey whassup" kind of stuff, spread it out over 3-5 days (same day is wayy too soon - show them you have a life) - get a number close ASAP, get their ass in a seat at Starbucks ASAP.

 

[DJArlington]

Thanks guys. I'm going to keep patience and will send max one or two emails, will get them on the phone, and will try to meet up with them ASAP. I replied to one of the girls right away and she responded so I'm okay, but with the other one who is a total hottie I responded right away and haven't heard back. We'll see what happens. What I'm noticing is that once I pull back I'm usually okay.

 

[Paradox]

Like everything else on this board it is not a science and there are not hard and straight rules. as long as you don't seem desperate (live or online) you should be ok.

Do a search because there are some gold nuggets about online dating buried in this and the Main Discussion forum.

 

[SoCalMike]

Keep the emails brief, and strike fast - ask her out right away. There is only a small window of interest before the next 10 dudes email her.

 

[cedd]

I used online dating over the last few years with great succes and I do agree with some replies here.

2 emails MAX could one of the major rules.
first email = approch with some funny things and commentaries about her profile. keep it short.
if she reply with IOI (questions about you etc...) then send a couple of days later a second mail and ask for a phone number.

corollary : don't waist your time with girls that are not interested.

minimize the time online to maximize the time offline.

cheers