Online Dating-Next move?

[sikesalt]

I had a good conversation with a girl on IM last night. She gave me her email address and seemed very interested. When do you think would be a good time to email her I'm thinking not today but tomorrow.

Also, should I suggest meeting in this email right away? Or would it be better to wait until a few more emails. She only had one pic. She looked really great in it but it was very posed. But atleast I know she is not overweight.

Thanks
Sikesalt

 

[al77]

Originally posted by sikesalt
I had a good conversation with a girl on IM last night. She gave me her email address and seemed very interested. When do you think would be a good time to email her I'm thinking not today but tomorrow.

Also, should I suggest meeting in this email right away? Or would it be better to wait until a few more emails.

Ideally... you dont want to email her at all. It is like you downgrade your communication. Much better to talk to her online one more time and suggest a meeting.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Originally posted by sikesalt

Also, should I suggest meeting in this email right away?

Send her your phone number and ask for hers at the same time. Call her when she emails you her number and see if you click while talking on the phone. If, so find out if she fvcks on the first dates. If she does, then suggest you meet either at a bar or local cool place, ask her to your pad and if she's down, then bang bang bang!


Break it on down now! :woo: :cheer:

hehe funny lil smilies.

 

[al77]

Re: Re: Online Dating-Next move?

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Send her your phone number and ask for hers at the same time. Call her when she emails you her number

If you email her your number - what would you achive? Nothing. She is not going to call you. If she sends you her number you will have to deal with her answering machine with very high probablity.
Nobody wants that.

Try to catch her online, and then ask her phone number online if you want to talk to her first. I would personally try to set up a go a coffee meeting while talking online.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Re: Re: Re: Online Dating-Next move?

Originally posted by al77
If you email her your number - what would you achive? Nothing. She is not going to call you. If she sends you her number you will have to deal with her answering machine with very high probablity.
Nobody wants that.

HOLY NEGATIVITY BATMAN!

I email or IM my number to girls all the time and in the same email I ask for their number. Sometimes, they'll reply with their phone number and tell me to call them and sometimes they call.

If they're just playing around, they'll do neither and try to keep talking with you. Bail if that happens.

Originally posted by al77
Try to catch her online, and then ask her phone number online if you want to talk to her first. I would personally try to set up a go a coffee meeting while talking online.

Asking for her number while chatting online works well. I've never had a successful coffee date though. I've found it to be more comfortable when you meet somewhere they're familiar with.. like a mall or bar or one of their hangouts.

I bang chix online all the time. These are the methods I use. :cheer:

 

[al77]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Online Dating-Next move?

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE

I email or IM my number to girls all the time and in the same email I ask for their number. Sometimes, they'll reply with their phone number and tell me to call them and sometimes they call.

I've never had a successful coffee date though. I've found it to be more comfortable when you meet somewhere they're familiar with.. like a mall or bar or one of their hangouts.

I just saying it is much better not to call her and face a high probability of talking to her ans. machine... She may call you back -yes, if she is VERY interested. Possible? yes. but doenst happen often for me.
So I figured out it is much better to number close or dat close while chatting online: "Hey, can I call... right now?"

I like the mall idea: they always have coffee shops, you can walk a bit and they are quite peaceful places for women.
By the way, how do you find women online? Chat or personals?
What site you think are good? I have experience only with match.com

 

[libre]

I use approximatly the same technique as EricLive.

I don't endure emailing back and forth and I almost immediately ask to meet them in a bar or and other public place where they can feel secure. It works with some women and it's ok.

Some women refuse to meet me very soon after starting to email because they want to exchange and learn more about me. I end those back and forth emails very fast and next them if they want to pursue those kind of exchanges. I surely don't want to jump thru their oops to get the «privilege» of meeting these women that want to ask all kind of «commitment» «communication» and similar issues.

I have had women online ask me about my past relationships, what I had learned from them, what I envisionned in a future relationship, where I stand on the commitment «issue», on the communication issue, ...

Jes/s H. Chr%$t! The golden plated vagina syndrome for some of them I guess. I next those very fast!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: Re: Online Dating-Next move?

Originally posted by al77
If you email her your number - what would you achive? Nothing. She is not going to call you. If she sends you her number you will have to deal with her answering machine with very high probablity.
Nobody wants that.

Try to catch her online, and then ask her phone number online if you want to talk to her first. I would personally try to set up a go a coffee meeting while talking online.

Emailing your number should not be done unless you have already boosted her IL to a major level and meeting her immediately isn't conducive. Doing it without a high level of interest and you will come off as a desperate AFC. Be careful.

 

[scordate]

women that you meet online, you want to meet in person ASAP

just for a coffee date; *not* a long date

dont mail her your phone number; just mail her an invite to go for a cuppa coffee

if she says she would like to talk on the phone first; fine: ask her for her number and ask when is the best time to catch her

only give yours if she asks for it

/ scordate

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Man, if I were new to this board, I'd be so confuzzled with all the conflicting info on online dating.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Man, if I were new to this board, I'd be so confuzzled with all the conflicting info on online dating.

with one hand on the keyboard and the other on your pecker.

wattup?

 

[al77]

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Man, if I were new to this board, I'd be so confuzzled with all the conflicting info on online dating.

What is confusing?
scordate summed it up well:

women that you meet online, you want to meet in person ASAP
just for a coffee date; *not* a long date
dont mail her your phone number; just mail her an invite to go for a cuppa coffee
if she says she would like to talk on the phone first; fine: ask her for her number and ask when is the best time to catch her
only give yours if she asks for it

If you send her you number - she is not gonna call you. If you email her for a long time, she might lose her intereste in you since she might think "He is not really interested, he doesn ask me out".

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Originally posted by TooColdUlrick
with one hand on the keyboard and the other on your pecker.

wattup?

lol - what?

Sup Professor! :cheer: