The Next Sodini
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Online dating is great for women and it sucks for guys. It seems to be a perfect fit for our consumerist society, where only the best-looking or richest men get taken off the shelf. Hell, even online, women don't need to be the best looking women to get 100's of messages a week into their inbox. Women with totally average faces and non-fat bodies get treated like Princesses.
The reason why it works so well for beautiful, average and even slightly ugly/fat women is that men typically outnumber the women in online dating sites at a about 4/1 ratio. With an oversupply of men, they can have their pick of the litter.
Indeed, any female posting a profile to an online dating site usually gets deluged with e-mails from interested men within seconds of creating her profile. With so many e-mails and only a finite amount of time to answer them, naturally they will screen in only the best-looking and richest men.
One man posting in an online forum said he found that for every four hundred e-mails he sends to women, he will get maybe one or two positive responses back. Not dates, just responses. One response for every four hundred e-mails? Yikes! With results like that, it’s not hard to see that his chances of actually getting a date are pretty slim.
A number of years ago, German researchers found that people have to date a minimum of thirteen people before they find a suitable long-term partner. Let’s assume the prospective suitor I mentioned earlier does get one date for every four hundred e-mails he sends. That’s four hundred times thirteen, or 5,200 e-mails to find a partner!
I can’t imagine any man having the kind of time or energy on his hands to carry out such a Herculean task.
Not surprisingly, many online dating site operators find, that with such poor odds of success, they have a hard time keeping male customers. So, in hopes of keeping the money rolling in, they send out phantom profiles (profiles of women whose membership has lapsed) to men who have signed on for free trials or who have cancelled their memberships.
I personally experienced firsthand the same bait-and-switcheroo. When my match.com membership was active matches would arrive by e-mail. When I logged on to respond, I found that many of the profiles had magically disappeared! Cancelling my membership only resulted in more e-mails promising matches and entreaties not to cancel. Recently match.com has come under fire from various quarters for engaging in such slimy business practices of producing 'phantom' profiles of good looking women. As of this writing, a class-action lawsuit has been lodged against match.com; plaintiffs are seeking a refund of their membership fees on the grounds that they were defrauded.
In my travels, I have found that several basic types of women frequent online dating sites:
1. Stuck-up, snooty women who think they are God’s gift to men. With the tons of e-mail they get from hopeful suitors, they acquire both swelled heads and a wildly unrealistic opinion of their market value in the dating world. Women like this are clearly suffering from what I call ‘Princess Syndrome’. A characteristic symptom of the malady is having a stringent laundry list of ‘requirements’ and ‘standards’ few men could ever hope to meet. They typically want tall (6ft) good looking, athletic (muscular) and rich.
2. Attention junkies. This makes up a large proportion of women who sign up for online dating sites. Many have BF's/partners offline but get an ego 'fix' by seeing how many men they can attract etc with no intention of dating them.
3. Gold-diggers. No explanation needed here!
4. Professional daters who, sucked in by the endless choice online dating appears to offer, keep looking for the Bigger, Better Deal. Ad nauseam. Scratch a professional dater, and you’ll likely find someone with a serious fear of commitment lurking underneath. The type of woman mentioned in (2) above often fits into this category.
5. Teases who get off on rejecting men for sport. They typically like to delete or block men that are 'losers', to them that is men that don't have good looks. These women should have a big “L” branded in their foreheads – “L” for “Loser”, of course.
6. Desperate single mothers. If you ever see a profile where a woman says, “My children mean everything to me”, RUN! This is code-speak that means a woman is basically married to her children, and if you get involved with her, you’ll find that you rank dead last. Right down there with Fido, if you’re lucky.
7. Russian/ Eastern European women or women from other foreign countries such as Nigeria where poverty and crime is rife. Probably half of these women are allied with fraudsters seeking to fleece lonely men.
8. Drunks, druggies, illiterate skanks, chavs, psychopaths, other assorted undesirables.
9. Fatties. The strange thing about the online dating sites I’ve been on is that there are a massive number of women who could be considered BIG ladies. (they’re the ones who post a face and cleverage pic but nobody pic and state in their profile they are of 'average' build when they are in fact morbidly obese hogs).
10. Women who use old photographs. This is a tactic used by ageing women in their 30's more than the younger girls. They typically upload pics that are 5 or even 10 years old. The youthful, sleek, fit 115lbs girl you see in the profile might be 200lbs+ and aged like rotten milk by now.
Confused? So am I. See points 1, 2, and 3 above for an explanation on why a good-looking woman would feel the need to resort to online dating.
Bottom line: Online dating is a bad deal for average / ugly looking men. Guys, your money and time is better invested elsewhere.
The reason why it works so well for beautiful, average and even slightly ugly/fat women is that men typically outnumber the women in online dating sites at a about 4/1 ratio. With an oversupply of men, they can have their pick of the litter.
Indeed, any female posting a profile to an online dating site usually gets deluged with e-mails from interested men within seconds of creating her profile. With so many e-mails and only a finite amount of time to answer them, naturally they will screen in only the best-looking and richest men.
One man posting in an online forum said he found that for every four hundred e-mails he sends to women, he will get maybe one or two positive responses back. Not dates, just responses. One response for every four hundred e-mails? Yikes! With results like that, it’s not hard to see that his chances of actually getting a date are pretty slim.
A number of years ago, German researchers found that people have to date a minimum of thirteen people before they find a suitable long-term partner. Let’s assume the prospective suitor I mentioned earlier does get one date for every four hundred e-mails he sends. That’s four hundred times thirteen, or 5,200 e-mails to find a partner!
I can’t imagine any man having the kind of time or energy on his hands to carry out such a Herculean task.
Not surprisingly, many online dating site operators find, that with such poor odds of success, they have a hard time keeping male customers. So, in hopes of keeping the money rolling in, they send out phantom profiles (profiles of women whose membership has lapsed) to men who have signed on for free trials or who have cancelled their memberships.
I personally experienced firsthand the same bait-and-switcheroo. When my match.com membership was active matches would arrive by e-mail. When I logged on to respond, I found that many of the profiles had magically disappeared! Cancelling my membership only resulted in more e-mails promising matches and entreaties not to cancel. Recently match.com has come under fire from various quarters for engaging in such slimy business practices of producing 'phantom' profiles of good looking women. As of this writing, a class-action lawsuit has been lodged against match.com; plaintiffs are seeking a refund of their membership fees on the grounds that they were defrauded.
In my travels, I have found that several basic types of women frequent online dating sites:
1. Stuck-up, snooty women who think they are God’s gift to men. With the tons of e-mail they get from hopeful suitors, they acquire both swelled heads and a wildly unrealistic opinion of their market value in the dating world. Women like this are clearly suffering from what I call ‘Princess Syndrome’. A characteristic symptom of the malady is having a stringent laundry list of ‘requirements’ and ‘standards’ few men could ever hope to meet. They typically want tall (6ft) good looking, athletic (muscular) and rich.
2. Attention junkies. This makes up a large proportion of women who sign up for online dating sites. Many have BF's/partners offline but get an ego 'fix' by seeing how many men they can attract etc with no intention of dating them.
3. Gold-diggers. No explanation needed here!
4. Professional daters who, sucked in by the endless choice online dating appears to offer, keep looking for the Bigger, Better Deal. Ad nauseam. Scratch a professional dater, and you’ll likely find someone with a serious fear of commitment lurking underneath. The type of woman mentioned in (2) above often fits into this category.
5. Teases who get off on rejecting men for sport. They typically like to delete or block men that are 'losers', to them that is men that don't have good looks. These women should have a big “L” branded in their foreheads – “L” for “Loser”, of course.
6. Desperate single mothers. If you ever see a profile where a woman says, “My children mean everything to me”, RUN! This is code-speak that means a woman is basically married to her children, and if you get involved with her, you’ll find that you rank dead last. Right down there with Fido, if you’re lucky.
7. Russian/ Eastern European women or women from other foreign countries such as Nigeria where poverty and crime is rife. Probably half of these women are allied with fraudsters seeking to fleece lonely men.
8. Drunks, druggies, illiterate skanks, chavs, psychopaths, other assorted undesirables.
9. Fatties. The strange thing about the online dating sites I’ve been on is that there are a massive number of women who could be considered BIG ladies. (they’re the ones who post a face and cleverage pic but nobody pic and state in their profile they are of 'average' build when they are in fact morbidly obese hogs).
10. Women who use old photographs. This is a tactic used by ageing women in their 30's more than the younger girls. They typically upload pics that are 5 or even 10 years old. The youthful, sleek, fit 115lbs girl you see in the profile might be 200lbs+ and aged like rotten milk by now.
Confused? So am I. See points 1, 2, and 3 above for an explanation on why a good-looking woman would feel the need to resort to online dating.
Bottom line: Online dating is a bad deal for average / ugly looking men. Guys, your money and time is better invested elsewhere.
