Online Chick Advice

[Costin]

Some time ago I met a chick on OKC ( OkCupid ). Initially went well until we added each other on Skype ( didn't go for the phone because chicks are very reluctant to that with people they don't know on the net ).

She never came online there but I saw her quite often on OKC, eventually I asked if she had lost interested. She said she had lost a loved one and wasn't very social on the net because of that. After that no more messages.

I shrugged it off, figuring she had no more interest ( even if she was honest ) or figuring she had found a more promising prospect since she was still online very often on OKC.

Recently however I did see her online on Skype and we did actually get in a conversation ( I initiated it ). Eventually managed to ask her out on a date and she agreed to it for this Thursday, then she asked for my Facebook and after that silence.

I did reply with my FB and also asked for her number, no answer. Finally with some advice from a friend of mine I just posted my number just in case something comes up.

I dunno if she is just really that hesitant about giving her number ( again women here very hesitant with that online ) or she's just gonna flake on me. She hasn't added me on FB even tough she had asked me for it.

I am uncertain whether or not I should even bother showing up there if she doesn't give me a signal until that day.

 

[Uncharted]

This sounds like a girl that is not interested.

 

[SgtSplacker]

First off you can't be scared to ask a girl for her number. You ask she says no, NEXT. Thats it, you can't cater to fear and reluctance in women.

Second, your facebook is all about social proof. If you don't have pics up of you doing some amazing stuff close your facebook account until you do.

Third, don't cater to uncertainty.

Fourth, don't cater to uncertainty....

 

[Costin]

First off you can't be scared to ask a girl for her number. You ask she says no, NEXT. Thats it, you can't cater to fear and reluctance in women.

I guess so, but I need to explain that people ( not just women, if it was just them I'd say **** it ) are very reluctant with that on the net here.

Second, your facebook is all about social proof. If you don't have pics up of you doing some amazing stuff close your facebook account until you do.

Sigh I figured I made a mistake on that since I don't have any public pictures of myself there. I do have some set to private that are pretty good though.

Third, don't cater to uncertainty.

Fourth, don't cater to uncertainty....

Good point.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I guess so, but I need to explain that people ( not just women, if it was just them I'd say **** it ) are very reluctant with that on the net here.

Any reluctance is linked to a perception of low value, period end of story.

When I started with online dating I had crappy pics, my profile blew and I was getting no bites. And girls did seem much more reluctant to take things to the next level. They would say they didn't know me well enough. I would chat with girls and eventually it would go cold.

I started to improve my online persona, forced myself to take my camera with me when I went to do fun stuff and take the time to pose for good pictures (something I never cared about) and BOOM! Everything changed, now I can practically say hi, wait for the response and ask her for her number within 5 minutes... no nonsense at all, not even once after I changed my profiles. I'm meeting girls in person after a day or two of our initial contact. Not once have I heard any concern over me being some kind of rapist. I feel I should mention that I have some pics of me as a sexy looking 8 year old so women can see where I came from...

If a girl doesn't like you there are no less than 1,000,000 false reasons a woman will claim... creepiness, boyfriends, illnesses, prior arrangements, etc. All that goes out the window if you appeal to them. Ignore the reason and listen to the overall intention.

 

[Costin]

I see where you are coming from, though I did actually put quite a bit of effort in my profile and my pictures are good. If anything the vast majority of women here have ****ty profiles with terrible pictures. They don't take it seriously at all.

Also she didn't say no when I asked for her phone, she just didn't reply.

If a girl doesn't like you there are no less than 1,000,000 false reasons a woman will claim... creepiness, boyfriends, illnesses, prior arrangements, etc. All that goes out the window if you appeal to them. Ignore the reason and listen to the overall intention.

That's the annoying part, because she did appear interested, very much so actually and she didn't hesitate to agree to meet me when I asked for it. But she also just likes to stop talking with me for no reason.

The thought has occurred to me she's been approaching or has been approached by other guys and she's keeping me on the backburner.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I see where you are coming from, though I did actually put quite a bit of effort in my profile and my pictures are good. If anything the vast majority of women here have ****ty profiles with terrible pictures. They don't take it seriously at all.

Also she didn't say no when I asked for her phone, she just didn't reply.

That's the annoying part, because she did appear interested, very much so actually and she didn't hesitate to agree to meet me when I asked for it. But she also just likes to stop talking with me for no reason.

When you evaluate your pictures look at the things women like. In Florida women post pictures of them boating, traveling, chilling at resorts. you need pics showing them you do those things. Maybe in your area people like to Ski, post pics of you skiing. Women look at your pictures to see if you will be fun to be with. Think about it like makeup for your life. You don't really have to be that way, but you still have to represent!

 

[nismo-4]

Fear, reluctance, hesitance my ass. All signs of low interest.

If a woman won't move forward with you, she is moving backwards or standing still, which is as bad as moving backwards.

She ain't interested. If she wanted to talk with you more, she would have jumped to the next communication platform. Since she ain't, drop her ass. And don't give your number first. NEVER. Oh yeah...Do you think she'd be reluctant and hesitant if Brad Pitt asked for her number? Hell no!

BTW, don't show up. You'll have more fun playing Candy Crush.

Case closed. Exit my courtroom.