Oneitus is horrible in many ways. It makes you depressed, lazy, and just all around suck. You probably have it for a girl who either A) Never liked you and likely never will, B) Used to like you but doesn't anymore C) Likes you but won't for long because she'll catch onto your oneitus, also relationships just kind of have a course so she'd probably stop liking you anyways but oneitus will make this part painful.
Yes oneitus is retarded and many guys who are chumps just get oneitus for some girl often for no reason. It's like they pick a girl at random and become obsessed with her because she happens to work with them, or go to their school what ever... A major major part of game is understanding that just cause you've found a girl who tickles your fancy there will be others and the abundance mentality is reality but it also creates abundance where before like a loser you'd be obsessed.
What's the best way to combat oneitus? Go after other girls, date them and do stuff with them, you know sexual stuff. Also going NC on a girl that is pure oneitus and not good for you. NC means no contact which would include things like not looking at her pictures, her online activity, and avoiding talking about her, thinking about her, and of course not contacting her even if she's contacting you, I mean unless it's clear you'll probably get sex but don't be delusional and think cause she wrote you hi means sex unless you have a good reason for thinking that.
So to review NC and spinning plates is the best defense against oneitus.
Sometimes though you know all this, you understand how unattractive it is to her and how detrimental it is to you to get oneitus and you get it any ways. Pretty normal to feel that feeling of oneitus coming on and to fight it back with knowledge but it's something else to have it overtake you.
I've had oneitus once again rear it's ugly head. I've been spinning plates as best I can but still I've become obsessed with one particular girl and worst of all it seems that things going wrong the feeling of losing her brought on the oneitus. Realistically I know she's no 10 and I can bash her down for an infinite number of reasons but I've become obsessed with this girl. I find myself stalking her online activity and even going so far as to masturbate to the thought of her while looking at her pics. I had a very nice honeymoon period with this girl and I didn't feel this way, it really is time to go full on NC and spin plates harder, focus on other girls but damn this obsession is strong even with all my knowledge of how it would lead nowhere good fast.
If I were a robot I would just put in a command that stopped me from thinking about her for at least a few years unless it appeared the NC had put her back into a honey moon phase which of course would end faster than the first. I don't need a honey moon phase but things are just at that really bad point where i feel she is talking to other guys and it's very unclear on if I will ever see her again even if I keep throwing invites out when before I'd see her all the time when ever I wanted.
Thank goodness for my understanding of social dynamics though or I'd probably just go further into the madness.
Yes oneitus is retarded and many guys who are chumps just get oneitus for some girl often for no reason. It's like they pick a girl at random and become obsessed with her because she happens to work with them, or go to their school what ever... A major major part of game is understanding that just cause you've found a girl who tickles your fancy there will be others and the abundance mentality is reality but it also creates abundance where before like a loser you'd be obsessed.
What's the best way to combat oneitus? Go after other girls, date them and do stuff with them, you know sexual stuff. Also going NC on a girl that is pure oneitus and not good for you. NC means no contact which would include things like not looking at her pictures, her online activity, and avoiding talking about her, thinking about her, and of course not contacting her even if she's contacting you, I mean unless it's clear you'll probably get sex but don't be delusional and think cause she wrote you hi means sex unless you have a good reason for thinking that.
So to review NC and spinning plates is the best defense against oneitus.
Sometimes though you know all this, you understand how unattractive it is to her and how detrimental it is to you to get oneitus and you get it any ways. Pretty normal to feel that feeling of oneitus coming on and to fight it back with knowledge but it's something else to have it overtake you.
I've had oneitus once again rear it's ugly head. I've been spinning plates as best I can but still I've become obsessed with one particular girl and worst of all it seems that things going wrong the feeling of losing her brought on the oneitus. Realistically I know she's no 10 and I can bash her down for an infinite number of reasons but I've become obsessed with this girl. I find myself stalking her online activity and even going so far as to masturbate to the thought of her while looking at her pics. I had a very nice honeymoon period with this girl and I didn't feel this way, it really is time to go full on NC and spin plates harder, focus on other girls but damn this obsession is strong even with all my knowledge of how it would lead nowhere good fast.
If I were a robot I would just put in a command that stopped me from thinking about her for at least a few years unless it appeared the NC had put her back into a honey moon phase which of course would end faster than the first. I don't need a honey moon phase but things are just at that really bad point where i feel she is talking to other guys and it's very unclear on if I will ever see her again even if I keep throwing invites out when before I'd see her all the time when ever I wanted.
Thank goodness for my understanding of social dynamics though or I'd probably just go further into the madness.
