Oneitus..has returnth

[Starman]

I have an old oneitus ..that still haunts me to this day..after acting AFC with her (trying to make her feel special..and taking my geneosity for granted) I nexted her..stopped calling, emailing and changed my #,

Now she emails me occasionally with "hey whats your #? I lost it", or "I have a friend coming to town(she lives in a different city)..do you want me to have her call you?"

What can this mean? and how would you say "no thanks"

thus far I have been ignoring her.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Either don't take her seriously......or use your new DJ powers to take a little "revenge" on her(seducing her, and making her realize what she has been missing and then leave her)

 

[Azariah]

What does it mean? *breaks out his divining rod and his magic 8-ball* Crap, I'm not getting anything useful here. Seriously though, it's nearly impossible to figure out exactly what's going on in her head with that little information. I can tell you this though: she's not seriously interested in getting you back. It has been pointed out on the forum before that women don't forget "nice guy" behavior. Once the proverbial egg has been broken, you can't put it back together again. Besides, she wouldn't be farming you out to her friends if she was really interested in you.

I would personally just say "Thank you, but I'm happy the way my life is going." Then go back to ignoring her. You're likely to just end up losing your cool, and even your sanity, if you keep in touch with her. It doesn't sound like there's anything left for you there. I'm not saying it's easy, but it's time to move on (or move back) to greener pastures.

 

[Starman]

heh this is the chick that used to always send me love letters/emails/call me 2-3 times a day..she even sent me a gift from her vacation spot 2 weeks ago..which I opened and threw in the garbage

(a month & 1/2 ago)when I lost my job..I was kinda depressed and drinking alot..and calling her too much..and getting a bit clingy..so she did the pullback thing...

SO I stopped contact with her all together..

I would do the rveenge thing..but I really dont want to get into that Hell you peoople caLL ONEITUS

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

THATS WHY YOU LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS!!!!!! if you can't do this, then in my mind you're not progressing much towards being a true DJ!

 

[Starman]

Darrell..give me one man who can control his thoughts and emotions when drunk (especially after losing a job)..and I will buy him a case of Corona's..

 

[TheCloser]

Wow starman is true playa for real...

 

[drZaius09]

You want to know what to write back? Three words:

"Who is this?"

 

[Starman]

DrZeuss,

Ive known this girl for like 2.5 years..wouldnt "who is this?" make me sem bitter and angry?

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

no way man i think thats sweet..

It will totally throw her off.

 

[Azariah]

The fact that she’s offering to hook you up with friends concerns me. Let’s turn this around for a moment. If you were truly interested in a woman, would you be offering to hook her up with your friends? It’s possible that she’s testing you if she’s only offering you up to “out of town” friends, but I wouldn’t bet my stake in the family farm on that.

You say you aren’t in a relationship with her but she sends you presents? Sounds to me like she’s either Japanese or she’s treating you as … *shudder* … a friend.

I’ll give you the same honest advice that I would have liked when I was in a position similar to yours. You made a mistake when you lost your job and turned to her for support. Don’t confuse your romantic interests with your mother or your buddies. Those are the people you should turn to in your times of need. She is neither.

Even though you’re playing it cool now, you’ve already tipped your hand. You put her in a position of power when started being clingy and calling too much. She isn’t likely to forget that.

 

[Starman]

I dont think she is offering to hook me up with her friends..I just thought she was trying to get my #..in another way..by asking me if she should tell her friend to call me?

I already ignored previous requests from her for my #..

While I agree that I played my hand at being AFC and clingy with her..I have no idea why she is still trying to keep in touch with me..or even "hook" me up with her friends..when I never even asked her nor kept in touch with her

oh if this helps she is an attention wh0re..and I professionally thinks she has Histrionic Pesonality disorder..

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

Darrell..give me one man who can control his thoughts and emotions when drunk (especially after losing a job)..and I will buy him a case of Corona's..

I think what Dime meant was that you have to learn to control your mind and thought process or its gonna control you, therefore resulting in a chumpy situation with the ladies.

 

[Azariah]

Originally posted by Starman
[edited to illustrate a point]
..I have no idea why she is still trying to keep in touch with me..

oh if this helps she is an attention wh0re..

I think you just answered your own question.

I won't say she's Prime Evil, but she sounds like bad news.

When I have a little more time, I'll spin the yarn of my most recent oneitis experience.

 

[Reto]

Yeah, she's craving some attention. Who ever she's been AFC'g must have realized and next her. So, she needs an attention fix. And your it.

I agree with you in that she was trying to get your # by saying she has a friend. But think about it. If she does have a friend, what has she told her about you? That your a "Nice Guy"?

I would run from her and her friend...

I've been there. I saw my ex-oneitis at the park a while back. she saw me, turned and started walking in the other direction. Fortuneatly, I had a 5'8" 7.5 hottie with me!! I loved it...

 

[Starman]

LOL at retro..thats gotta be priceless man haha did she see you? that would have been a great moment to have bumped into her..

This isnt your typical AFC oneitus scenario..this chick was all over me at one point and yelling at me when I didnt return her calls/emails..granted things may have changed in the past few months..mostly because I started acting AFC with her..after she started acting like a biznatch..I cut her off completely..

any words of wisdom appreciated