trawlmybait
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I'll write up a bio later but short story is I was raised by a single mother surrounded by ****ty relationships. Spent most of my life being told girls liked guys that treat them good bla bla bla.. Trust issues and over analyzing are my specialties. I spent a short while on the DJ bible a few years ago and started making strives, then career goals took main stage and then the oneitis succubus was found.
We met at work, shes young, barely legal young, I'm 25. Started talking at work last march for about a month. Gorgeous like a girl her age is, one of the very few girls I've had an instant connection with. She asked for my number and I was very hesitant to give it to her but she was persistent and it was really nice to feel wanted. My first experience of the emotional manipulation soon to follow. She had a boyfriend so we didn't start hanging out or dating until about April.
Summer was great. Lots of dates. She was just out of school (high school) read the barely legal part above. She lost her virginity to me in August. I've only had sex with 3 other girls in my ten years of pathetic previous sexually active life. End of August she breaks up with me. We're both going back to school and I knew it was probably the right decision so I really wasn't that upset about it. Surprised myself because I really loved her.
Now the trouble starts. Like and succubus she wanted the freedom to do what she wants in her new life but also wanted the emotional support I previously gave her and I gave in bad! This lasted for about 2 months of me getting no sex but us texting almost constantly. She also didn't sleep with anyone. I really wanted her back so I initiated no contact around Halloween and it was devastating. I went on one date over the next two month period and I gained 20lbs. It was like I needed the emotional support as well but deep down I knew she was only using me and I was never going to get her back doing what I was doing.
Fast forward to Christmas Break. She texts me on Christmas and I reply for the first time. We hit it off like two previous lovers would. Talk all day and things are great. Next day she drops the bomb. Hot girl, single, hasn't talked to me in months. She slept with one of her good friends a week ago. She claims the reason she contacted me is because when it happened she realized how much she cared about me bla bla bla.. Weather that's true or not doesn't matter. I just recently started getting my **** together again. Started dating, online.. Baby steps.. I've been going to the gym again, lost 6 lbs already. And I was ****ing devastated again. Now on the outside I know she did nothing wrong. She waited 4 months after we broke up and we hadn't even spoken in 2 months but I was so deeply into the oneitis I couldn't even imaging sleeping with someone else.
So here's where it went from civil to ugly. I told her I would love to date her again but if I did shes can't hang out with this guy alone. (He had a thing for her when we were dating and I was very trusting and confidant during that time. It honestly didn't bother me at all that they were friends) She said she would never chose a boyfriend over a guy shes known her entire life and I honestly respect that. I never expected her to. But I still stand by my decisions. No girl of mine will be hanging out alone with a guy who openly has feelings for her and who she recently had sex with. So I tell her she didn't do anything wrong but I cant see this working out. Then I do the only logical yet irrational thing and set up a first date with a girl I recently met online.
That's when **** gets weird. Last night I'm out to dinner and I get the "Where are you text" (she used to check up on me when we were dating and tbs I thought it was kinda cute so I let it pass) I don't reply and she goes ape ****. Lots of mean things were said. I leave the place (date kinda sucked) and tell her what shes doing is unfair to me and I need my space. We get in a big argument that lasts most of the night and finally I realize I just need to man up and stop this **** so I calmly tell her I'm deleting her contact information and blocking her number. She needs to move on. I did that but before I do she sends a HUGE text about how I was right, she ****ed up, emotional manipulation.
If you've made it this far my heart is in my stomach. I got maybe one hour of sleep last night. I'm pretty sure I had a panic attack and I just need some reassurance that this was a toxic environment and I need to hold fast and move on with my life.
We met at work, shes young, barely legal young, I'm 25. Started talking at work last march for about a month. Gorgeous like a girl her age is, one of the very few girls I've had an instant connection with. She asked for my number and I was very hesitant to give it to her but she was persistent and it was really nice to feel wanted. My first experience of the emotional manipulation soon to follow. She had a boyfriend so we didn't start hanging out or dating until about April.
Summer was great. Lots of dates. She was just out of school (high school) read the barely legal part above. She lost her virginity to me in August. I've only had sex with 3 other girls in my ten years of pathetic previous sexually active life. End of August she breaks up with me. We're both going back to school and I knew it was probably the right decision so I really wasn't that upset about it. Surprised myself because I really loved her.
Now the trouble starts. Like and succubus she wanted the freedom to do what she wants in her new life but also wanted the emotional support I previously gave her and I gave in bad! This lasted for about 2 months of me getting no sex but us texting almost constantly. She also didn't sleep with anyone. I really wanted her back so I initiated no contact around Halloween and it was devastating. I went on one date over the next two month period and I gained 20lbs. It was like I needed the emotional support as well but deep down I knew she was only using me and I was never going to get her back doing what I was doing.
Fast forward to Christmas Break. She texts me on Christmas and I reply for the first time. We hit it off like two previous lovers would. Talk all day and things are great. Next day she drops the bomb. Hot girl, single, hasn't talked to me in months. She slept with one of her good friends a week ago. She claims the reason she contacted me is because when it happened she realized how much she cared about me bla bla bla.. Weather that's true or not doesn't matter. I just recently started getting my **** together again. Started dating, online.. Baby steps.. I've been going to the gym again, lost 6 lbs already. And I was ****ing devastated again. Now on the outside I know she did nothing wrong. She waited 4 months after we broke up and we hadn't even spoken in 2 months but I was so deeply into the oneitis I couldn't even imaging sleeping with someone else.
So here's where it went from civil to ugly. I told her I would love to date her again but if I did shes can't hang out with this guy alone. (He had a thing for her when we were dating and I was very trusting and confidant during that time. It honestly didn't bother me at all that they were friends) She said she would never chose a boyfriend over a guy shes known her entire life and I honestly respect that. I never expected her to. But I still stand by my decisions. No girl of mine will be hanging out alone with a guy who openly has feelings for her and who she recently had sex with. So I tell her she didn't do anything wrong but I cant see this working out. Then I do the only logical yet irrational thing and set up a first date with a girl I recently met online.
That's when **** gets weird. Last night I'm out to dinner and I get the "Where are you text" (she used to check up on me when we were dating and tbs I thought it was kinda cute so I let it pass) I don't reply and she goes ape ****. Lots of mean things were said. I leave the place (date kinda sucked) and tell her what shes doing is unfair to me and I need my space. We get in a big argument that lasts most of the night and finally I realize I just need to man up and stop this **** so I calmly tell her I'm deleting her contact information and blocking her number. She needs to move on. I did that but before I do she sends a HUGE text about how I was right, she ****ed up, emotional manipulation.
If you've made it this far my heart is in my stomach. I got maybe one hour of sleep last night. I'm pretty sure I had a panic attack and I just need some reassurance that this was a toxic environment and I need to hold fast and move on with my life.
