Don Giovanni
Don Juan
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I started reading this site a few years ago and back then I knew nothing about girls. To give you an idea of how little I knew about girls, I thought the “smile” “tip” was the most amazing thing I had ever read. I thought everything would be different from there on. Everything did change from that moment, not because I read some common sense tip that I obviously lacked the common sense to come to on my own, but because my mind finally opened to the POSSIBLITY that there was a game around me.
I think many guys here can relate how horribly scary it is when you first start.
I don’t know about other guys, but for myself I noticed that stages developed for getting numbers. When I first started out at the very beginning, I got turned down a lot. I was extremely nervous and conveyed that very well to the ladies
. After sticking with it a while, I graduated to fake phone numbers. I got fake number after fake number. Now don’t get me wrong because I didn’t get too many of those either. Why? Because I was stuck in a vicious cycle where I would get rejected a few times and stop for a while and eventually start up again, even less motivated and more sure of failure.
How do you break out of this cycle? I personally had to stop approaching girls for a very long while to figure myself out. Everyone needs to figure himself out regardless, but do not believe you need to be stuck for months and even years trying to figure out how to approach. I had been stuck for a long time and finally reached a breaking point of choosing between the lesser of two pains: either brace myself and go for it or confront the daily hell of my conscience telling me I had betrayed myself and realizing that things were not getting any better and might not get better. Heart to heart now to the guys who are stuck, I know what it is like and I am goddamn proud of you for however far you have gone. Hold on, because I am telling, no PROMISING you when you get there, you will feel so good and proud of yourself for overcoming all that you have.
Breaking out of the cycle really means shifting what you see as being possible and what you think of as being possible. You need to approach a 100 girls in 10 days. Alone. I know some guys really like approaching girls with their buddies, but on the field of life, of your world, you are alone and the quality of your life will depend on how free you are to live as you want. No buddies. You either go alone, or you don’t go at all. Go with them if you want, but chalk it up as time spent hanging out with friends. I know I will get challenged on this point but I ask you, why didn’t you approach that chick over there or that other one waiting for the bus with you while your buddies were not around? You might do one or two alone, but after a handful of rejection without anyone to salve your wounds, you will stop approaching.
The point of a 100 girls in 10 days forces you to see something. One, you are NOT approaching as many girls as you think. I thought I was approaching an average number before this, but you will quickly realize how FEW approaches you actually make. The other thing is that you will finally see a pattern in the approaching. You will see that numbers really do not mean all that much and when you’ve gotten a number in less than 30 seconds, guess what? Your understanding of women will shift again. You will begin to see a structure in how an “accidental” conversation will lead up to a number, because believe me, they are very similar. You will wonder why you ever got so caught up thinking about some really smooth or great pickup you did. Sounds nice, huh? Well, this will be you, Don Juan.
The point is to ask a large amount of women for the numbers in a short period of time in order to force a change in thinking. You could do this in three days - just ask 33 girls for their numbers each day. I actually would recommend this more. If you try for 10 days, you might find yourself averaging very little from the beginning to the very end and be forced to cram huge numbers in the end anyway. The point IS to cram huge numbers in. A good goal would be eventually to do 100 girls in a day. Sounds impossible? Once you get through 100 in 10 days, you won’t know what is or isn’t possible anymore. I recommend going to a city away from where you live to do this because if you’re having trouble approaching you will be more relax in a place you be returning to. Say whatever you want, but keep track of the number of women you ask for numbers from. Do not cheat yourself. Do not count women you approached, but did not ask for the order. Only count the women you asked for the number from. The rest do not count, because the point of this is to get you into the habit of asking a huge quantity of women for numbers in order to force your eyes to open and get out of the cycle. (extra tip: next to the girls’ names, put down the initial of the place you met her and you won’t wonder who she is or where you met)
The key to getting through this is focusing on APPROACHING and ASKING women for their number, NOT on getting the number. If you focus on getting the number, you will miss out on some quality rejections, because you will be screening who you ask and who you don’t in order to avoid rejection. Well, the ratio of numbers of phone numbers to number of girls asked will be better, but you will actually have to approach more girls and you might not finish. Play around with this if you must the first two days, but do not count any girl you approached, but did not ask for the number from. You will be forced to think in terms of number of girls approached and asked instead of number of numbers obtained in the end if you are to finish and this is exactly what you want. There is no longer rejection when you reach this.
As with many good things, there is a flaw or a possible drawback with this. Guys really will begin to realize how easy it really is and that random girls (perhaps many) do think of them in a sexual way. While this is really great and all, I know the time I took to figure myself out and “fix” some of the flaws in me is priceless. Although I didn’t approach too many women then, the quality of how I lived my life greatly increased as a result of time spent in thought and reflection.
Think of body building. Once you experience this shift with women or once your body starts chiselling out to how you want, getting girls will suddenly become much easier, up to the point that you stop trying to figure out what’s wrong in you and thus accept those flaws. Although you will be getting women, you will be losing out on a lot more, which if you had put time into, your life (and the quality of women you get) would be much better. So keep ploughing on, even if you get the woman (or women) of your dreams. Remember this.
You do not need to be stuck in a useless cycle for months trying to figure out how to approach, because it honestly does not matter how you approach. Getting the number is the easy part. You now have control over your life. If you are stuck, you now know how to get out.
Go get 'em, Don Juan.
I think many guys here can relate how horribly scary it is when you first start.
I don’t know about other guys, but for myself I noticed that stages developed for getting numbers. When I first started out at the very beginning, I got turned down a lot. I was extremely nervous and conveyed that very well to the ladies
. After sticking with it a while, I graduated to fake phone numbers. I got fake number after fake number. Now don’t get me wrong because I didn’t get too many of those either. Why? Because I was stuck in a vicious cycle where I would get rejected a few times and stop for a while and eventually start up again, even less motivated and more sure of failure. How do you break out of this cycle? I personally had to stop approaching girls for a very long while to figure myself out. Everyone needs to figure himself out regardless, but do not believe you need to be stuck for months and even years trying to figure out how to approach. I had been stuck for a long time and finally reached a breaking point of choosing between the lesser of two pains: either brace myself and go for it or confront the daily hell of my conscience telling me I had betrayed myself and realizing that things were not getting any better and might not get better. Heart to heart now to the guys who are stuck, I know what it is like and I am goddamn proud of you for however far you have gone. Hold on, because I am telling, no PROMISING you when you get there, you will feel so good and proud of yourself for overcoming all that you have.
Breaking out of the cycle really means shifting what you see as being possible and what you think of as being possible. You need to approach a 100 girls in 10 days. Alone. I know some guys really like approaching girls with their buddies, but on the field of life, of your world, you are alone and the quality of your life will depend on how free you are to live as you want. No buddies. You either go alone, or you don’t go at all. Go with them if you want, but chalk it up as time spent hanging out with friends. I know I will get challenged on this point but I ask you, why didn’t you approach that chick over there or that other one waiting for the bus with you while your buddies were not around? You might do one or two alone, but after a handful of rejection without anyone to salve your wounds, you will stop approaching.
The point of a 100 girls in 10 days forces you to see something. One, you are NOT approaching as many girls as you think. I thought I was approaching an average number before this, but you will quickly realize how FEW approaches you actually make. The other thing is that you will finally see a pattern in the approaching. You will see that numbers really do not mean all that much and when you’ve gotten a number in less than 30 seconds, guess what? Your understanding of women will shift again. You will begin to see a structure in how an “accidental” conversation will lead up to a number, because believe me, they are very similar. You will wonder why you ever got so caught up thinking about some really smooth or great pickup you did. Sounds nice, huh? Well, this will be you, Don Juan.
The point is to ask a large amount of women for the numbers in a short period of time in order to force a change in thinking. You could do this in three days - just ask 33 girls for their numbers each day. I actually would recommend this more. If you try for 10 days, you might find yourself averaging very little from the beginning to the very end and be forced to cram huge numbers in the end anyway. The point IS to cram huge numbers in. A good goal would be eventually to do 100 girls in a day. Sounds impossible? Once you get through 100 in 10 days, you won’t know what is or isn’t possible anymore. I recommend going to a city away from where you live to do this because if you’re having trouble approaching you will be more relax in a place you be returning to. Say whatever you want, but keep track of the number of women you ask for numbers from. Do not cheat yourself. Do not count women you approached, but did not ask for the order. Only count the women you asked for the number from. The rest do not count, because the point of this is to get you into the habit of asking a huge quantity of women for numbers in order to force your eyes to open and get out of the cycle. (extra tip: next to the girls’ names, put down the initial of the place you met her and you won’t wonder who she is or where you met)
The key to getting through this is focusing on APPROACHING and ASKING women for their number, NOT on getting the number. If you focus on getting the number, you will miss out on some quality rejections
, because you will be screening who you ask and who you don’t in order to avoid rejection. Well, the ratio of numbers of phone numbers to number of girls asked will be better, but you will actually have to approach more girls and you might not finish. Play around with this if you must the first two days, but do not count any girl you approached, but did not ask for the number from. You will be forced to think in terms of number of girls approached and asked instead of number of numbers obtained in the end if you are to finish and this is exactly what you want. There is no longer rejection when you reach this. As with many good things, there is a flaw or a possible drawback with this. Guys really will begin to realize how easy it really is and that random girls (perhaps many) do think of them in a sexual way. While this is really great and all, I know the time I took to figure myself out and “fix” some of the flaws in me is priceless. Although I didn’t approach too many women then, the quality of how I lived my life greatly increased as a result of time spent in thought and reflection.
Think of body building. Once you experience this shift with women or once your body starts chiselling out to how you want, getting girls will suddenly become much easier, up to the point that you stop trying to figure out what’s wrong in you and thus accept those flaws. Although you will be getting women, you will be losing out on a lot more, which if you had put time into, your life (and the quality of women you get) would be much better. So keep ploughing on, even if you get the woman (or women) of your dreams. Remember this.
You do not need to be stuck in a useless cycle for months trying to figure out how to approach, because it honestly does not matter how you approach. Getting the number is the easy part. You now have control over your life. If you are stuck, you now know how to get out.
Go get 'em, Don Juan.