Recently i've been working a lot with the concept of will power. As you all know nothing changes unless you take action to make it change, and up until the last few months I believed the way to influence it is you first had to control your thoughts. "As you think you shall become" we are told. We are told to do what you love to do and everything will work out for you. Also, new age thought sh*t tells us that all we have to do is think happy thoughts and feel good about ourselves while visualising our future and we can have anything our heart desires (see: the secret), I guess if you tell anyone they can have anything they want for little to no effort it will become a world wide success, it's human nature after all.
What makes one man approach a woman and another shy away yet they both are sharing the same internal experience?
What makes one man go to the gym and eat that rabbit food while the other eats fast food and watches TV, even thought they both feel lazy?
What makes one student study tirelessly while the other goes out partying even though they both have the same temptations?
Willpower. Discipline. Whatever you want to call it.
The ability to act in our best interest despite our temptations, urges and feelings to do otherwise.
I think its something that can be trained, just as you train for a sport and your skill level increases, as you train with weights and your muscles adapt. The more you utilise your will the more powerful it becomes. You see it when people change one part of their lives (ie. their health) and then the rest of their life starts to come in to line (relationships, career, etc). You see it in the law of momentum, when you start getting things done, you start to make more and more action automatically.
I've noticed over the past couple of months i've held the goal to improve my willpower and this has been working really well. Whenever i know i should do something but i really couldn't be f*cked (wether its because of fear or laziness, everything seems to stem from one of them), something clicks in my brain as im given an opportunity there… an opportunity to develop my will.
Your thoughts?
Note: I'm not bashing positive thinking, in fact i think being relaxed, happy, and grateful is an important part of enjoying the journey that is life. However i don't think its the holy grail of achievement its made out to be.. Action is what counts because sometimes you will feel like sh*t no matter how many rainbows you think of, and thats when your will is honed.
What makes one man approach a woman and another shy away yet they both are sharing the same internal experience?
What makes one man go to the gym and eat that rabbit food while the other eats fast food and watches TV, even thought they both feel lazy?
What makes one student study tirelessly while the other goes out partying even though they both have the same temptations?
Willpower. Discipline. Whatever you want to call it.
The ability to act in our best interest despite our temptations, urges and feelings to do otherwise.
I think its something that can be trained, just as you train for a sport and your skill level increases, as you train with weights and your muscles adapt. The more you utilise your will the more powerful it becomes. You see it when people change one part of their lives (ie. their health) and then the rest of their life starts to come in to line (relationships, career, etc). You see it in the law of momentum, when you start getting things done, you start to make more and more action automatically.
I've noticed over the past couple of months i've held the goal to improve my willpower and this has been working really well. Whenever i know i should do something but i really couldn't be f*cked (wether its because of fear or laziness, everything seems to stem from one of them), something clicks in my brain as im given an opportunity there… an opportunity to develop my will.
Your thoughts?
Note: I'm not bashing positive thinking, in fact i think being relaxed, happy, and grateful is an important part of enjoying the journey that is life. However i don't think its the holy grail of achievement its made out to be.. Action is what counts because sometimes you will feel like sh*t no matter how many rainbows you think of, and thats when your will is honed.
