i am single never married male in my mid/late 30s without debts, and with a high paying job (well into six figures). my job is very busy, by choice as i have extra-curricular activities that improve my status within my job but i do not necessarily get paid for (committee services, research etc).
i am relatively fit and been told i am good looking (I am 5.8, 190 lbs, bench two plates, overhead press a plate for 7, squat and deadlift and although i am not shredded, i look ok in clothes). i do not drive a fancy car but do not drive a beater. Career influence wise, I am known and have a national reputation and international connections. My field is specialized so its not something the layman will be aware of (i am not in the media, politics, or entertainment businesses).
i have struggled with relationships. I am not really interested in anything longterm given my focus on career prongs (which i find meaningful on many level with impact on many people's lives). Call it a screwed up adolescence, but i never ever had any case of oneitis and completely blackpilled in terms of marriage and LTRs. however, i do consider myself a passionate lover from a sexual standpoint. i also have a very bad case of "moral angst" as i like to make it clear to the woman that i am not interested in an LTR and merely interested in the intimate relations before this happens. I have been struggling with this recently and would like to know if there are any topics specifically dedicated to addressing "full disclosure" before intimacy initiation. For example, I recently met a divorced mom (with 2 kids) that i am not planning on having an LTR. I made that clear but her interest was not changed. I had the opportunity to have full relations with her after she invited me to her house, but i opted to not do it (I am paranoid and wanted more corroborative flirtatious texting from her in my cell phone after the heavy petting and foreplay we had, before i proceed to full relations- cant be too careful these days). Now, i have ample texting from her about how she enjoyed that evening etc and invited me back to her place this weekend.
1) what are your thoughts about the "full disclosure" issue i struggle with, and how can i better present it in a politically correct way without discouraging the other party?
2) the rule of not dating divorced single mothers, to my understanding, applies to LTR, but are there any issues with a plate/fwb status even if the fwb status is not loudly acknowledged (the situation above where i clearly indicated my opposition to marriage in all its forms, and my opposition to kids etc- i clearly did not state that i am only looking for an fwb, as it was the 2nd date only (i was invited to her place after this 2nd date)
I appreciate the insight from the moderators and members, and hope this will be conducive to some interesting discussions.
Markalem.
i am relatively fit and been told i am good looking (I am 5.8, 190 lbs, bench two plates, overhead press a plate for 7, squat and deadlift and although i am not shredded, i look ok in clothes). i do not drive a fancy car but do not drive a beater. Career influence wise, I am known and have a national reputation and international connections. My field is specialized so its not something the layman will be aware of (i am not in the media, politics, or entertainment businesses).
i have struggled with relationships. I am not really interested in anything longterm given my focus on career prongs (which i find meaningful on many level with impact on many people's lives). Call it a screwed up adolescence, but i never ever had any case of oneitis and completely blackpilled in terms of marriage and LTRs. however, i do consider myself a passionate lover from a sexual standpoint. i also have a very bad case of "moral angst" as i like to make it clear to the woman that i am not interested in an LTR and merely interested in the intimate relations before this happens. I have been struggling with this recently and would like to know if there are any topics specifically dedicated to addressing "full disclosure" before intimacy initiation. For example, I recently met a divorced mom (with 2 kids) that i am not planning on having an LTR. I made that clear but her interest was not changed. I had the opportunity to have full relations with her after she invited me to her house, but i opted to not do it (I am paranoid and wanted more corroborative flirtatious texting from her in my cell phone after the heavy petting and foreplay we had, before i proceed to full relations- cant be too careful these days). Now, i have ample texting from her about how she enjoyed that evening etc and invited me back to her place this weekend.
1) what are your thoughts about the "full disclosure" issue i struggle with, and how can i better present it in a politically correct way without discouraging the other party?
2) the rule of not dating divorced single mothers, to my understanding, applies to LTR, but are there any issues with a plate/fwb status even if the fwb status is not loudly acknowledged (the situation above where i clearly indicated my opposition to marriage in all its forms, and my opposition to kids etc- i clearly did not state that i am only looking for an fwb, as it was the 2nd date only (i was invited to her place after this 2nd date)
I appreciate the insight from the moderators and members, and hope this will be conducive to some interesting discussions.
Markalem.
