On bitterness...

[NobodyCares1]

It's often said here that a lot of guys here are very bitter, especially towards women. Couple of months ago I just overlooked this fact, but now after I've been through a really bitter period, experienced the effects of being bitter, I understand the whole thing better.

First I have to thank the author of this thread because it got me thinking. I've been after some bad experience with a girl I had oneitis for. After going NC with her I couldn't get any action, drank a lot of alcohol and was really agressive.

While I felt statisfied for not taking any sh!t from anyone, it had a great impact on my relationship with other people, on my mood and on my life generally. After a while I noticed people acting much colder towards me, not being so open and so on. At first I couldn't understand it, why was everyone suddenly so cold. I couldn't understand it because I didn't see the effect of being bitter on me as much as the other could see.

After a while I noticed that my shyness and approach anxiety was getting much worse. My mood was getting worse too. I was waking up in the mornings, feeling depressed. This hasn't happened to me even when I had thoughts of suicide couple of years back. I always had the strength to fight in the morning. Not this time. First I just thought it was because I haven't gamed a girl in a long time, but then one night I did get a girl. Yet the next morning I woke up and still felt depressed.

I've read the thread mentioned above two days ago and began thinking about all the experienced I had for the last two months. And saw that the problem was in me, I was bitter. I could talk to people, even be funny, but the whole caring/loving part was missing and people (women) could feel it. At first I wanted to ask for advice how to be less bitter in this thread. But then I realised I don't need any tips how not to be bitter. It's all in me, it's all in my head. Suddenly I felt a huge boost of positive energy, my oneitis had gone, I felt free, truly happy and optimistic again after two and a half months.

I could already feel the results of this in school today, my day was much better, people felt better around me, I forgot or didn't care anymore about a lot of my problems.

Now I'm not saying you should tolerate sh!t from others, but don't let that bitternes eat you up. I have to spend a lot of time around a$$holes, but they are not worth of making me bitter and thus making my life miserable. You can act bitter and aggressive towards them on the outside but never let the bitternes inside your head, be indifferent towards them. Spend time with the people that are worth it.

If a girl has torn your heart out, don't be bitter because it only makes things worse. Trust me, life's too short to spend it by being bitter, be happy and optimistic.

 

[Mike32ct]

I got really bitter during my dry spell. I'm ok now .

I think we just have to keep the women thing in perspective.

This game has its ups and downs. No need to hate women for it.

 

[NobodyCares1]

I got really bitter during my dry spell. I'm ok now .

I think we just have to keep the women thing in perspective.

This game has its ups and downs. No need to hate women for it.

Exactly, also you can't hate all women for something that just a few of them did to you. Even if you have a dry spell bitterness isn't going to help you, I've been really rude to girls that I've been picking up during these two months, sure I got one even with this approach, but she wasn't a quallity woman. Keeping things light and having fun is the best way to pick up girls. Of course being a bit playfully rude sometimes does wonders, but when you are bitter inside you will overdo it with the rudeness.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

OP this thread is music to my ears because literally the last year I was one bitter - @ss mutha****ah and I've passed up women and things because I was angry frustrated thought they were all a waste of time.

I'm not saying I'm on easy street now. But I will say it has taken me some serious time to let go of the bitterness.

This isn't a MAN vs WOMAN war.

There are b1tches of all shades and genders and sleeze balls of all varieties (probably beyond our lovely earth home the universe is full of some sleeze also)

Doesn't mean all people everywhere are bad or all women are bad. Some women are just as bitter by being burned by men. There are some real soft gentle hearts out there and I think one thing it's taken me forever to learn is to accept and understand that. In some ways I look back on some of my DJ tact and saw how it failed because I was in some circumstances dealing with a woman who was not a total dummy falling for social-manipulation. I think there has to be genuineness or what is is that we are reaping?