I think the forum member who started the debate over the issue of feminism in America did a great job. As a man originally from a foreign country who has been living in the United States now for almost 11 years, I wanted to share my perspective on this. Based on my personal experiences and observations, I strongly believe that feminism has gotten too much into the heads of many American women, and with rather unfortunate results. Let no one get me wrong. I don't advocate violent and abusive behavior toward women or discrimination against them, and I certainly believe in equal rights between the sexes. However, I think many American women have a double standard in the sense that they often reject the so-called nice guys for not having an edge, not being masculine enough, etc., yet at the same time don't hesitate to play the feminist card with men who seem to feel very comfortable embracing their masculinity at very high levels.
Here in the United States, I think women have too much disproportionate power within the initial stages of dating and relationships and there needs to be some kind of balance. I mean...the amount of humiliation, heartbreaking experiences and superficial rejection that a man often goes through in the dating game is unbelievable. Women have a right to stand you up, hurt your feelings, exploit you and lie to you over and over, but because you're a man, you need to simply move on and keep your mouth shut. Expressing your emotions would, in their opinion, imply that you're too sensitive, a wuss, and effeminate. If you're naturally a soft-spoken person, it is regarded as a weakness and the woman may feel that you can't stand up for her or yourself; on the other hand, if you're very outspoken, she may fear that you're the verbally abusive type and won't hesitate to call the cops and get you arrested if need be.
Another unfortunate consequence of American women and their feminism in my opinion, is that many of them tend to be very cut-throat and unwilling to work things out (compromise) with their partners when there are misunderstandings within relationships. Instead, being fully aware of how much power they have, they emulate celebrities who keep switching partners just like they change their clothes. The spoiled mentality of "I'm a woman, I have many options..." stupidly blinds them.
While I'm not suggesting that all American women act this way, I must say, based on my personal experiences that of all Western women I have come across, none in my opinion have been as superficial and shallow and less willing to accept people for who they are than American women. Recently, this has been manifesting itself in my life in a different way. Prior to lifting weights at the gym regularly like I do these days, I could barely get most of the women I felt attracted to, to notice me. I used to jog three days a week and was very slender, athletic build. I remember overhearing a black American woman tell her boyfriend in their car as I jogged by one day-"That dude is so skinny." These days, all of a sudden, with barely any effort at all, it seems extremely hard for me not to get the kinds of women (I can spot them out in a second) who normally never gave me the time of day, to notice me. Even when I wear leather jackets, they seem to notice my muscular definition. The one thing that I feel good about in all of this is that not only has my confidence skyrocketed (and possibly my testosterone level too) since I began lifting weights, but I can say with assertiveness that there is absolutely no woman out there who can disrespect me verbally or abuse that feminism stuff with me. I walk around and I seem to come across to many of them as a semi-giant, and now all of a sudden, they look at me as if they want to mate with me. It's a shame, but I guess that's the way it is.
So to other guys on the forum, who like me, are still walking toward the path of self-improvement, I would strongly encourage you to hit the gym. Lift weights and do it consistently. It is extremely hard work, it will hurt you, and the results won't be produced overnight. However, trust me, they will pay off. Embrace your masculinity. Your masculinity will be highlighted naturally from lifting weights, anyway. And instead of attempting to get noticed by these women, they will be the ones noticing you.
Here in the United States, I think women have too much disproportionate power within the initial stages of dating and relationships and there needs to be some kind of balance. I mean...the amount of humiliation, heartbreaking experiences and superficial rejection that a man often goes through in the dating game is unbelievable. Women have a right to stand you up, hurt your feelings, exploit you and lie to you over and over, but because you're a man, you need to simply move on and keep your mouth shut. Expressing your emotions would, in their opinion, imply that you're too sensitive, a wuss, and effeminate. If you're naturally a soft-spoken person, it is regarded as a weakness and the woman may feel that you can't stand up for her or yourself; on the other hand, if you're very outspoken, she may fear that you're the verbally abusive type and won't hesitate to call the cops and get you arrested if need be.
Another unfortunate consequence of American women and their feminism in my opinion, is that many of them tend to be very cut-throat and unwilling to work things out (compromise) with their partners when there are misunderstandings within relationships. Instead, being fully aware of how much power they have, they emulate celebrities who keep switching partners just like they change their clothes. The spoiled mentality of "I'm a woman, I have many options..." stupidly blinds them.
While I'm not suggesting that all American women act this way, I must say, based on my personal experiences that of all Western women I have come across, none in my opinion have been as superficial and shallow and less willing to accept people for who they are than American women. Recently, this has been manifesting itself in my life in a different way. Prior to lifting weights at the gym regularly like I do these days, I could barely get most of the women I felt attracted to, to notice me. I used to jog three days a week and was very slender, athletic build. I remember overhearing a black American woman tell her boyfriend in their car as I jogged by one day-"That dude is so skinny." These days, all of a sudden, with barely any effort at all, it seems extremely hard for me not to get the kinds of women (I can spot them out in a second) who normally never gave me the time of day, to notice me. Even when I wear leather jackets, they seem to notice my muscular definition. The one thing that I feel good about in all of this is that not only has my confidence skyrocketed (and possibly my testosterone level too) since I began lifting weights, but I can say with assertiveness that there is absolutely no woman out there who can disrespect me verbally or abuse that feminism stuff with me. I walk around and I seem to come across to many of them as a semi-giant, and now all of a sudden, they look at me as if they want to mate with me. It's a shame, but I guess that's the way it is.
So to other guys on the forum, who like me, are still walking toward the path of self-improvement, I would strongly encourage you to hit the gym. Lift weights and do it consistently. It is extremely hard work, it will hurt you, and the results won't be produced overnight. However, trust me, they will pay off. Embrace your masculinity. Your masculinity will be highlighted naturally from lifting weights, anyway. And instead of attempting to get noticed by these women, they will be the ones noticing you.
