Older Men Who Give It All To The Wife

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I sit here at work. A male coworker i don’t know well maybe 57-59 gets on the phone 2-3 times per week with his wife who I think is around the same age. He talks so sweet to her and tells her how lucky he is to have her, etc. One time he actually had her on speaker and was talking about something that needed fixed in their house. She was completely demasculating him. Arguing with everything he said. Interrupting him. Raising her voice. All he was trying to do was have a logical conversation. He just kept on taking it. And taking it. And taking it. What’s the deal with a man who does this and allows this? Do these older men really have no self worth? Is their value of being a man all from their wives who they “can’t live without”. It just makes me sick. I imagine even at her age this can’t be very attractive to her sexually. She’s gotta be at least thinking about leaving him. He probably has to beg her for a smash at her wrinkled Arby’s sandwich. But she prolly can’t even find a dog who would want it besides him.

These men like this make me want to puke up every last drop of bile out of my liver.
 

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I sit here at work. A male coworker i don’t know well maybe 57-59 gets on the phone 2-3 times per week with his wife who I think is around the same age. He talks so sweet to her and tells her how lucky he is to have her, etc. One time he actually had her on speaker and was talking about something that needed fixed in their house. She was completely demasculating him. Arguing with everything he said. Interrupting him. Raising her voice. All he was trying to do was have a logical conversation. He just kept on taking it. And taking it. And taking it. What’s the deal with a man who does this and allows this? Do these older men really have no self worth? Is their value of being a man all from their wives who they “can’t live without”. It just makes me sick. I imagine even at her age this can’t be very attractive to her sexually. She’s gotta be at least thinking about leaving him. He probably has to beg her for a smash at her wrinkled Arby’s sandwich. But she prolly can’t even find a dog who would want it besides him.

These men like this make me want to puke up every last drop of bile out of my liver.
She probably would leave him, but can't. That's why she stays.

I'll give them one thing though, at least he's been able to keep a wife for that many years, no easy feat in this day and age. Of course, if they were 20 years younger in 2019, she probably would go ahead and leave him, something she would not have done so easily in 1999. Who really knows.

I think at some point a lot of men back in those days, who were sort of naturally alpha, maybe softened as the years went by (like most of the world around them). A lot of them do not realize how easy they have it, and they all champion chivalry and crap like that, while also championing small bits of women's rights bullcrap.

Bottom line they never internalized the red pill.
 

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Serious question lefty, how many men in ur social circle you'd considered happily married ?

And to the others reading this, how many in ur own social circle ?

That's something many should ponder on.
Tough to say. I know some guys who I think are faking it. Any guy who has to constantly say "She's wonderful" and gushing over her every time their spouse is brought up is probably faking it. I know guys like that and while they may never say anything to the contrary, I think they're faking it.
 

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I think I said this before, but I will repeat

the ones I find really like they marriage are the ones who dude make jokes about him wanting to be single, like one saying after he did a 30 year marriage he said if he had killed someone now at least he would be free, she did get pissed at him, but now she even repeat that like a joke

and i'm saying it about both parts not only the guy, so don't matter, the couple who really work well are the ones who the guy have his balls and his woman respect him
 

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I actually wanted to post about this. Was chatting with my neighbor, he mentioned how his dream after retirement was to play a lot of golf. When I asked him why isn't he playing right now rather than talking to me. His answer "my wife wont let me". I tried to explain to him life is short, you're retired, you earned the right to do what you want in your own time, she doesn't own you, go grab your clubs and play a round of golf. Thats when I saw his emotions got the best of him, like he wanted to shed a tear.

Known the guy for years, he isn't aging well, wife seems nice on the outside, but deep down I can see her evil controlling self. So instead of him enjoying his retirement his wife has him strung up like a puppet. She has him outside gardening with her every single day like a women instead of doing what he dreams of like a simple game of golf away from her. He never leaves her side, she calls he comes running like a dog. She has demasculated him to the point he's like a walking zombie whos afraid to speak, afraid to do what he wants, or have any purpose. As I started to walk away I told him "grab your clubs one day this week and live that dream"!

These types of situations are a big factor why women live longer. They do what they want while the man doesn't. He is constantly stressed, afraid to speak, afraid she will leave, feels shame, has no purpose, feels worthless/helpless. Some of my own boys are in a very similar situation. She is the alpha they are the beta. Women are becoming more and more narcissistic each day. That is whats going to cause the fall of man in years to come. The tables are turning where women think their used up arbys sandwich is the holy grail and men need to sacrifice their masculinity in order to get it and keep it around.
 
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Serious question lefty, how many men in ur social circle you'd considered happily married ?

And to the others reading this, how many in ur own social circle ?

That's something many should ponder on.
I would say 20%
The emasculating is a slow process most.men realize its happening.Until nothing can be done about it
 

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Many men put up a front and so do their wife's when in a social setting.

Men acts all manly outside but most return home to get nag for something totally undeserved, fights back, then after a couple of years just figured that there's no winning and kind of agrees just to keep the peace - and that's how it happens.

Slowly.

I'd put the figure at 95%
 

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Many men put up a front and so do their wife's when in a social setting.

Men acts all manly outside but most return home to get nag for something totally undeserved, fights back, then after a couple of years just figured that there's no winning and kind of agrees just to keep the peace - and that's how it happens.

Slowly.

I'd put the figure at 95%
Mmmm
What if a man turns it around and use same process on the wife.

Asking for gradually bigger favor. With ofc intermittent reward for good behaviors.
 

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Mmmm
What if a man turns it around and use same process on the wife.

Asking for gradually bigger favor. With ofc intermittent reward for good behaviors.
That's the rest of the 5% that manages their marriages.

Wife does good and he praises her but once in a while he creates drama that shatters her tranquillity, walks off, allow her hamster brain to go on overdrive thinking what upset him and hoping he returns.

When he does, she of course will be all apologetic and he of course forgives her..

Repeat and cycle.

Not something a faint hearted could do and most men can't.
 

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Nagging prevention 101

And create drama when she use the wrong kind of bread for.my sandwich lol


For me it would be counterintuitive but when i think of relationship with ex, that how she was getting to me.

Wonder how aware and intentional their action are .
 

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Nagging prevention 101

And create drama when she use the wrong kind of bread for.my sandwich lol


For me it would be counterintuitive but when i think of relationship with ex, that how she was getting to me.

Wonder how aware and intentional their action are .
It's simple leadership.

Your bosses does it and so does their boss.

Maybe ur future wife cooks breakfasts every Saturday or Sundays, ham, bacon, sausages, eggs, there's orange juice all nice and hot just for you.

Nice huh ?

Sure you'll mention it to her; "now this is what I call heaven" and you really do mean it.

She of course will be ecstatic.

But every now and then you'd look at her and say " does my face look like I'm a sausage roll?".

Maybe even throw the plate in the sink to make it dramatic then walk off..

Wife is gonna be surprised, shocked, dismayed BUT wondering what she did wrong and what she did to upset you because you always love ur bacon, eggs etc...

The whole day she'll be in emotional turmoil.

So the wife has her emotional ups and downs...and then up when you return home.

All women deep down needs to be dominated even though that's not what she wants.

Need and wants are 2 separate issues that needs to be dealt when with a woman.
 

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Serious question lefty, how many men in ur social circle you'd considered happily married ?

And to the others reading this, how many in ur own social circle ?

That's something many should ponder on.
I only know of one couple who I genuinely believe is happily married and they reason why is because they practice their roles correctly. He is alpha, she is beta. The other couples I know, the woman runs things and the male takes it because he thinks he has no choice. I even know some couples in their early 70s who are like this. These men are completely castrated, its a wonder any of them had kids.
 

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I only know of one couple who I genuinely believe is happily married and they reason why is because they practice their roles correctly. He is alpha, she is beta. The other couples I know, the woman runs things and the male takes it because he thinks he has no choice. I even know some couples in their early 70s who are like this. These men are completely castrated, its a wonder any of them had kids.
Because those men failed in their leadership.

Leadership doesn't just mean giving orders or being an example.

It is also very much a projection of power.

Think of those times when everything was going well at ur workplace, those jobs everyone did well, praises everyone received but once in a blue moon the big boss comes down, on purpose finds a fault (and there's always 1 if anyone looks) then goes about showing his displeasure.

It was done with a singular purpose - he's the boss and he did it to put everyone in their places ( terms like audit was created for this purpose).

And the very next day he's smiling like nothing has happened.

It's the same in the house.

A power struggle between the wife and the husband of which he must never lose by not letting her to even challenge him often.
 

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Serious question lefty, how many men in ur social circle you'd considered happily married ?

And to the others reading this, how many in ur own social circle ?

That's something many should ponder on.
About half, right at the rate of divorce.
 

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About half, right at the rate of divorce.
You're not factored in marriages whereby the wife's happy but hubby's been brainwashed.

It works like this, 1st they control ur mind (how you view the world), 2nd ur soul (love) and last they control ur balls - this is when she loses all respect, admiration and love.

Only thing left in her is the memory of what you were once was and the promise you held.
 

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Mmmm
What if a man turns it around and use same process on the wife.

Asking for gradually bigger favor. With ofc intermittent reward for good behaviors.
I tried. I think I tried everything, I even did/said things totally off the wall that I thought she would be surprised at...
She wasn't. You can't stop crazy. You can't beat it (legally). Just unplug and learn to dispose when it becomes trash.
 

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The main issue imo comes down to "fear". When men get poon on a regular basis from the same women "most" end up being scared of losing it. So they start failing every chit test, taking all the disrespect she throws at him cause holding onto that vag and not wanting to be alone is what runs into a mans mind the most. Over time the man has slowly been chopped down to his stump and the women knows she has him wrapped around her finger. At that point the man just accepts what his life has become and uses the "at least I still get vag" or "it's better than being alone" statement as a means of justification.

I've witnessed this from many men I've known throughout the years married or just in a committed relationship. A good friend of mine who I'd say leans more on the Alpha side is slowly losing his balls. His gf speaks for him now, controls when and where they go, makes him pay for almost everything, ect.

Even though she is my friend as well, I asked my boy why are staying with her if she puts you through so much bs and all you do is complain? His answer "this is the kind of chit you have to put up with in order to get steady relationship vag" Again FEAR comes into play. My boy is balding, not aging very well, thinks he can't do better, is scared of loosing the vag and being alone at 41. My boy will never admit thats why he stays with her and why he's become weak. I read their body language every time I see them and it's so obvious he isn't happy. We all went on vacation a while back and the whole time he kept complaining about her, constantly annoyed by her, walks away upset when she chit tests him, and doesn't genuinely enjoy the time he spends with her. Dumba$$ also just signed a mortgage with this chick. She trapped him good.

At the end of the day men just don't have easy access to regular pu$$y the same way a women have a line of sheep ready to do whatever she wants. That's why heart break effects men more severely than women.
 
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