Older men’s fixation with younger women really boils my kidneys

[BadBoy89]

Article:

In 2018, the Science Advances journal published a study about the "aspirational pursuit of mates" within online dating. Researchers looked at nearly 200,000 heterosexual users and found that while men's sexual desirability peaks at age 50, women hit their prime at 18. Another study undertaken by dating website OkCupid found that "the median 30-year-old man spends as much time messaging teenage girls as he does women his own age".

Older men’s fixation with younger women really boils my kidneys

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But why does this supposed fixation that older men appear to have on young women bother me so much? Is it because, as a 40-something woman, it reminds me that in the world of dating, women of my vintage have depreciated in value? That the idea suggests physical appearance still matters more for women than men and we are thought to diminish in attractiveness more precipitously? Is it because research like this confirms what I’ve long suspected: some men (hashtag not all men) find girls more attractive than grown women – women with possibly more opinions and agency?

What ultimately bothers me is a man who believes that a woman his own age is too old to love. The French novelist Yann Moix intoned last year: "The body of a 25-year-old woman is extraordinary. The body of a woman of 50 is not extraordinary at all."

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Thoughts?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Well, I do pretty much exclusively 40 and above, the women I choose as mates have sporty, youthful physiques. The biggest issue here is that women that are in my age group 50+ are threatened by the idea that I could date much younger women if I chose to. Instead of making themselves more attractive, going to the gym, getting a nice haircut, wearing their hair long and generally acting sexy they choose to just moan and complain like many men do here. It’s unattractive and why should I bother?

 

[mbc0029]

Men find younger women hotter. Is this news?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Dried-up raisin jealous of juicy grape.
Big News.
BIG NEWS.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

It's just Mother Nature's cruel joke on all of us. A woman from teen to early 20s will have all the sexual advantages in the world but the time is fleeting. For men it's a slow steady development and later peak.

Notice these young women are never taken to task for dating much older men with lots of money and charm. There is very little self awareness when women consider these things.

I do lately find myself lamenting how it all works though. If nature weren't so harsh we'd lust after people of all types. But reproduction is a powerful force.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Also, the dried-up raisins had their chance back when they were juicy grapes. Crying over wasted opportunities is childish.

 

[LTG71]

Can’t stop evolutionary biological drivers. Men have reportedly ~17 times more testosterone and that drives you to wanna procreate 24/7. Who is the most desirable to engage in this drive? 18-25 year olds. Younger, hotter, tighter and not combative. Doesn’t matter what propaganda they want to spew, women’s SMV starts to decline with age. Even their own bodies know this as procreating becomes more difficult after 30. Sad but true. Just like women are not crazy about dad bods, guys 18-90 will always appreciate a younger woman any day of the week. The only vintage items men are looking for are cars and motorcycles, lol.

In other news:
Water has been found to be wet

 

[The Duke]

Another great example of women that have it so good for so long and lack self awareness. My mom who is 70yo always said a woman needs to bring some skills to the table other than her looks if she expects to grow old with some man. She needs to know how to cook, clean, raise kids, and support her husband.

The older I get the stronger the desire for a woman 10+ years younger than my own age becomes. I'd rather go without than be with a woman my own age or older.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The only vintage items men are looking for are cars and motorcycles, lol.

Vintage typewriters
Vintage sunglasses
Vintage espresso machines

 

[Barrister]

It is funny - this is like clockwork. Whenever men are supposed to be ashamed for wanting (and getting) that gorgeous, youthful, tight 21 year old (or any woman who is 15+ years their junior really), it is always either some old hag or an ugly SJW leading the charge who probably hasn't been boned the right way in years. Enter Tanya Sweeney.

 

[Slowhandluke]

Men find younger women hotter. Is this news?

Yes, it's news to feminist and to a lot of stupid girls... or in other words, it's news to future cat ladies... and maybe a few soy boys...

 

[pipeman84]

I looked up Tanya Sweeney ... what amazes me is that she managed to find a guy to marry her and get her pregnant at 42yrs old.

 

[SW15]

I looked up Tanya Sweeney ... what amazes me is that she managed to find a guy to marry her and get her pregnant at 42yrs old.

Men are thirsty AF

 

[soulforge]

Another great example of women that have it so good for so long and lack self awareness. My mom who is 70yo always said a woman needs to bring some skills to the table other than her looks if she expects to grow old with some man. She needs to know how to cook, clean, raise kids, and support her husband.

The older I get the stronger the desire for a woman 10+ years younger than my own age becomes. I'd rather go without than be with a woman my own age or older.

I refuse to be with a woman my age or older.. Most are jaded/ran through/femininesed

Between 20-30 is the sweet Spot for me.

 

[pipeman84]

Men are thirsty AF

Nah, she's not Nicole Scherzinger. This is just another example of like attracts like.

 

[I_have_BDE]

It is funny - this is like clockwork. Whenever men are supposed to be ashamed for wanting (and getting) that gorgeous, youthful, tight 21 year old (or any woman who is 15+ years their junior really), it is always either some old hag or an ugly SJW leading the charge who probably hasn't been boned the right way in years. Enter Tanya Sweeney.

In general everyone says it's creepy for guys liking younger women, unless they're famous then people think it's funny. But for everyone else like on here it's frowned upon by society. But if a young guy likes an old woman it's not called creepy.

80 years ago it wasn't like this. You could be 38 and marry a 20 year old and it's okay. Or a 16 year old marrying a bit older guy.

If this were still 80 years ago and we were not married we'd be going for young women too probably.

 

[Kotaix]

 

[Barrister]

In general everyone says it's creepy for guys liking younger women, unless they're famous then people think it's funny. But for everyone else like on here it's frowned upon by society. But if a young guy likes an old woman it's not called creepy.

80 years ago it wasn't like this. You could be 38 and marry a 20 year old and it's okay. Or a 16 year old marrying a bit older guy.

If this were still 80 years ago and we were not married we'd be going for young women too probably.

Frankly, I think the "creepiness" thing is completely overblown. I disagree that "in general" it is frowned upon. I think it is predominantly a view that is pushed by older women to shame men who are their same age or older who go for women who are younger than them. I think you get a contingent of weak, beta men who white knight and agree with them to try to impress these women. But generally speaking, I think you would be very hardpressed to find any man who seriously thinks this is "creepy."

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I think you get a contingent of weak, beta men who white knight and agree with them to try to impress these women. But generally speaking, I think you would be very hardpressed to find any man who seriously thinks this is "creepy."

It's 'ageism', that's what it is.

I only had to laugh at the looks. Who gives a fvck?

 

[The Duke]

Lol anything that doesnt benefit women has always been called creepy. Masters at shaming for their own benefit.

Then you get the beta males carrying the Old Woman Pride Flag who couldn't date younger women if they tried.