Older DJ's...how much experience do you prefer a girl have?

[STR8UP]

I'm talking sexual AND relationship experience.

One of my past g/f's, I was her second sex partner. I pretty much had to walk her thru everything step by step...kinda sucked. Wouldn't have been so bad if I were her age (18) but I was 24 at the time.

Another girl (LTR) I dated.... I was her third sex partner. That wasn't too bad. I'd have to say this situation was IDEAL. She hadn't been used and abused, but I didn't have to draw her a diagram either.

Now, for relationship experience, I say it's best that an older guy (late 20's+) not get seriously involved with anyone that hasn't experienced at least a few relationships. She won't know what she wants, and even if she is satisfied with you she is still going to always have in the back of her mind that she's missing something.

Any thoughts?

 

[icehot]

As i get older in the DJ game, i've found that the women my age are pretty much bitter and broken. Too many bad relationships with loser guys have saddled them with more baggage than PAN AM.

So now, i'm going after the younger honies. Less baggage to deal with and they generally have a more openminded view of the world.

As far as the sex goes; that can be a problem..but heck, i'm a good teacher
I once had to get a girl to put her hair in pigtails so i could use them to "steer" her when she was giving me a BJ.

-iceH

 

[Clint Eastwood]

Total agreement with IceHot. My experience with the older ones has been bad, including tonight. I never find an older one without way too much baggage.

I'm going after the younger ones. As far as the sex thing, I had a 21 year old once, who was much better than a 35 year old. That's rare, but like Ice Hot said, I'm a good teacher. So I don't mind the sexual inexperience as much as the baggage. You can easily teach a young girl about great sex, but just try to get an older one over her baggage.

 

[STR8UP]

Yea, that makes sense.

My last LTR was 28, I was 30 at the time. To date she's the oldest I've ever been involved with. I don't have experience with 30 something's.

Honestly I'm physically attracted to the younger girls (guess that proves I'm a human male). I'm just worried about getting involved with a girl that doesn't have much relationship experience. A girl can have sex with one partner 30 times and eventually she'll catch on, but if she has only been in one relationship she's not gonna know what she's looking for as far as that goes.

In case you haven't seen my other thread I started seeing a 21 yr old college chick that has only ever had ONE boyfriend (still with him long distance, wants to move on).

I don't often find a girl this age that I can hold a decent convo with, but this one seems to have her sh!t together. I really like hanging out with her.

I'm just very hesitant to get involved with someone that doesn't have a full perspective on the relationship game, ya know?

I'd REALLY like to develop this into a fukk buddy situation, but her being so "innocent" that might be difficult. I don't think she's into sex without commitment.

So even if the girl has only had ONE relationship in her life you think that's better than getting involved with a girl that has some baggage?

Like I said, I don't have a lot of experience with older women. I DID date a girl with a kid once, but she turned out to be inexperienced as well...quite the psycho she turned out to be.

 

[trajhenkhet]

I prefer a lady to be on the same page of experinece as I. Age is a secondary factor

 

[Frosty]

When I was 17, I was dating two girls, one was 17 and the other 18. The one 17 had been with a few sex partners and while the one 18 had only been with 1. It was so freakin frustrating to get the 18 Year old to do what the 17 year old could. From that day on I have been more attracted to the experienced gal.

Some guys get upset when they find out their girl has been around the block a few times but I enjoy those women since they are less inhibited/more adventurous in the sack. The less experienced can become boring quick.

I actually got upset when trying to teach the 18 year old about the basics of foreplay. I realize that I was a bit too hard on her now but I will never forget the sexual frustration while dealing with hormones that dripped from me like sweat.

I guess you have to have good patience to teach.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

I've had lots of different girls of varying experiences. Taken a few virgins under my wing to teach them as well.

Basically, I've found its the girl's general attitude towards sex, their sex drive if you will, that makes the biggest difference.

The high drive, good attitude girls, even when they don't have much experience, are just simply better.

The low drive girls, even when they have lots of experience, just suck (actually they might still suck really good but the overall experience still sucks as rare as it might be.)

Low drive girls get the boot as soon as it becomes obvious. High drive girls will learn a lot. I personally get a kick of their "firsts" and experiencing my teachings at work.

 

[( . )( . )]

sex is the most important thing for me, if she just lays there the whole time then its cya later starfish.

lets be honest , i dont actually understand (luckily never met one) how a chick can be a sh!t shag, its one of the easiest things to learn, i dont think it has anything to do with less experience and maybe its just her lack of enthusiasm and effort.
and even chicks who have a low sex drive in the past have a least put a little effort in.
unless shes a virgin im not buying into her "lack of experience" its not rocket science and anyone who has the ability to think and get horny can by rights go off like a firecracker.

 

[Trapspringer]

unless shes a virgin im not buying into her "lack of experience" its not rocket science and anyone who has the ability to think and get horny can by rights go off like a firecracker.

So you are saying there is no difference in the bed between a slut and a virgin or someone who has only done it only a few times? I strongly disagree with that one.

 

[( . )( . )]

not at all, im saying if shes horny enough "lack of experience" wont have anything to do with it

and to add, someone whos only done the deed a few times should have common sense to know what is good

 

[MDgood]

To me the experience thing depends on what kind of relationship I want with the girl. Even though it's a pain in the ass, I'm willing to take the time to break in and train a woman who's LTR material. If it's just a sexual relationship, I'm not going to handle the bullshyt as well.

 

[STR8UP]

I know the post was about sexual and relationship experience, but most of the responses have been about sexual experience.

That's not really my main concern here.

The one I am speaking of has probably been sexualy active for a few years with one guy. By now I'm sure she's at least comfortable with it.

What I'm really concerned about is the lack of relationship experience. What if she turns out to be a keeper but has only been in one other relationship? She's always gonna wonder if the grass is greener even if she doesn't have the balls to try to find out. Doesn't make for a good situation.

 

[ChevyLover]

It'll be a tough job to be her second boyfriend ever because she'll be wondering if your the guy shes been looking for, and she might try other guys, but someone has to do it, right?

I'd go for it. If she fvcks around on you, next, if not good deal. It's experience either way.

CL