Okay, I have a tough one for you guys.

[neojanus]

Okay, here is the scenario. I am moving in two weeks; I sure do like someone, but am unsure whether she likes me in the same way (she very well might). We are already very good friends. Also, she is still getting over a guy... they never dated, but she wanted to. I am guy with a history of not telling people my feelings. I often fear for the possible awkwardness following. I know she and I will keep in touch no matter what, so whatever I do, I will have to live with knowing that I will see her again.

Do I tell her and take the risk?
OR do I leave it unsaid and leave the already good friendship on safe ground?

Thanks.

 

[Gold Heart]

I think someone is in need of the dj bible..It's on the top right corner of your screen. Good luck.

 

[Starman]

where are you moving? from one seat to another? or out of state??

in my experience..telling a girl you like her is the kiss of death..SHOW her you like her..touch her..try to kiss her..take her out etc

plus it sounds like you are already in the friend zone..with her telling you her guy problems..and other guys she likes

Red flag!

 

[Knicknack]

don juan bible

 

[seulaxplaya]

depends where ur movin too? going to college. dont tell her. going anywhere else go ahead and tell her. ull meet so many babes in college why be tied down long distance. trust me on this i had two long distance relationships. and not even that far away just one hour and it didnt work out. be like this. u look (name of girl) i like u alot and i have a feeling that u may like me as well. we both know that i am leaving and we wont be like we use too but i just wanted to let u know that i have strong feelings for u more then a friend. we are still going to be the best of friends but one day if ur willing well give it a shot at some thing else. thats whyat i would do

 

[Walden]

Akwardness schmakwardness.
Ask her out. I have a few female friends who I makced on and they weren't buying , and we were just fine afterwards. The thing is not to be subtle or fiddle about (that's when it gets akward). Go straight up and say "I like your a-- I want to wear it as a hat".

Maybe a bit more subtle than that. Ask her if she's seeing anyone then tell her you have tickets to the state championship pig neutering finals in Wichita and would she like to go with you?

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by neojanus
Do I tell her and take the risk?
OR do I leave it unsaid and leave the already good friendship on safe ground?

First off, don't tell a girl you want her...SHOW her. You don't need to tell her how you feel and then see if she approves. They're YOUR feelings, don't be embarassed about them. Assume it's a given...hell, NO woman can resist you forever. Whether she comes around in this lifetime...well, only one way to find out.

Secondly, WHAT RISK?? There are two possible outcomes:

-You hook up with her, in which case you're better off than you were before

-She blows you off, in which case you're not hooking up with her and you're still without her. In other words, you're exactly the same as you are now.

You can only move up. But get that "friendship" ****e out of your head. If you want this girl as a romantic partner, the "friendship" is a farce anyway...you're leading her to believe that you feel a way about her that you don't, and that you don't feel about her a way that you DO, just because you're afraid that she might reject you.

Seriously, if she rejects you, BIG DEAL.

Read the DJ Bible. Being DJ is less about knowing how to handle women than it is about knowing how to handle yourself. If you can't handle yourself, how can you expect to handle anyone else?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Walden
Akwardness schmakwardness.
Ask her out. I have a few female friends who I makced on and they weren't buying , and we were just fine afterwards. The thing is not to be subtle or fiddle about (that's when it gets akward).

I agree with Walden. If you haven't told her of your move, tell her. Ask her out since you are moving away and you may not see each other for a long while if ever.

During the date, get her talking. Have her tell her story. You will be able to pick up on her IL on you and whether she will miss you being around.

If her IL seems high, drop the idea of her coming up to see you sometime so you can show her around the area. Y'know, you'll be new there and it would be nice to see a familiar face. She should eat that up

From that her IL will be blatantly apparent.

 

[BobbDobbs]

If you're leaving, you have a built in excuse to ask her out for a goodbye dinner.