Okay, guys I have given you my thoughts....now,

[PVSSY-EATER]

Guys, this is ol' Pvssy Eater a-gain....and believe it or not, but guys, I need your help....I am callin Don-1-1!

Guys, after getting into an D.U.I. accident with my car totally destroyed and getting out without a scratch, with my body finally showing some displays of toneness and abs, with me finally getting my college degree in December, and turning the biggggg 22 in August, and of course, finally having some success wit the fe-males......guys, I dont have any real friends...

I mean, I have tons and tons, and tons, and...do you want me to keep going...of associates.

Man, I can make people like me and want to hang out with me very easy.....but guys, the problem is,

when my back is against the wall, and I need a way out, I have nobody but momma to call on....and with all the people I know, it just seems so embarrassing.

I dont understand it though guys. Because...and even though I just started reading Dale Carnegies book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.....I notice that I already do most of those things, and THAT would explain why people seem to like me at times, but guys......I dont have a real friend in the world.

If I wasnt cool anymore, or if I needed anyone of these associates to just do anything for me, or jsut have my back, I have nobody for that....

Soooo....fellows, I always post things on here to help you guys out, and I was JUSTTTTT wondering.....can you guys give me a little advice?

-pvssy

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

To add....I always seek to understand and get to know people....I am always interested in them....I think that most times, I just become entertainment for them, or a good laugh, but guys, is it possible for me to remain such a cool guy but have no friends? Man, I am whinin to you guys....but helll, AFCs do it about women, so hell, let me do it about life...haha

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

P_E, I'll be your friend - I don't have friends either!

Put your hand out across Lake Michigan and give me a high five!!

Do you have family?

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Uncle PRL.....haha, you know what it seems like...

It seems like the greater man you become, the less real friends you have.....I dont understand...when I was an Afc, oh my, people just seemed to care about me more for some reason, even though, I was depressed all the time, had low self esteem...not dont get me wrong, I dont walk around all like I am buff and I am the stuff now, but.....come on, it breaks my heart when I see great friends hanging out, kind of like brotherhood, and I am missing out on all of that.........

 

[Julian]

I have 2 real friends.

And honestly i could even do without them.

You dont need anybody.

All you need is your heart and your mind and the force of will to do whatever it is you please. and your moms for when **** gets REAL DEEP!

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

hey julian thanks bro....and quite frankly...that is how it is starting to really look.

I am about to move to Los Angeles after graduation, and its like, damn, I got to make sure I dont get in no shyt, because I am quite sure I will have a lot of people down there, but nobody to help....why is this guys? I mean, do you think I should...but no, I already seek to understand them more....why is this guys, damn, haha

 

[frivolousz21]

let me intervine here.....

making great friends at ur age is hard..adults dont trust other adults.

I have very very very close friends about 5 or 6 of them...like brothers..adn it makes everyday great..


search and seek some real friends man!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I never been depressed, never been lonely or sad and I'm 43 - you have a long road ahead P-E - you are only 21! I do get angry sometimes, expecially when I lose my keys or if I spill my beer!!! :cuss:

In fact I like to read and think a lot so being alone is good!

I have a large family but they have their own lives - I can have many friends becasue I'm a pretty damn cool dude but I don't like most people I meet, especially hos, a person's values should be close to mine if I hang out with them.

Do you have family?

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

yeah I got family, my dreams, bytches, just no brotherhood...and I real secret of mine is this....I always wanted a brother my age, just so I could have someone to be a brother to, and to be a brother back......I guess....huh, you cant have everything...or...can you? Is it possible? What the hell....

 

[Centaurion]

Dude, you got the brotherhood of the real Djs. Heh sounds kinda gay, but still.

I'm almost in the same position as yourself. Even though I've got tons of associates here in Sydney, I've only got 2 real good friends and they're on the ****ing other side of the globe. It sucks some times, but just as the crazy Puerto_Rican, I like to read and think so it doesn't really bother me. What bothers me are all these ****ing social sluts that want to hang out 24/7. Back the **** off, I need my alone time.

 

[[look]aRhino]

I've always found that I like out for numero uno. Myself.

However, there are some people who I will bend over backward for.

You want to know what distinguishes these people from others? We really connected, we really get along, and then they did favours for me first.

For no reason. I didn't ask for the favours, they offer. I find after people offer to drive me home, pick up the extra on a bill if I'm a couple bucks short, I'm much warmer to them.

After they do it a lot? I'd do anything for them.

Rhino

 

[nonstop]

put an ad in the newspaper, "Male friends wanted"

hehe

I thought you were leaving us anyway?

This guys......is probably goin to be....my last post on this website....I love you guys, and I pray and I hope...that life gives you a wonderful load of blessings.

favours can help you make friends.

true friends are made through some kind of shared experience.

school, living together, travel, work, nights out, concerts.... are good ones.

this is another reason why action dates are so good, because two people are sharing a unique experience and offers something that only these two people can connect with later.

trauma victims often stay friends long after the event because they share something that has had an impact on their lives.

a bad boss or teacher often makes the employees/students bond together.

start sharing some experiences and friends will be yours forever.

 

[izza]

You know, PE, I was in the same boat too. About 6 months ago my gf/best friend broke up with me, and I looked around and realized that, although I had dozens of acquaintances and roommates who love me (but who have their own lives independent of mine), I really didn't have anybody to rely on. That was the darkest time of my life. I had a family who loved me, but no women, no idea how to get them (I'm still a bit clueless on that tip, but I'm working hard at it ), and no good friends that I saw regularly. Moreover, most of my friends were women, and since, having discovered my masculinity, I was far less fond of chumpish talking and more interested in manly doing, my friendships with women floundered.

Making new friends is more difficult than finding a gf, I think. A gf can be added to someone's life and taken away, but people's friends are much harder to change. But still, there are some great ways to make friends. First, seek people with similar interests as you. Of course this gives you things to talk about. Me, I love music and I love history. I made a new friend in each over the course of the semester, and if I weren't leaving town, I would continue to develop my friendship with both these new friends.

The second part of my advice is the hard part. For me, I always had a hard time making friends because I had a hard time asking for love, and a lot of fear of rejection. Let me explain. I would meet cool people, and want to hang out with them, but I was always afraid of appearing too needy. Maybe this doesn't impact you, PE, I don't know. But for me, I was terrified of seeming needy or desperate for friendship, and that prevented me from doing things that real friends do: rely on each other and try to spend time with each other somewhat regularly. That means calling and arranging things to do and confiding and relying on each other.

Also, I was lonely, had little confidence, and had a lot riding on the success of friendships, that is, the end to lonliness. It made me be artificial and, while not supplicating, I would say prone to use "strategies" rather than just following the old gut. I'm not saying it's bad to be lonely or to desire friends, it's how you DEAL with your desire that counts (just like in picking up women).

Finally, just remember that friends love each other, but guys just show love in different ways than you would a woman. This love is just as important in friendship as in relationships, but it is built in different ways.

Does this help? Let me know if I've been unclear. We're in the same boat, so I definitely don't claim what I say is authoritative, but I have made a few friends, and one of the key discoveries for me was that it's important to build love (which after all turns acquaintances into friends). Don't be shy about arranging social events yourself (that was another thing I had to learn).

Later,

Izza

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Join the army.

You'll still know your fellas long after quitting.

 

[Don Corleone]

no man i have noticed the same trend. the better i make myself, the further away from my friends i become.

Part of this reason i think is not only jealousy, but it is due to the fact that i dont smoke, drink, and do drugs every night like they all do. i actually have respect for my body.

just work through this time in your life. there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and when you get there, you will have friends, and they will be worth the wait.

 

[escobar04]

I have like 3 real friends and one of them really helps

I called him like at 2 am when I got dumped and he made me feel a lot better

nowadays I return the favor

...and you can't be by yourself in tough times, you have to tell somebody that will listen

 

[onthepath]

i'm having the same problems also
i've found that i've got heaps of people to hang out with at uni, but not many ppl i can call up on the weekend to do something with

but the thing i'm starting to realise is, to make a good friend you have to find someone who is similar to you and wants to maintain a friendship. i've wasted a sh!t load of time trying to be friends with losers because i thought i was one of them

but not anymore...i'm definitley gonna have to make some solid friends. keep me posted P-E

 

[Keeper]

Ok, I know this isn't gonna sound good, but I suggest you become friends with an AFC.

The problem with most guys that aren't AFC's, be they DJ or not, is that they aren't the friend material.

And how do you become friends with an AFC? Not by lowering yourself down to his level, but by bringing him up. Eish, my best buddy in the world now was a train wreck when I first met him. But after going through so much change with him, it's impossible not to create that meaningful bond.

This is that kind of bond that makes people think you're gay. Coz you get drunk and cry on each others shoulders screaming: "I love you man!" And then talking about how you'd give your life for the guy! For hours!

Beautiful thing. :-D

Haha. Just my rant for today. Haha

 

[bullmoose]

Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Join the army.

You'll still know your fellas long after quitting.

This is true. My brothers from the Marines are still my closest friends, although I might see a couple of them once or twice a year, and some are just email contacts at this point. I would do anything for those @ssh0les.

Somehow, the high-fivin', pseudo-gang-signin' frat guy bull$#!+ I was exposed to in college just doesn't compare.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

guys you all are wonderful...thank you for the replies..

hey keeper, bro, do you actually want to know something? bringing up afcs is actually, haha, what I do all the time! I mean, I always help other guys out, and even in the clubs, I am always the life of the damn thing, and I pull girls to the dance floor left and right and I always take girls and give them to my boys, and I even hook other guys up I dont even know just for the hell of it, not really because I am trying to make someone be my friend, but because I just enjoy helping guys with girls, because I KNOOWWW how it feels to think that no girl wants you...

Maybe I am just thinking I dont have real friends, or maybe its true....I dont know....but guys, I will continue to keep my positive attitude, continue screwing girls, getting money, and watching my career grow, and if I get a real friend, well......maybe then I could go out and help other guys get friends, because I would then KNOOWW how it feels to think you dont have any friends...haha.